Is love marriage haram?

it is haraam

-only joking :twisted:

marraige itself is not haraam

how they got together (and if they crossed the limits in Islam) would be wrong/haraam

liking someone and wanting to get married to them aint wrong

dating/crossing the line etc is wrong

yes i agree with lil sis on that,how the boy and girl meet matters,to have a love marriage you obviously have to have a relationship with the person first,which isnt allowed!

[quote="MastKuri"]to have a love marriage you obviously have to have a relationship with the person first,which isnt allowed![/quote]

not neccesarily

maybe u just like them and admire them from afar

maybe,but you cant love a person for their looks only,its their personality that gets you,so most love marriages do happen coz the couple met b4 getting married

[quote="MastKuri"]so most love marriages do happen coz the couple met b4 getting married[/quote]

so what if they did?

Prophet (pbuh) ENCOURAGED people to meet before marraige

meet once lil sis,that dont mean its ok for them to start a relationship,or meet up regularly!

[quote="MastKuri"]meet once lil sis,that dont mean its ok for them to start a relationship,or meet up regularly![/quote]

they can meet as many times as they want-where does it say u can ONLY meet once? :roll:

i would never in a million years marry someone after meeting him for 15 min once

if ur gonna be spending the rest of ur life with someone-it makes sense that u get to know them in a HALAAL manner before jumping into marraige

We have a cave woman amongst us!

the answer to this has been sufficiently covered in Issue 3

LOL

if people wanna jump into marraige with their eyes closed and only see the future partner ONCE and can feel confident enough to spend the rest of their life with them then thats good for them

with the rise in divorce these days-I have to be 101% certain about someone before I can say "I DO"

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]LOL

if people wanna jump into marraige with their eyes closed and only see the future partner ONCE and can feel confident enough to spend the rest of their life with them then thats good for them

with the rise in divorce these days-I have to be 101% certain about someone before I can say "I DO"[/quote]
well the level of divorce is most commen in ppl who have had love marraiges,sit and think about that!

rise in divorce rate is cos of COMPATABILITY issues

stupid men and women dont even know the person they getting married to

hardly no one bothers to find out what their future partner is like

be it via arranged marraige or love marraige

Salam

[quote="salak"]My cousin is getting married after ramzan and its a love marriage, my sister is getting married a month later also love marriage[/quote]

Why do you call it a love marriage ?

Please do tell us exactly what have they been doing which you cared to call "LOVE" ?

Go on, describe it for us.

But please avoid the unnecessary gritty details.

Just say they went into the bush. We will get the rest.

Omrow

i'd be worried if they wernt in love and were getting married 😂

1st of all lilsis, a "LOVE" marriage is normally when a guy n girl meet somewhere, n the parents dunt kno. They meet alone, they date, with no third person to assist them only shaytaan. N then they wish to be married, that is a love marriage.

Now a normal, or rather, an arranged marriage is where, the parents find someone, and they meet, with a 3rd person present, (preferably not shaytaan).

Then when they meet like this a few times, 10 times, 20 times, as long as a 3rd person of authority is present, and they are jus talkin n gettn to kno each other, n then they decide to marry, this is not a love marraige.

Now, a "LOVE" marriage marriage with shaytaan as the cheuffer is not good. But the actual marriage is not haraam, it is good that they realised that they were doin wrong, and want to marry. But we must steer clear from a potential "LOVE" marriage.

What about us then Razor? :oops:

while the dating bit is haraam, if they have already gone through that bit, the marriage is allowed. It is probably something that should be done quickly so as to avoid any firther sinning.

[quote="razor"]1st of all lilsis, a "LOVE" marriage is normally when a guy n girl meet somewhere, n the parents dunt kno. They meet alone, they date, with no third person to assist them only shaytaan. N then they wish to be married, that is a love marriage.

Now a normal, or rather, an arranged marriage is where, the parents find someone, and they meet, with a 3rd person present, (preferably not shaytaan).

Then when they meet like this a few times, 10 times, 20 times, as long as a 3rd person of authority is present, and they are jus talkin n gettn to kno each other, n then they decide to marry, this is not a love marraige.

Now, a "LOVE" marriage marriage with shaytaan as the cheuffer is not good. But the actual marriage is not haraam, it is good that they realised that they were doin wrong, and want to marry. But we must steer clear from a potential "LOVE" marriage.[/quote]
well said razor!

[quote="Darth V-Hayder"]We have a cave woman amongst us!

[/quote]

cave women? what who u referring 2 lilsis

i agree with razor, but u can fall in LOVE without ever having seen a person right

no, it wasnt you nor her

[quote="Darth V-Hayder"]no, it wasnt you nor her[/quote]

i see u just happened to IMAGINE 1 right?

