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DARK OR LIGHT SKIN?

published by Ramz on 13 March, 2006 - 12:16

Why does society prefer light skin? Why do guys go for lighter girls? My family told me to use fair and lovely skin bleaching cream once so that I'd have fairer skin. It worked but I had to stop using it because it made my face break out in spots. When I was younger my mum always told me to keep out of the sun.
My grandmother says that purity is linked to a lighter colour. Even the quran says that the hoors will be white.

Whats wrong with being dark and why do rishte's always prefer their future wife to be fair?

INTERNET WEDDINGS

published by Ramz on 21 February, 2006 - 12:22

For some reason there is a stigma attached to internet weddings. My best friend who is married with one beautiful daughter met her husband through the internet. And they lived in opposites sides of the world.

There are many ways to meet your other partner. It could be in the library, in Uni, in the park or through mutual friends or family. But why is meeting through the internet looked down upon? It isnt any different to a rishta arranged by the family because both ways you don't know the person your dealing with and there's a possibility that he or she is not acting like they really are.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

published by Ramz on 18 January, 2006 - 15:34

You have met the man of your dreams. He's everything you ever wanted in a man and parents say NO. What would you do? I'm asking becase I've been having second thoughts about my decision. I gave in under parent pressure and now feel that I have lost the only man I ever loved.

When faced with such a dilemna who would you choose?

And how important is culture to you? My parents rejected my boyfriend due to cultural differences. Could you ever marry someone who was not the same culture as you?

I would like to know what religious people like all of you think about this matter.

TRADITIONAL OR NOT

published by Ramz on 27 December, 2005 - 19:21

A general questions for the guys here. Do most guys prefer their wives to dress traditionally. Like Sari or shalwaar kameez or would they rather their wives wear jeans, skirts, dresses. Or are most guys not fussed?

Another old wives tale that I heard from mum is that men dont like girls who wear "english clothes". :roll:

And how many guys here dress traditionally and how often?

WHAT DID YOU EAT TODAY THREAD

published by Ramz on 26 December, 2005 - 17:08

Yeah I'm bored. :roll:

Admin dont delete this thread. I think it'll be intresting if everyone lists ALL the things they ate that day.

There's a saying "You are what you eat". I'm really into cooking and calorie counting so I want everyone to daily list all that they eat. I'll be back in Uni in the next few days so this comfort food thread will keep me occupied.

I want to see how healthy is people's diet. How many people over eat and how many hardly eat at all.

DESI GIRLS AND ATTITUDE PROBLEMS

published by Ramz on 26 December, 2005 - 16:29

Desi girls are famous for their attitude problem. Most are stuck up, big headed and think that they are the best thing ever.

If I walk to town, go Uni or to the cinema's I get dirty's. I give as good as I get but I was wondering why are desi girls so bitchy?

Its usually the ones with the blond hair, orange foundation faces and skin tight black trousers on their stick legs who are full of the most attitude.

I'm sure you desi girls and boys would know what I'm talking about.

Are they just vain or are they trying to act like black girls?

NO KISSING PLEASE WE'RE ASIANS

published by Ramz on 25 December, 2005 - 16:16

I was sent a very funny email which spoke about acceptable displays of effection in public. The whole email basically took it to the extreme by saying that its wrong to even LOOK at your husband/wife in public.

Today we often see asian people with their tongue down each others throats. That is gross. :roll:

What do you think is a acceptable display of effection in public between husband and wife?

FAMILIES

published by Ramz on 24 December, 2005 - 19:40

I'm home for the christmas holidays and already my family is driving me up the wall. I'm so grateful that I can live on campus in Uni.

Does anyone else ever hate their families? Does anyone ever feel embarrassed by them? Does anyone ever wish they had a different family? Does anyone like me think that their family is disfunctional?

My family is sooooooooo backwards and cultural. It was them who made me anti Islam because I thought that Islam was strict and all about forced marriages. My own reading changed my thoughts on this.

THE MEAT MARKET

published by Ramz on 22 December, 2005 - 16:19

Ive finally resigned to putting myself through the degrading process of the meat market. Lets face at age 24 Im not getting any younger and its not as if I any longer have a man in my life. I refuse to met desi guys but I told mum that Im OK with seeing guys from this country. The whole process is a lot of crock I have to come out wearing my best sari, smile and preen and act as if Im a whizz in the kitchen and the perfect traditonal bengali girl. The truth is far from it. Its a fake act that I have to put on.

HOW DO YOU LET SOMEONE KNOW YOU LIKE THEM?

published by Ramz on 12 December, 2005 - 20:37

Mr brother has this problem. He’s madly in love with this decent, religious girl but he doesn’t know how to tell her he likes her without offending her.

Just for him I met this girl once and she really was lovely. But when I raised the marriage issue she became embarrassed and changed the subject. If this girl gets embarrassed in front of girls then I can’t imagine what she would do if my brother approached her. It’s hard for religious people to make the first move. But love is not forbidden in our religion.

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