My cousin is getting married after ramzan and its a love marriage, my sister is getting married a month later also love marriage. As a 17 year old muslim student just wanted to know like is that is love marriage haram and wrong?
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it is haraam
-only joking :twisted:
marraige itself is not haraam
how they got together (and if they crossed the limits in Islam) would be wrong/haraam
liking someone and wanting to get married to them aint wrong
dating/crossing the line etc is wrong
yes i agree with lil sis on that,how the boy and girl meet matters,to have a love marriage you obviously have to have a relationship with the person first,which isnt allowed!
Actions speak louder than words!
not neccesarily
maybe u just like them and admire them from afar
maybe,but you cant love a person for their looks only,its their personality that gets you,so most love marriages do happen coz the couple met b4 getting married
Actions speak louder than words!
so what if they did?
Prophet (pbuh) ENCOURAGED people to meet before marraige
meet once lil sis,that dont mean its ok for them to start a relationship,or meet up regularly!
Actions speak louder than words!
they can meet as many times as they want-where does it say u can ONLY meet once? :roll:
i would never in a million years marry someone after meeting him for 15 min once
if ur gonna be spending the rest of ur life with someone-it makes sense that u get to know them in a HALAAL manner before jumping into marraige
We have a cave woman amongst us!
the answer to this has been sufficiently covered in Issue 3
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
LOL
if people wanna jump into marraige with their eyes closed and only see the future partner ONCE and can feel confident enough to spend the rest of their life with them then thats good for them
with the rise in divorce these days-I have to be 101% certain about someone before I can say "I DO"
well the level of divorce is most commen in ppl who have had love marraiges,sit and think about that!
Actions speak louder than words!
rise in divorce rate is cos of COMPATABILITY issues
stupid men and women dont even know the person they getting married to
hardly no one bothers to find out what their future partner is like
be it via arranged marraige or love marraige
Salam
Why do you call it a love marriage ?
Please do tell us exactly what have they been doing which you cared to call "LOVE" ?
Go on, describe it for us.
But please avoid the unnecessary gritty details.
Just say they went into the bush. We will get the rest.
Omrow
i'd be worried if they wernt in love and were getting married
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
1st of all lilsis, a "LOVE" marriage is normally when a guy n girl meet somewhere, n the parents dunt kno. They meet alone, they date, with no third person to assist them only shaytaan. N then they wish to be married, that is a love marriage.
Now a normal, or rather, an arranged marriage is where, the parents find someone, and they meet, with a 3rd person present, (preferably not shaytaan).
Then when they meet like this a few times, 10 times, 20 times, as long as a 3rd person of authority is present, and they are jus talkin n gettn to kno each other, n then they decide to marry, this is not a love marraige.
Now, a "LOVE" marriage marriage with shaytaan as the cheuffer is not good. But the actual marriage is not haraam, it is good that they realised that they were doin wrong, and want to marry. But we must steer clear from a potential "LOVE" marriage.
_____________- -SupeRazor- -_______________
Some ppl make their goals the stars.
They may live n die n never reach the stars,
but in the darkness of the night, those stars will guide them to their destination.
Becuz they made them in their eyesight
What about us then Razor? :oops:
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
while the dating bit is haraam, if they have already gone through that bit, the marriage is allowed. It is probably something that should be done quickly so as to avoid any firther sinning.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
well said razor!
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cave women? what who u referring 2 lilsis
i agree with razor, but u can fall in LOVE without ever having seen a person right
no, it wasnt you nor her
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
i see u just happened to IMAGINE 1 right?
Technically i suppose, but the whole concept of love marriage is when 2 ppl meet n fall in love etc. It starts off as a physical attraction.
But i dont beleive its love, i dont believe that 2 people can be in "LOVE" without actually being married. The "love" felt between a guy n girl b4 marriage i beleve is jus a physical thing, n it builts up n its jus lust.
_____________- -SupeRazor- -_______________
Some ppl make their goals the stars.
They may live n die n never reach the stars,
but in the darkness of the night, those stars will guide them to their destination.
Becuz they made them in their eyesight
hey in my point of view i think that love marriage is haram because islam forbids any relationship between two people because they can never just have a "LOVE" relationship without doin things which islam doesnt allow. so its haram
Learn To Love The People Who Are Willing To Love You At Present. Forget The People In The Past & Thank Them For Hurting You, Which Lead You To Love The People You Have Right Now..
The marriage is not haraam. The actions leading up to it perhaps are depending on whats been going on.
One thing should be made clear, those who do love marriage, the marriage ITSELF is the correct course of action that they take after the initial wrong steps.
Having said that, there are instances when love even before the marriage can happen with no wrong action being undertaken. Perhaps those who know, know and those who dont understand wont understand what it is that Im saying.
The other thing you need to look at is short-term and long-term. In the long-term the marriage is definitely the best action because that is the remedy to the short-term problem.
Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar
I DISAGREE
a love marriage aint ALWAYS when the girl and boy have linked up and dated behind parents back :roll:
i know many people who "loved" one another frm afar-
never met/spoke on the phoe etc but loved each others character
and IMO a NORMAL marrige is when the girl and boy like one another and are more then happy with the marriage
well said
good to know that not everyone is a caveman
i agree with razor! love marriage can not be called a love marriage if you see a girl and fall in love with her/see her from afar etc,thats called lust any way coz you fall for the girls image not personality!
Actions speak louder than words!
thing is noone will call it lust marriage. so its called love marriage.
So it can be 'love' at first sight, followed by a 'love' marriage.
However it a GOOD THING that the people are getting married.
It means they will not sin, or if they have, they will stop sinning.
Besides Marriage is the Sunnah of the Prophet(saw).
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
if its done according to the sunnah of the prophet (p.b.u.h)
Actions speak louder than words!
marriage is sunnah no matter what is done around it. The acts done around it may be wrong, but you cannot ever condemn marriage.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
Salaam
It’s incorrect to claim that all those people who have “love marriages” have done haraam things before getting together.
As the Admin has pointed out, in many cases these so called “love marriages” are in actual fact “lust marriages”….and the reason why many of them end in divorce is mainly because the two people involved were too busy staring into each others eyes and didn’t bother to find out what the person they have fallen for is really like…
For some absurd reason people just have a massive issue if the marriage is not arranged by the parents…they think that every other kind of get together is forbidden by Islam.
There is nothing wrong with liking/having feelings for the person before one gets married to them….one does not necessarily have to secretly meet up alone with someone to have feelings for them…..
Hadrat Khatija (ra) was so impressed with the characteristics of the person that she had employed that she sent Him a proposal for marriage….and no one can claim that she was in the wrong to do that.
Wasalaam
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