Salaam! 
September 4th: Factors that Prevent Du'as from Being Answered
One of the greatest trials that a muslim might be afflicted with is that his du'a is not answered. Hence why the prophet 
would pray to Allah that his du'a not be amongst those du'as that are not responded to. In particular he(saw) would pray: "O Allah! I seek your refuge from knowledge that is without benefit, and from a heart that does not become fearful,and from a du'a that is not responded to!"
So the prophet(saw) would make du'a that his du'a be answered!
1. Haram Sustenance
2. Sins
3. Leaving Advice to Others
Part of one's iman is that one loves for one's brother what he loves for himself. This necessitates one's wanting good for one's brother and averting evil from him. So when one sees one's brother doing something that is not allowed, it becomes obligatory on one to try to prevent him, evn if he has to do so physically (if one is able to do so without any harm or adverse consequences). Similarly one has to advise and exhort him to do good deeds if he is being lax in performing them. The prophet(saw) said: " I swear by Him in whose Hands is my soul, you will of a surety command what is good, and forbid what is evil, or else it is very possible that Allah will send upon you His punishment, so you will make du'a to Him, and you will not be responded to."
4. Being Hasty
5. Becoming Tired
6. Asking for Something Prohibited
7. A man married to an evil woman
One who gave a loan but did not take precautions
And a man who gave his money to a fool
These three catgories of people in the following hadith: "Three people will make du'as, bu they will not be answered! (The first is) a man who had under him (in marriage) a woman who had an evil character, yet he did not divorce her. (The second is) a man who gave some money as a debt to another man, yet he did not use any witnesses. (The third is) a man wo gave his money to a fool, even though Allah says ' And do not give fools your money.'"
First case: A woman with lax morals. If this is the case and the man cannot correct her, then she should be divorced. If he does not divorce her, then he exposes himself to Allah's anger and his du'as are not responded to.
Second case: A person who is not wise in giving loans. He gives loans to people who are not trustworthy and on top of that he does not take the necessary precautions (2 witnesses). This ensures that no dispute arises if the two parties disagree about the amount of the loan.
Third case: A person who is not responsible with his money and enters in dealings with someone who is not wise or experienced in that area.
8. Abandoning the Etiquette of Du'a
A famous worshipper was once asked 'Why is it that we make du'a yet they are not responded to?'
He replied:
"Because you know Allah, yet do no obey Him
And you know that Prophet(saw) , but do not follow his sunnah
And you know the Quran, but do not act upon it
And you eat from the blessings of Allah, but you do not express gratitude for it
And you know Paradise, yet do not strive for it
And you know the Fire of Hell, yet do not run away from it
And you know Shaytan, but you do not fight him, and instead obey him
And you know death, but you do not prepare yourselves for it
And you bury the dead, but do not learn a lesson from it
And you have left your own faults, and instead busy yourself with the faults of others
EDIT: Next Chapter inshAllah - Chapter 11 The Wisdom behind a delayed response
Wa alaikum as salam
Jazakallah khair. Learnt quite a few new things from this one
The last bit especially got to me, subhanallah! May Allah let us not fall into the category of those who's duas are not accepted. Ameen
Lets reunite the ummah under one flag LA ILAHA IL ALLAH MUHAMMADUR RASULULLAH
Ameen
"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"
I looooveee this one even more!
especially the advicing one, i think we should all make this part of our new goals/objectives in life. we see SO many muslims around us yet dont feel any kind of "brother/sisterhood" and we wonder why...we still consider those people total and random strangers when we should be considering them like brothers and issters! (hence the advsing) we (the muslim ummah) would become so much STRONGER if we just ADVICED each other.
common, what's the worst that can be? think seriously about this question, what IS the worse? not much right?
part 13
part 15
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
I did think about this point whilst I was writing. Didnt think it was a such a strong duty that it would prevent du'as from being answered. The worst tht could happen? i dnt knw
"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"
its actually really hard. really really quite hard.
...
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
+1 and not just hard, can also get really annoying at times.
I know it's our duty to share knowledge and encourage others to do good but lately i've been finding it hard, with friends and family that is. Sometimes you get the feeling they just don't wanna hear it anymore and and they start to think you're 'on a high horse', that you think you're better than them.
