PROBLEM PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!
Salamz to all
this is a very fun site you have here. I spent most of my lonely nights viewing all the threads. (I'm living away from home on campus 😢 ). I have a problem, I posted once before about my brother being addicted to coke who now takes stronger substances. It makes me mad that his freedom hasnt been taken away from him but I am watched like a hawk.
I have fallen in love with a guy at Uni and badly want to get married to him, the problem is that he's Pakistani and I'm bengali so my parents are strictly against this marraige.
I don't care what happens I will only get married to him, I'll even run away if I have to. But I rather not do it this way. My desi parents are trying to set me up with bengali guys in my family, I try to cause a scene whenever they come to my house but they still wish to marry me.
I don't know what to do, I've been stuck in this dilmena for over three years now. I'm getting desperate and serioulsy thinking about running away. I hate the W****** that my parents try to set me up with, if I had my way I'd poisen the tea and biscuits.
I think I should just run away that way they'l be forced to accept it. My older sisters did this and they eventually came to terms with it. But I don't want to hurt then the way my sisters did either.
PLEASE HELP, ANY ADVISE OR SUGGESTIONS WILL BE APPRECIATED.
PROBLEM PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!
PROBLEM PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!
im gonna have to put mirch on that tongue of yours next time you stick it out! :evil:
PROBLEM PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!
[quote="Darth V-Hayder"]im gonna have to put mirch on that tongue of yours next time you stick it out! :evil:[/quote]
wot u chatting bout, i didnt even stick it out at u! i like chilli on everything i eat, so go ahed. 😂
PROBLEM PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!
Salaam
Sr Ramz dilemma is such a common dilemma.
Many people these days are stuck in stressful “love stories”. It’s an unnecessary headache.
We’re all going to get what’s coming to us…i.e. we’ll end up with the person that Allah (swt) has destined for us.
So, if one falls for someone and they should make plenty of dua’s i.e. acknowledge the fact that our knowledge and power is limited…. and should ask Allah (swt) to destine that person for them ONLY if he/she will be good for them in this world and the next (Allah knows what we do not know)….and then one should do their bit….i.e. get the two families to meet up, plead the case to parents etc….
And after they have done all of the above…if the situation doesn’t seem to be going anywhere…..they should get over it. They should accept the fact that it wasn’t meant to be…they should realise Allah (swt) didn’t want this for them…external factors such as friends, family etc etc are only wasil’s (means) for what Allah (swt) wants for us…
It’s no good blaming external factors.
What I’m trying to say is that…if one has been trying and making dua etc and parents have said No….or nothing seems to be happening….just drop it.
It’s no good prolonging the headache and heartache…What’s the point of being stuck in a “love story” for years and years…..
And who knows if one would have been happy with that person?....If God does not give us what we want, we should accept that He knows what we do not know.
Wasalaam
PROBLEM PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!
[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"][quote="naj"]yea IS but u know easier said than done. what if u fixed up and u like
someone how u meant to get outta that one? anyone?[/quote]
u say NO
u kick up a fuss
u tell the whole world
u tell the guy they fixed u up with that u aint intrested
u get people involved
end of the day-they cant force u[/quote]
And that also is very good advice.
But sometimes you just can't get through to desi parents. :x
PROBLEM PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!
[quote="Ramz"][quote="MuslimSisLilSis"][quote="naj"]yea IS but u know easier said than done. what if u fixed up and u like
someone how u meant to get outta that one? anyone?[/quote]
u say NO
u kick up a fuss
u tell the whole world
u tell the guy they fixed u up with that u aint intrested
u get people involved
end of the day-they cant force u[/quote]
And that also is very good advice.
But sometimes you just can't get through to desi parents. :x[/quote]
Show them the meaning of the word perseverance.
I meant shia butcher of balouch. It is the name that the general of the time was famous for.
It wasnt the shias of baluchistan, it was the butcher of balouch who was a shia. and he was a butcher of balouch because after dismembering east pakistan, he proceeded to cause agitation in baluchistan and handed over approx 400 sq miles of balouchistan to iran, the border was shifted into pakistan.