Mother's boy, also called mama's boy or mother-bonded, is a term for a man who is excessively attached to his mother at an age when men are expected to be independent (e.g. live on their own, be economically independent).
A mother's boy may be effete or effeminate, or might be perceived as being macho, or might have a personality disorder, such as avoidant personality disorder, or might be schizophrenic, so that the mother acts as a caretaker. In any case, a mother's boy cannot maintain a healthy partnership with a woman (Carruthers, 1998).
Being mother-bonded is seen as a sign of weakness, and has a social stigma attached to it in many places, although outside of North America it maybe more acceptable or perceived as normal. A mother-bonded man is seen to give control of his own life to his mother, in exchange for a sense of security.
If the mother has more than one son, then she will have, at the most, one mother's boy, usually the eldest son. The relationship between mother and mother's boy is thought to be "symbiotic": the mother enjoys controlling her mother's boy.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother's_boy
Are you? :twisted:
yes i am and im proud to say it
janat is at the mothers feet
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
I think mummy's boys are pathetic...not coz they are nice to their mum, not all all but because they depend on their mum to do everything....boys like that should be shot lol joke!
Something should be done though...
WHY srry bwt caps but why huh jus cuz we luv our mums we should be shot then shoot me i deont car
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
preach on girl
it not about being nice to ur mum
EVERYONE shud be nice to their mum
mummy's boy are those who expect their mum to wait on them hand and foot
guys who hit 30 but wont eat unless mummy feeds them
losers :roll:
It was a joke, jeez!!!!!
I think boys who want to be called MEN should stop expecting their mum to cater for their every need, ever heard of being independent :roll:
I have nothing against love for a mother, actualy I would encourage it to the extent of unconditional love. A mother is not a personal slave!
well its hard 2 argue 4 dem but they have grown to there mother lyk a young child grows to a pet it understandable and i think you lot are showing imature behaviour by saying all this you dont look at both sides of the arguement
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
thats the def of http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother's_boy
its all about OTT dependence
im nto defending them im jus showing there side of the argument as u guys are biased i would like to saythis is a non biased site so im jus keepin the balance
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
There is no real justfication for being a mummys boy, if you want to be known as a man act like one.
LOL angels on a roll today
is this a touchy subject for you?
check your pm lilsis
dere is always justification being a man that is so stereo typical if u want to stereo type you shouldnt be here u should be cleanin or doin something of the sort but i dont say that the prophet
preached love of the mother its not always the case that the person is entirely dependent it could be he might be mentally not right i have an uncle like that so dont go round sayin al dis nonsense about not bein a real man. what is a 'real' man?
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
wake boy mate
mummy's boy aint got nothing to do with extreme love/repect for mum
i mentioned that bear times :roll:
a mummy's boy is someone who
-needs feeding
-cleaning
-told when to eat his fruit/veg/vitamins
-needs mummy to take him to work
-cant think for himself
-cant dress for himself
-cant make his own bed
A REAL man can think for himself
he has strength, power and masculinity
he's not always hiding behind mummy's apron :roll:
Listen fanzo I aint talkin about people who have disabilities or mental problems so don't go jumping to conclusions. I am talking about healthy "boys" who cant get off their lazy bums to do anything, if you aint one of them then that is fine if not then read the messages properly and learn.
ur descreption is simmilar to that of a mentally unjust perosn wouldt you say
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
i can see what you are sayin and i would have to agree with you they are jus lazy but wat lil sis said is a bit dogey
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
nope.
cos i aint specifically talking about mentally or physically disabled ppl
cos they have a valid excuse for their dependcy on others
thats common sense
try using some sometimes :roll:
my parents have gone away for the weekend
i'm home with my brother
i made the lazy boy make his own dinner :twisted:
what you r sayin is jus stupid cuz u said
needs feeding cant eat 4 himself disablity surely
-cleaning cant clean himself disability
-needs mummy to take him to work jus lazy and babish on part of the man
-cant think for himself mental disability
-cant dress for himself disability
-cant make his own bed laziness
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
[b][color=indigo]Good on you girl! My bro is soo lazy! He doesn't even no how to start the kettle, toaster or washing machine![/color][/b]
that is just mean we dont kno how 2 cook tut u shud be ashamed of urself lol
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
what a load of bull :roll:
young children cant do that - do that have a disablity?
lazy men/women CHOOSE not to do that so are they all disabled too?
dont laziness play a part in ur world?
does a person have to be disabled to do the above?
also i suggest u re-check ur understanding of disability
some of the serverly disabled people i personally know are incredibly active
children are classed in cases as not being self dependent because they cannot rely on themselves are u saying that a grown man can be not self dependent without havin a mental problem kids arent classed as disabled but not self-dependent we are talkin about grown men who are mentally ok surely they are able to do most of those things i have 2 admit sum are laziness
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
You sad people... why are you picking on a kid for??
Honestly non of guys have an patience at all do you? Shame on you all.
Its all too easy isn't it to blame the guy for being attached to his mother. But what about the mother?? huh??? Its not entirely his fault he's soo attached, the mothers also partly to blame (if not mostly). Its mothers who smuther their kids with affection that turns them into sissys. Learn some control women and take some responsibility.
Theres such a thing as tough love.... use it.
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Its in a mother's make-up to love her children unconditionally.. she would naturally want to remain connected her child - even in adulthood. The asian female population should aim to change this culture of doing their son's each and every bidding. But it is unfair to put [i]most[/i] of the blame on the mother/female.
Once a child grows up (and becomes a man), they are responsible for their own actions.. if they have unfavourable characteristics and/or personality traits, they should correct them.. Always strive to better yourself.. its a sign of a mature person. If you are forever dependent on your mother for the most simplest of tasks, then perhaps you need to reevaluate yourself as a person. Along with that, learn to discipline yourself/become more frugal, and reform your behaviour. Muhassaba (self criticism and/or reformation) is part of the deen..
In any event, as we grow older; so do our parents. If we choose to be forever reliant on our mothers, then we are only placing more burden on her shoulders in the years to come..
A happy-medium between support/patron and dependence is key.
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Im not argueing against a mothers love... that would be stupid. But perhaps her parenting skills is whats under scrutiny here. Parents must not only love their children but also discipline them as well as nurture them. A childs first teacher is his mother. So if a mother instills a pattern of dependancy into their sons (for reasons we're not gonna go into) for everything then its very likely that they may carry it into their own adult relationships to the extent where they expect similar treatment from their wives. A mother is a very powerful influence in a childs development. And this lovey-dovy dependancy approach simply socialises the child into a pattern where there a greater chance that he develop a dependancy on his mother for everything even later on in his life.
A person can do his best to improve himself always, but change is very difficult especially if its something like their emotional connection to their mothers which have been instilled in them since childhood.
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Yeh, I agree.
It’s actually very unhealthy.
When you’re a child you HAVE to be dependent on your parents…but society/the education system/growing up and even our religion stresses independence.
In fact according to Islam, when parents are old, it’s the children that should look after their parents and not vice versa…
I suppose some men find it difficult to break out of their comfort zones…it’s always easier to allow someone else to do everything for you.
i dont think this is you talking about mommas boys but an all out attak on lazy men ok some of us are like that which are in excusable but i dont think you should give your description to that of a grown drueling man with his mum cleaning it up because in reality its not in most cases
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