Other times when i don't say anything or don't ask people to come masjid with me they also complain, like i'm being selfish etc. In the end i get discouraged and don't bother, you can't please them either way.
......but it is our duty, if we keep in mind it's for the sake of Allah and we give nasiha with hikma insha Allah they will be given hidayat. We're here to please Allah so we should do what we think is best and what will please Allah swt.
May Allah guide us all. Ameen
Lets reunite the ummah under one flag LA ILAHA IL ALLAH MUHAMMADUR RASULULLAH
true say, but i havent actually ever tried with family, i was more talking about the odd random strangeress on the bus. (...Lillyblonde moments..)
and yeah..that feeling they've already heard it, thats very real, very real indeed.
and if its about the masjid, just give a shout out 5 mins before you leave - "im going massssjiiid in fiiiivee" and another one (usually Assalaamu'alaikoum, see you later) before you leave. that should get you out of that tricky situation...
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What do you say to strangers?
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
Thanks for the advice, defo gonna use it, atleast my part will be done insha Allah
Oh and with the strangers i really find it hard to approach anyome to give them dawah. Thing is i have friends that just do it so easily all the time even if they know very little. That's when i can start talking, when people are allready on the topic, even then most of the time i like to observe first. Yup i'm not much of a conversation starter :oops:
Lets reunite the ummah under one flag LA ILAHA IL ALLAH MUHAMMADUR RASULULLAH
Isn't that dangerous?
I wouldn't start a convo about Islam, with a stranger because:
a) It can be annoying and create the wrong effect on a person - random strangers being all religious and trying to convert them?! 'Freak!'
b)I don't have enough knowledge myself.
If someone questioned me then I'd answer them as best as I could, obviously.
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
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"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"
i dont think you should start making dawah if you dont have some kind of basic knowledge.
i was talking about random MUSLIM stranger. which should really be an oxymoron, like advising a sis that her neck is showing, or that its not good to have that huge bump on her scarf, or wear trousers with headscarves. We all go round tututing at girls in the wrong hijaab but there's NO ONE who has the guts to SAY anything. have we chosen the lowest level of Imaan without even trying to aim for anything higher? the hadith that goes when a believer sees a wrong he shouldchange it with his hand, if he cannot, with his tongue, if he cannot, disaprove it with his heart, and that is the lowest level of Imaan" paraphrasing from memory here though. so! we've chosen to do the heart thing (if we even DO anything at all...) and feel discharge of any responsibility? Is that the kind of muslims we are?
(this is where you all say in chorus "no we're not!!")
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There is differences of opinion and preferences.
like I would sya there is nothing intrinsically wrong with wearing trousers or doing the hair ina certain way where it is raised or whatever (this may not be *liked* or preferred, but that does not make it haraam)
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
no trousers is baggy enough that, when worn with ashort tp, will fulfill the conditions of Hijaab. thats pretty much a fact.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
@Lilly, what's wrong with wearing trousers if u wear a scarf? I think you can do both and be modest at the same time. As for the camel hump hijab: Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said: There will be in the last of my ummah, scantily dressed women, the hair on the top of their heads like a camel’s hump. Curse them, for verily they are cursed. [At-Tabarani and Sahih Muslim]
That would imply that it IS haraam wouldnt it?
"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"
Depends on what you consider to be the conditions of hijaab... if its "cant tell that a person has legs" then I suggest that no clothing fulfills that.
My personal opinion is that as long as it is not skin tight, its fine.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
No it doesn't.
Haraam has specific requirements. like an explicit order in the qur'an.
That hadith does not mention atleast in this translated version if they would also be wearing headscarfs or not. Besides, are they cursed for their hairstyle or for being scantily clad? I would suspect the latter where the hairstyle is an aspect for recognition.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
I have to +1 on tht. There is always the option of wearing a longer top
"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"
yh, was thinking tht it doesnt actually mention that they would be wearing scarves..
But i think it is mentioned in commentary of the hadith, not sure though :/
"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"
Before the topic changes completely, i just thought i'd say i meant giving dawah to muslims too. It's true that it's hard to tell someone what they're doing is haram when most if the time they know. Just like Lilly said though, most of us just hate it in our heart and are sufficed with doing the bare minimum.
