Is being cruel to be kind bad manners?
published by Amal on 12 November, 2008 - 14:03
As'salaamu 'alaykum,
Mukhlid ibn al-Husain (ra) once said,
'We are more in need of acquiring adab than learning Hadith'
Having adab encompases all the good traits and character that we, as muslims, must develop and kindle within ourselves and within our lives. Everything from eating, to greeting and interacting with others.
So, we are asked not to be undeservedly harsh with others, and develop a character of mercy and kindness. Should we always use a gentle approach? But when is a soft approach required with others? When is (or should) a hard approach required? Do not some situations require you to be hard? Is being hard on others indicative of (our) lack of adab?
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