Girlfriend kills Muslim lovers pregnant wife

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[size=18][b] Girlfriend guilty of wife murder[/b][/size]

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A student has been found guilty of murdering the pregnant wife of her secret boyfriend.[/b]

Harmohinder Sanghera, 23, of Solihull, West Midlands, stabbed 17-year-old Sana Ali 42 times in a "ferocious" attack at her home in Bury, Greater Manchester.

She had been having an affair with Mrs Ali's husband, Sair Ali, who is 25.

Manchester Crown Court heard Sanghera killed Mrs Ali after Sair Ali lied about his wife and her pregnancy. Sanghera has been jailed for life.
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'Extreme distress'[/b]

The dentistry student was ordered to serve at least 14 years before being considered for release.

In sentencing, Judge John Saunders told Sanghera: "She (Sana) was trying to make her marriage work and she was 11 weeks pregnant at the time of her death, a fact of which you were well aware.

"You waited until you could be sure nobody was in the house. You tried to disguise her death as suicide. That was unsuccessful because she fought to save her life."

He said of Sanghera: "The degree of distress that she was acting under was extreme."

The court heard that the murder was "born of jealousy and desperation" after Mr Ali lied about his marriage, and then his wife fell pregnant.

Mr and Mrs Ali were cousins and their marriage was planned from childhood.

Sanghera met Mr Ali through mutual friends in 2005, but he did not tell her he was engaged and used their different religions - Mr Ali is Muslim and Sanghera a Sikh - as a reason for them not to be married.

Earlier this year, after Sanghera found out he was married, the court heard she agreed to be his "second" wife.

They entered into a relationship referred to as a "Mu'ta" - a temporary form of marriage for a certain period of time, which was due to run out days after Sanghera killed Mrs Ali in her home.

She travelled from her West Midlands home on 11 May 2007 when she knew Mrs Ali would be alone.

Mrs Ali let her into her home and upstairs Sanghera stabbed her 42 times, inflicting a deep wound to her abdomen while doing so. Both mother and child died at the house.

Det Supt Jane Antrobus, of Greater Manchester Police, said: "This is an absolutely tragic case.

"Sanghera was jealous and desperate and went to incredible lengths to try to save her relationship the result of which was this horrific murder."

Mr Ali said: "When we were told of Sana's death it ripped our hearts apart. We were in shock and disbelief.

"The loneliness and emptiness in our hearts and lives are indescribable."
Story from BBC NEWS:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/go/pr/fr/-/1/hi/england/manchester/7116731.stm

Published: 2007/11/29 14:21:49 GMT

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Imaani — Mon, 3 Dec 2007 - 22:59

Yeah we don't know what we'd do in that situation... I think I'd forgive him and do my best to make things right. But a piece of your heart must break... so things would be different. But I'd do my best to make my marriage work.

However when you think about it, if both people go out of their way to make each other happy then there shouldn't be a problem in the first place or at least things shouldn't get that bad. But I don't think that's always the case, if the couple aren't compatible or both partners not as happy then there most likely will be problems. I know loads of girls in unhappy marriages and I blame their parents for not listening to their kids.

In your above example, it would take a real man to go back to his wife after such humiliation, I would of thought that would cause more tension between the couple. I'm not sure if I'd do that as I don't think it would make me feel any better.

MuslimSister — Mon, 3 Dec 2007 - 23:05

[quote="Imaani"]

In your above example, it would take a real man to go back to his wife after such humilliation, .[/quote]

Sometimes, its not about being a 'real man'...in the guys case - well he was a illegal immigrant who was also a househusband, so he was pretty much homeless without her.

And in the woman's case, she has three kids to think about.

Its always sad when couples are forced to stay together - not cos they want to but cos of the situation.

Imaani — Mon, 3 Dec 2007 - 23:12

Really? But Noorie nothing in life is supposed to be easy, all of our problems have their reasons right.

Why would you want his money? I know someone who has recently got divorced and wanted as much as she could get. I can understand getting back what you put in, but why extra of his money. Whatever you buy with it wouldn't it remind you of him? Wouldn't your new car or fantastic holiday be down to him? If someone hurt me I'd rather just wash my hands of him and just get on with my own life.

Funzo — Mon, 3 Dec 2007 - 23:15

[quote="Noor"]are you girls crazy?! i would never take him back after he did all that, not a chance in hell! i'd screw him for every penny he has and will never look back.[/quote]
You dont understand how the mind works do you? you hold no concept whatsoever.

MuslimSister — Mon, 3 Dec 2007 - 23:15

Noor, never say never.

I think whatever 'revenge' you take for being screwed over, nothing will make the pain go away and nothing with change what he did.

If however, I felt that I found it impossible to forgive, forget and love him again, I wouldnt stick it out just for the sake of it. However, one doesnt know how they might feel unless their in that situation.

Imaani — Mon, 3 Dec 2007 - 23:28

I don't think I'd be able to stick it out just for the sake of it. You're only human, surely there's a limit to how much crap you can take. Plus, what if you had kids, I think they can see through all that and it would prob have major effect on them.

Seraphim — Mon, 3 Dec 2007 - 23:40

[quote="Noor"]if u had kidz then 100% defo should u separate. the kids will suffer big time regardless of how much u try to hide it, they will see through it.[/quote]

It wont be anything near to what you suffer.

Both people need to be working on relationship, not just one. To make it work.

Noor — Mon, 3 Dec 2007 - 23:44

[quote="Seraphim"][quote="Noor"]if u had kidz then 100% defo should u separate. the kids will suffer big time regardless of how much u try to hide it, they will see through it.[/quote]

It wont be anything near to what you suffer.[/quote]

you'd be surprised.

Seraphim — Mon, 3 Dec 2007 - 23:48

[quote="Noor"][quote="Seraphim"][quote="Noor"]if u had kidz then 100% defo should u separate. the kids will suffer big time regardless of how much u try to hide it, they will see through it.[/quote]

It wont be anything near to what you suffer.[/quote]

you'd be surprised.[/quote]

no i wouldnt.