Advice needed, please(Weddings) (image)

Published by Isha Al-Maghribi on 22 September, 2010 - 19:32

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Submitted by zdc on 23 September, 2010 - 10:01

I kinda like the first one, why not? Too open? Yeah you right.

Between A & B, I'll take B hands down. Don't forget to send a pic after you've tried it on.

Actually they all nice, I mean the Ahmmm, models.

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Submitted by Seraphim on 23 September, 2010 - 11:31

Well... if those are the two we'd have to choose from.

Id say Option B too. altho im not to crazy about how low the neck line is :/

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Submitted by zdc on 23 September, 2010 - 13:57

Seraphim wrote:
Well... if those are the two we'd have to choose from.

Id say Option B too. altho im not to crazy about how low the neck line is :/

Who care's about neck lines these days, those things are for people who are overly pious, we don't want to be overly pious do we??

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Never have I dealt with anything more difficult than my own soul, which sometimes helps me and sometimes opposes me.
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Submitted by MuslimBro on 23 September, 2010 - 14:01

I remember someone saying that you can never be too religious.

Submitted by zdc on 23 September, 2010 - 14:08

MuslimBro wrote:
I remember someone saying that you can never be too religious.

Trying explaining that to da gals on this forum? I call them the selection panel.

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Never have I dealt with anything more difficult than my own soul, which sometimes helps me and sometimes opposes me.
-Imam Al-Ghazali

Submitted by TPOS on 23 September, 2010 - 14:08

MuslimBro wrote:
I remember someone saying that you can never be too religious.

LOL bro! i think he's being sarcastic, get with it! Blum 3
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Submitted by Seraphim on 23 September, 2010 - 14:22

zdc wrote:
Seraphim wrote:
Well... if those are the two we'd have to choose from.

Id say Option B too. altho im not to crazy about how low the neck line is :/

Who care's about neck lines these days, those things are for people who are overly pious, we don't want to be overly pious do we??

Its called having some sharam. And we should all strive to be pious if you fear the hereafter.

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Submitted by zdc on 23 September, 2010 - 14:25

Seraphim wrote:
zdc wrote:
Seraphim wrote:
Well... if those are the two we'd have to choose from.

Id say Option B too. altho im not to crazy about how low the neck line is :/

Who care's about neck lines these days, those things are for people who are overly pious, we don't want to be overly pious do we??

Its called having some sharam. And we should all strive to be pious if you fear the hereafter.

You joking right? if not, your clearly not ready to get married. The hereafter they will worry about when they get there. Right now, IT'S PARTY, PARTY, PARTY TIME!!

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Never have I dealt with anything more difficult than my own soul, which sometimes helps me and sometimes opposes me.
-Imam Al-Ghazali

Submitted by Isha Al-Maghribi on 23 September, 2010 - 17:40

zdc wrote:
Seraphim wrote:
zdc wrote:
Seraphim wrote:
Well... if those are the two we'd have to choose from.

Id say Option B too. altho im not to crazy about how low the neck line is :/

Who care's about neck lines these days, those things are for people who are overly pious, we don't want to be overly pious do we??

Its called having some sharam. And we should all strive to be pious if you fear the hereafter.

You joking right? if not, your clearly not ready to get married. The hereafter they will worry about when they get there. Right now, IT'S PARTY, PARTY, PARTY TIME!!

Ok, zdc, thanks for the advice. But, you scare me.

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Submitted by LookingToSee on 23 September, 2010 - 22:34

zdc wrote:
Seraphim wrote:
zdc wrote:
Seraphim wrote:
Well... if those are the two we'd have to choose from.

Id say Option B too. altho im not to crazy about how low the neck line is :/

Who care's about neck lines these days, those things are for people who are overly pious, we don't want to be overly pious do we??

Its called having some sharam. And we should all strive to be pious if you fear the hereafter.

You joking right? if not, your clearly not ready to get married. The hereafter they will worry about when they get there. Right now, IT'S PARTY, PARTY, PARTY TIME!!

You're an idiot. and i think i hate you now.

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Submitted by Anonymous1 (not verified) on 24 September, 2010 - 01:20

Ya, reveal it all on your wedding day.

That is the day that everyones eyes - or probably the most at amy one time - and you're losing all the basics of Islam ?.

