"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:

who'd wnat their parents to be teaching them such stuff

what u on Siris :roll:

lol exactly, there is a certain barrier that should be maintained when it comes to a subject like this, i believe it shouldnt be done so freely as i respect my parents very much and i can't talk about such a subject with them be it dad or mum.

"Angel" wrote:

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:

who'd wnat their parents to be teaching them such stuff

what u on Siris :roll:

lol exactly, there is a certain barrier that should be maintained when it comes to a subject like this, i believe it shouldnt be done so freely as i respect my parents very much and i can't talk about such a subject with them be it dad or mum.

sirus might be right to a certain extent. it's still a taboo in muslim families but maybe by our kids' generation this would have changed. parents should be open enough with their kids to answer such questions if they arise.

So *Dust* you believe parents should teach children this sensitive subject?

What's wrong with teachers teaching this....it's not like they're gonna lie or anything. There's also load of books out there and the internet so one can educate themselves.

"Muslim Bro" wrote:

So *Dust* you believe parents should teach children this sensitive subject?

not go out of their way to 'teach', i said they should 'be open enough to answer questions if they arise' - there's a big difference.

"Muslim Bro" wrote:

What's wrong with teachers teaching this....it's not like they're gonna lie or anything. There's also load of books out there and the internet so one can educate themselves.

oh come on do you even need the answer to that question?! muslimsis has made it clear that lessons in school start from a ridiculously early age. and the islamic manner of teaching the subject would be very different - where is the hayaa in being taught in a co-ed class?

Yeah ok I see where you're coming from.

From an islamic view it would be wrong.

erm... i went to a state school not muslim, just normal comprehensive. We were separated, the teachers weren't muslim either lol. They just realised there were too many immature lads, and the lessons would do better if we were separate. So sex education was taught separately.

I think there's still this taboo amongst asians not to talk about sex. Yes modesty should be maintained. But non muslims would also want to maintain modesty. I don't think there's anything wrong with a mother teaching her daughter or a father teaching his son about this subject. In fact it's their duty to give the Islamic perspective. It's not haram to give out this sort of knowledge at the right age.

When ppl require religious advice even if it's of a sexual nature brothers and sisters are always asked to lose the embarrassment, ask the question rather than sin because of ignorance. If you ever join a alim/alima course be prepared for such embarrassments, you'll have to get used to it.

It can be supplemented with state school education, but we shouldn't assume state school ed is sufficient. They tend to give a rather biological and matter of the fact view, and in some cases even encourage kids without realising..i mean free contraceptives to a 12 yr old?

It can also be supplemented with books but books alone are no good. Most kids won't bother reading them. I never read them. I wouldn't use the internet for this subject it's too vast, and your child may link onto erm lets say unsavoury websites by accident.

I wouldn't have wanted my parents teaching me this sort of stuff, but that's only because i've never been close to my parents ,that i felt i could tell them everything, like i do with friends. However nowadays parents are more frank with their kids. They make an effort to be friends, so it's a lot easier to give this sort of education without the child feeling embarrassed.

"yashmaki" wrote:

erm... i went to a state school not muslim, just normal comprehensive. We were separated, the teachers weren't muslim either lol. They just realised there were too many immature lads, and the lessons would do better if we were separate. So sex education was taught separately.

We were taught separately aswell.

I thought it was part of the curriculum to teach boys and girls separately.

naahhh i was more like Fort Knox