Yeah we don't know what we'd do in that situation... I think I'd forgive him and do my best to make things right. But a piece of your heart must break... so things would be different. But I'd do my best to make my marriage work.

However when you think about it, if both people go out of their way to make each other happy then there shouldn't be a problem in the first place or at least things shouldn't get that bad. But I don't think that's always the case, if the couple aren't compatible or both partners not as happy then there most likely will be problems. I know loads of girls in unhappy marriages and I blame their parents for not listening to their kids.

In your above example, it would take a real man to go back to his wife after such humiliation, I would of thought that would cause more tension between the couple. I'm not sure if I'd do that as I don't think it would make me feel any better.

"Imaani" wrote:

In your above example, it would take a real man to go back to his wife after such humilliation, .

Sometimes, its not about being a 'real man'...in the guys case - well he was a illegal immigrant who was also a househusband, so he was pretty much homeless without her.

And in the woman's case, she has three kids to think about.

Its always sad when couples are forced to stay together - not cos they want to but cos of the situation.

are you girls crazy?! i would never take him back after he did all that, not a chance in hell! i'd screw him for every penny he has and will never look back.

Really? But Noorie nothing in life is supposed to be easy, all of our problems have their reasons right.

Why would you want his money? I know someone who has recently got divorced and wanted as much as she could get. I can understand getting back what you put in, but why extra of his money. Whatever you buy with it wouldn't it remind you of him? Wouldn't your new car or fantastic holiday be down to him? If someone hurt me I'd rather just wash my hands of him and just get on with my own life.

"Noor" wrote:

are you girls crazy?! i would never take him back after he did all that, not a chance in hell! i'd screw him for every penny he has and will never look back.

You dont understand how the mind works do you? you hold no concept whatsoever.

revenge sister, revenge [size=7]yes i know revenge is haram but...[/size]

Noor, never say never.

I think whatever 'revenge' you take for being screwed over, nothing will make the pain go away and nothing with change what he did.

If however, I felt that I found it impossible to forgive, forget and love him again, I wouldnt stick it out just for the sake of it. However, one doesnt know how they might feel unless their in that situation.

I don't think I'd be able to stick it out just for the sake of it. You're only human, surely there's a limit to how much crap you can take. Plus, what if you had kids, I think they can see through all that and it would prob have major effect on them.

if u had kidz then 100% defo should u separate. the kids will suffer big time regardless of how much u try to hide it, they will see through it.

"Noor" wrote:

if u had kidz then 100% defo should u separate. the kids will suffer big time regardless of how much u try to hide it, they will see through it.

It wont be anything near to what you suffer.

Both people need to be working on relationship, not just one. To make it work.

"Seraphim" wrote:

"Noor" wrote:

if u had kidz then 100% defo should u separate. the kids will suffer big time regardless of how much u try to hide it, they will see through it.

It wont be anything near to what you suffer.

you'd be surprised.

"Noor" wrote:

"Seraphim" wrote:

"Noor" wrote:

if u had kidz then 100% defo should u separate. the kids will suffer big time regardless of how much u try to hide it, they will see through it.

It wont be anything near to what you suffer.

you'd be surprised.

no i wouldnt.

everyone's different.

"Noor" wrote:

everyone's different.

yes

everyones experiences are different.