Or is that for what you'll wear for your husband after the wedding ?

Submitted by Anonymous(66 (not verified) on 24 September, 2010 - 01:25

Cos He's using Islamic logic ?.

This site is a little lost. Surely if its aim is to be a 'revivalist' Islamic 'blog'/dunno what then it should adhere to Islamic Adhab ?.

Seems to have become a desi chat forum recently, with the token 'Masha'Allah' thrown in.

p.s the mag's great but this site is a poor reflection. Most good mags rarely have an open forum, and this should follow suit.

Submitted by feefs (not verified) on 24 September, 2010 - 01:29

Anonymous(66 wrote:
Cos He's using Islamic logic ?.

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Quote:

p.s the mag's great but this site is a poor reflection. Most good mags rarely have an open forum, and this should follow suit.

The forum does not necessarily reflect the views of the magazine (team). It gives a chance for the youth to actually have their say and learn from each other.

Submitted by Anonymous66 (not verified) on 24 September, 2010 - 11:45

and the need for semi-naked pictures ?. Surely whoever runs the forum should intervene.

Submitted by LookingToSee on 24 September, 2010 - 12:33

U guYs are assuming thaf she isnt going to hav a segragated wedding...
she's asking for advice, the guys are not being foced to look at the pictures...

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Submitted by TPOS on 24 September, 2010 - 15:42

You call that semi-naked LOL

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Submitted by LookingToSee on 24 September, 2010 - 16:46

Ocean wrote:
Can we move this in the sisters only section please?
my thought exactly...but im not sure if Isha has access to sis's section...
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Submitted by Isha Al-Maghribi on 24 September, 2010 - 21:21

Anonymous66 wrote:
and the need for semi-naked pictures ?. Surely whoever runs the forum should intervene.

sorry, I didn't really see it as a Big deal.
Probably, if you're Pakistani and this is your problem, maybe i should wear a jilbab on the wedding day? ( I'm serious)
Thank you for the advice, though, Appreciate the honesty

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Submitted by Isha Al-Maghribi on 24 September, 2010 - 21:21

Ocean wrote:
Can we move this in the sisters only section please?

Errm, i'm not sure how to...

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Love is a serious mental disease.

Submitted by Isha Al-Maghribi on 24 September, 2010 - 21:22

Lilly wrote:
U guYs are assuming thaf she isnt going to hav a segragated wedding...
she's asking for advice, the guys are not being foced to look at the pictures...

(gulp) segragated?

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Submitted by You on 24 September, 2010 - 22:28

Its an option.

Some are for it, others against.

The for segregation side think women since not in the company of men can dress up without fear of being seen by strange men.

The against side want to sit with their family.

I cna see both sides to the argument, however I do think while I am more comfortable in a segregated setting, overall this may be damaging to the community as a whole.

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Submitted by Suhail (not verified) on 24 September, 2010 - 23:43

from just these....option A is kool

Submitted by Isha Al-Maghribi on 25 September, 2010 - 20:40

You wrote:
Its an option.

Some are for it, others against.

The for segregation side think women since not in the company of men can dress up without fear of being seen by strange men.

The against side want to sit with their family.

I cna see both sides to the argument, however I do think while I am more comfortable in a segregated setting, overall this may be damaging to the community as a whole.

How many segregated weddings have you attended?!
I *have to* go to a lot of weddings, and only one was segregated, and that was 'his' someone's...
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I agree, but it's not like guys stare at girls. I mean, we're all family and friends, that type of thing won't go on. Guys are pretty decent. You don't see them eyeing girls up....."strange men" ...lol...
Ooooh, except in Afg, that was so bloody degrading!
...
Usually when I walk, I look up and walk, but once in Afg this guy grabbed at my leg , After that I've never looked up and walked.Gaze is always lowered.
And, (some) afg people have absolutely no respect for relationships either. Seriously, they would even try hitting it off with their 1st cousins if they could!
... ok, calm.
One minute....does that mean in Pakistan, it will be segregated??????????
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They'll come to Arabia/Egypt, and see that it's not!
Panic!
It's tradition, it shouldn't change for anyone, right?

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Love is a serious mental disease.