[quote="naj"][quote="Darth V-Hayder"]We have a cave woman amongst us!

[/quote]

cave women? what who u referring 2 lilsis

i agree with razor, but u can fall in LOVE without ever having seen a person right[/quote]

Technically i suppose, but the whole concept of love marriage is when 2 ppl meet n fall in love etc. It starts off as a physical attraction.

But i dont beleive its love, i dont believe that 2 people can be in "LOVE" without actually being married. The "love" felt between a guy n girl b4 marriage i beleve is jus a physical thing, n it builts up n its jus lust.

hey in my point of view i think that love marriage is haram because islam forbids any relationship between two people because they can never just have a "LOVE" relationship without doin things which islam doesnt allow. so its haram

The marriage is not haraam. The actions leading up to it perhaps are depending on whats been going on.

One thing should be made clear, those who do love marriage, the marriage ITSELF is the correct course of action that they take after the initial wrong steps.

Having said that, there are instances when love even before the marriage can happen with no wrong action being undertaken. Perhaps those who know, know and those who dont understand wont understand what it is that Im saying.

The other thing you need to look at is short-term and long-term. In the long-term the marriage is definitely the best action because that is the remedy to the short-term problem.

[quote="razor"]1st of all lilsis, a "LOVE" marriage is normally when a guy n girl meet somewhere, n the parents dunt kno. They meet alone, they date, with no third person to assist them only shaytaan. N then they wish to be married, that is a love marriage.

Now a normal, or rather, an arranged marriage is where, the parents find someone, and they meet, with a 3rd person present, (preferably not shaytaan).

Then when they meet like this a few times, 10 times, 20 times, as long as a 3rd person of authority is present, and they are jus talkin n gettn to kno each other, n then they decide to marry, this is not a love marraige.

Now, a "LOVE" marriage marriage with shaytaan as the cheuffer is not good. But the actual marriage is not haraam, it is good that they realised that they were doin wrong, and want to marry. But we must steer clear from a potential "LOVE" marriage.[/quote]

I DISAGREE

a love marriage aint ALWAYS when the girl and boy have linked up and dated behind parents back :roll:

i know many people who "loved" one another frm afar-

never met/spoke on the phoe etc but loved each others character

and IMO a NORMAL marrige is when the girl and boy like one another and are more then happy with the marriage

[quote="Darth V-Hayder"]i'd be worried if they wernt in love and were getting married :lol:[/quote]

well said

good to know that not everyone is a caveman

[quote="razor"]1st of all lilsis, a "LOVE" marriage is normally when a guy n girl meet somewhere, n the parents dunt kno. They meet alone, they date, with no third person to assist them only shaytaan. N then they wish to be married, that is a love marriage.

Now a normal, or rather, an arranged marriage is where, the parents find someone, and they meet, with a 3rd person present, (preferably not shaytaan).

Then when they meet like this a few times, 10 times, 20 times, as long as a 3rd person of authority is present, and they are jus talkin n gettn to kno each other, n then they decide to marry, this is not a love marraige.

Now, a "LOVE" marriage marriage with shaytaan as the cheuffer is not good. But the actual marriage is not haraam, it is good that they realised that they were doin wrong, and want to marry. But we must steer clear from a potential "LOVE" marriage.[/quote]

i agree with razor! love marriage can not be called a love marriage if you see a girl and fall in love with her/see her from afar etc,thats called lust any way coz you fall for the girls image not personality!

thing is noone will call it lust marriage. so its called love marriage.

So it can be 'love' at first sight, followed by a 'love' marriage.

However it a GOOD THING that the people are getting married.

It means they will not sin, or if they have, they will stop sinning.

Besides Marriage is the Sunnah of the Prophet(saw).

[quote="Admin"]
Besides Marriage is the Sunnah of the Prophet(saw).[/quote]
if its done according to the sunnah of the prophet (p.b.u.h)

marriage is sunnah no matter what is done around it. The acts done around it may be wrong, but you cannot ever condemn marriage.

Salaam

It’s incorrect to claim that all those people who have “love marriages” have done haraam things before getting together.

As the Admin has pointed out, in many cases these so called “love marriages” are in actual fact “lust marriages”….and the reason why many of them end in divorce is mainly because the two people involved were too busy staring into each others eyes and didn’t bother to find out what the person they have fallen for is really like…

For some absurd reason people just have a massive issue if the marriage is not arranged by the parents…they think that every other kind of get together is forbidden by Islam.

There is nothing wrong with liking/having feelings for the person before one gets married to them….one does not necessarily have to secretly meet up alone with someone to have feelings for them…..

Hadrat Khatija (ra) was so impressed with the characteristics of the person that she had employed that she sent Him a proposal for marriage….and no one can claim that she was in the wrong to do that.

Wasalaam