Unlike Lilly i'm gonna give the example of a less controversial issue, one where there is no doubt.
For example (this is a personal example) my friend (muslim and non-muslims) went into a corner shop and one started to put some sweets etc in his pockets and just walked out. In my head i was thinking what an idiot but i said nothing, i believe i could've stopped it if not atleast said something to him (he was non muslim). Another time it was a muslim friend who in class at college stole a laptop charger while the teacher was out. Everyone was just laughing, i sat their shaking my head lol. I ciuld've spoken to him
In private atleast. I believe all these situations are a test for me as well as them.
What about when within a group of friends (muslims) and some smoke weed, do we just hate it or do we say something and leave them. I could give so many examples.
End of the day we should do what we can and not the bare minimum. It's not about what others think about you when you say these things. As long as we do it for the sake of Allah and speak with hikmah. Especially when speaking with a fellow muslim, we should advise them withbsoft speech and not appear arrogant but we shouldn't try to sugar coat the truth. Tell them straight but think before you speak.
May Allah guide us all, increase our knowledge and let us act on our good intentions Ameen.
P.S yes little knowledge is dangerous but what we do know and understand we should teach others, it will help remind us and practice it insha Allah. Oh and is it just me or is it really hard to not come off as being arrogant when you're not trying to be. Maybe it's up to the person/s you're speaking to, if they want to listen or not etc. Allah knows best
Lets reunite the ummah under one flag LA ILAHA IL ALLAH MUHAMMADUR RASULULLAH
i specifically said SHORT top with trousers, for god's sake. trousers will NEVER be baggy at the hips area. and girls HAVE HIPS. sO IT STICKS! gaaaawwwddddd how can it NOT stick, if it doesnt, it falls OFF! :@
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in..out..in..out..u can do it!
"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"
and wouaw...being a muslim boy sounds a lot more complicated then i thought it was...yikes!
and i think, make a lot of duah to give you the "guts" to speak up. and try and speak up, try with little things and inshaaAllah Allah will give you the strength. and THE FEELING afterwards!!! PRICELESS!! PRICELESS!!
dont dwelve too much on the past though, inshaaAllah you'll get the opportunity in the future. but your mate who stole the charger, you can still talk to him.
plus i believe with advising, you try 3 times inshaaAllah and if they ignore you then your duty is done, but i need to check that up again... "your duty is done" dont mean you still hang around with them though...
i dont mind too much the speaking up, espcially with friends, but i think that's because they know me already as being a total freak, canny get any freakier, and i've had my time of being alone, so i'm not scared of that either... and if it's for the SAke of Allah it's always worth it and it will ALWAYs be alright in the end. my problem though..is the hikmah bit, cant quite grasp that concept just quite..inshaaAllah though..inshaaAllah..
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
I think he meant more along the lines of this
In case people can't tell, they're extremely baggy, and very 'in'
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
so, with a short top you cant tell the size of this girl's hips? (and bottom?)
i dont care anymore.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
(with a long top you still can - mainly because hips will be wider than the surrounding areas.)
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
True.
(@Lilly as well) Do you think you can tell off a random stranger with hikmah? I'm not sure... yep people may not be willing to listen. Or it might be cuz of the approach being used, like you said gotta do it with hikmah.
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
then maybe abaya is the best solution. if you can find an item of clothing where you can STILL tell you have two legs AND not see how wide your hips are, get it selling, all the girls will be after it!
and its not telling off, its advising, coz the person might not even know they are doing something wrong. plus its just telling your piece and moving on to whatever and wherever you were going, not having a conversation. like "hey sis, your neck is showing, salaam, take care"
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
Even with an abaya you can tell.
That is why I am suggesting that that is not a realistic metric to decide such things, but that it is something that has built up over time and may not always be realistic or possible.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
aaand we all need to remember that the abaya wasnt made up to annoy girls and be "an object of torture" it was what was thought to be the most efficient item of clothing to fulfill the intended purpose. and i KNOW, ablog of wind can lead to trouble...but i have to say its less likely and less showy then a pair of pants.
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