Submitted by Isha Al-Maghribi on 25 September, 2010 - 20:38

Suhail wrote:
from just these....option A is kool

My choice, too.
Anywhom, what about the veil????
No'one has told me about that?

PS- You back from Pakistan now?

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Love is a serious mental disease.

Submitted by LookingToSee on 25 September, 2010 - 20:51

but isnt freemixing of opposite gender not allowed?

i mean...i believe in this value. so...i would fight with al lmy will to get it implemented, because..i want to remember my wedding with all good stuff im proud of and nowt i'm ashamed of. Hopefully you only get married once, i want it to be as perfectish as possible..

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Submitted by Isha Al-Maghribi on 25 September, 2010 - 21:22

Lilly wrote:
but isnt freemixing of opposite gender not allowed?

i mean...i believe in this value. so...i would fight with al lmy will to get it implemented, because..i want to remember my wedding with all good stuff im proud of and nowt i'm ashamed of. Hopefully you only get married once, i want it to be as perfectish as possible..

Yes, but freemixing with non-mahram would be harom, wouldn't it?
Everyone will be mahram of each other at the wedding. Plus, you want family to be there!
'ashamed of?' :S

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Love is a serious mental disease.

Submitted by MuslimBro on 25 September, 2010 - 21:26

Isha Al-Maghribi wrote:
How many segregated weddings have you attended?!

I don't like going weddings but the ones I've been to, nearly all of them have been segregated.

Isha Al-Maghribi wrote:
I agree, but it's not like guys stare at girls. I mean, we're all family and friends, that type of thing won't go on. Guys are pretty decent.

Are you kidding me. Even when the wedding is segregated, the boys will stand around the female entrance and some will even try and go in.
Submitted by Isha Al-Maghribi on 26 September, 2010 - 09:18

MuslimBro wrote:
Isha Al-Maghribi wrote:
How many segregated weddings have you attended?!

I don't like going weddings but the ones I've been to, nearly all of them have been segregated.

Isha Al-Maghribi wrote:
I agree, but it's not like guys stare at girls. I mean, we're all family and friends, that type of thing won't go on. Guys are pretty decent.

Are you kidding me. Even when the wedding is segregated, the boys will stand around the female entrance and some will even try and go in.

Seriously?! How cheap of them.
Exactly, therefore segregated weddings aren't a good idea ,are they now?
I personally would prefer a segregated environment, but oyhers wouldn't. Though, i hate the dancing! get a partner, wth! probably why people prefer segregated.
So is this what happens in Pakistan then? Segregation?

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Love is a serious mental disease.

Submitted by LookingToSee on 26 September, 2010 - 12:06

I've never been to a non segragated wedding...we just refused the invitation.... :/ but ive been to dodgily segragated... (where you dress up to pary but you feel too shy to take off your black jilbaab...
i remember a wedding where OLD perverts try to have a peek at the bride... -_-" i' ve never being to an asian wedding so wouldnt know... Two weddings ive beinto, the guy room was FAR AWAY from the girls...no peeping at all Wink
a wedding where all is mahram to all? Wouah! Thats pretty cool!!!
not ashmed off, wromg choicd oc word, more like disappointed or somethig like that....just ignore me.have fun and enjoy the party!!! (still waiting for invite...) Blum 3

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Submitted by TPOS on 26 September, 2010 - 20:06

Isha Al-Maghribi wrote:
MuslimBro wrote:
Isha Al-Maghribi wrote:
How many segregated weddings have you attended?!

I don't like going weddings but the ones I've been to, nearly all of them have been segregated.

Isha Al-Maghribi wrote:
I agree, but it's not like guys stare at girls. I mean, we're all family and friends, that type of thing won't go on. Guys are pretty decent.

Are you kidding me. Even when the wedding is segregated, the boys will stand around the female entrance and some will even try and go in.

Seriously?! How cheap of them.
Exactly, therefore segregated weddings aren't a good idea ,are they now?
I personally would prefer a segregated environment, but oyhers wouldn't. Though, i hate the dancing! get a partner, wth! probably why people prefer segregated.
So is this what happens in Pakistan then? Segregation?


I've never been to an asian wedding where they've "picked a partner" and danced.
Not all asian weddings are segregated, depends on the family. Why don't you just ask your fiance whats gna happen at the wedding?
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