For some reason there is a stigma attached to internet weddings. My best friend who is married with one beautiful daughter met her husband through the internet. And they lived in opposites sides of the world.
There are many ways to meet your other partner. It could be in the library, in Uni, in the park or through mutual friends or family. But why is meeting through the internet looked down upon? It isnt any different to a rishta arranged by the family because both ways you don't know the person your dealing with and there's a possibility that he or she is not acting like they really are. I was shocked when my mum last time I saw her if there's anyone I like on the computer because I'm always online :?
I know that people online are strangers but obviously you would meet them before agreeing to marraige. Why are internet marriages looked down upon. We buy things online and trust people with our credit card details and even can study online. So why do people look down on meeting your partner this way?
I get emails sometimes from people proposing marraige, but a friend of mine always talks me out of it. I've met people the interactive "ordinary" way but have always been decieved by them, so why do people think there is a higher chance of deception online?
Do [u]you[/u] actually want to get married? Y or N
sorry if a stupid question.
Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.
Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes
Who doesnt want to get married?
Me. okay eventually, but today, tommorow?
Nope.
So the question is that a Yes, you want to get married?
(being decided, is a good effort towards will and determination)
Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.
Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes
I'm 100% sure that I wish to get married, but I'm also 100% positive that I do not want my parents to set me up.
There is a stigma attach to internet weddings. Which is justified for various reasons. I know of some people who have met on the internet and married and they seem happy, but you still have to be vary of it for a couple of reasons.
The first one being, that as interaction is limited, you have to do alot of guess work and so you imagination can build a person up to be something they not, which is dangerous. Plus the person will only allow a certain amount of themselves to be shown over the internet as well.
The second one being that there a certain amount of deattachment and mystery over the internet and i guess that appeal to some people as well, which is another dangerous aspect.
But saying that, there is nothing wrong if two people find each other on the internet, if they act properly afterwards, that means that they get to know each other properly away from the computer screen in approirate situation, because as Ramz said the rishta process is rigid at it best, But people who rely completely on the internet to completely gage a person character and make a life decision, have a death risk IMO.
"A true Muslim is thankful to Allah in prosperity, and resigned to His will in adversity."
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No one should marry anyone without having a couple of face to face meetings with them.
Marrying a stranger is just asking for trouble.
How the meeting is arranged is irrelevant.
Brother Yuit raised some good points about the pros and cons of internet relationships.
What about being too intimate with personal details? This sort of talk can lead to lewd immoral conversations. They are a form of Zina of the tongue. We should be aware of that, and stay away from it.
Considering the Islamic method requires a mahram always accompanying the girl and boy prior to nikah, I can't see how this could be classed as a halal form of meeting a partner? The internet itself isn't forbidden, just the method cuts out the mahram entirely, when Allah clearly tells us mahrams are an obligatory part of the marriage process?
If we say this is ok, then how can we condemn our child when they have male friends offline, wouldn't we be applying double standards?
I know it can be very difficult to find a decent partner these days, but I think you'd do better to look offline, through friends, family and mosque matrimonial services
The internet is like a modern bar.
There is an eclectic crew of people there, but it attracts a lot of really creepy individuals. Just like you probably wouldn't want to go to a bar to find "mr right" you probably want to steer clear of the internet for those purposes too.
I'm sure there are lots of happy couples that met online - but there are a lot of women who have been stalked, harassed, and worse by people they met online.
Just don't risk it...
What's wrong with your parents [i]suggesting[/i] people?
[b]people use internet these days because its made every 1 so lazy. we email people sat a few chairs from us.. etc
but marriage without physically seeing the person is wierd and a Hadith also states it. i dont have the exact reference but i remember one of the companions told the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) thy were getting maried. the Prophet asked if they have seen the bride? the companion said 'No' and the prophet said go and see her.
May Allah forgive me if i quoted it wrong but thats how it goes..! if thats what the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) said then we should follow it dont you think.
Salaams[/b]
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LOL, would u think ur parent would be able to find someone right for u ? now add in a clash of culture and generation into the senario and u get a idea what some people are going through.
It seem that place like Shaadi.com is becoming more popular, but i only know of asylum seekers using it at the mo
or people who had a divorce . But give it a couple of years i can see it becoming more popular.
I guess it appealing to people as they can lose their insecurity on it, become who they want to be, but that not fair on the other person on the other side. But it depend how much patience someone has on it, if someone is trying to rush someone, or only want limited contact then it should be a no go, but if person is still willing to go through the whole Rishta process i guess it cool, especially if people have tried other methods first. Cases of people running off without someone straight from the internet are mad.
"A true Muslim is thankful to Allah in prosperity, and resigned to His will in adversity."
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[b]
Why not? lissten, go and do a survey around the uk of men and women, muslims and non-muslims.... you will be shocked which group has more divorces !! (from arranged and non arranged)
not saying its wrong not to do any..
make it useful :idea:
we still need to keep our parents Happy as they have done alot to us to keep us happy, & yes the Prophet did say we have a right to refuse and choose.[/b] soo...the choice is yours buddy
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Are u a regular too :twisted:
I think online marriages are totally weird, its just the whole aspect of knowing someone online. Its hard enough not knowing someone properly in person but via net is a whole different thing.
People behave differently, they're more like to be confident and maybe a diff. person.
Well there nothing if the intial meeting is online I guess, seem nothing wrong with it, if precautious are taken. Someone i know is getting married from someone he knows from the internet and the way he done it, didn't seem bad, regular contact between family, met up in approriate environment etc. I guess it depend on the person situation whether it acceptable or not.
"A true Muslim is thankful to Allah in prosperity, and resigned to His will in adversity."
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IMO the stats are equal
neither marraige is guarentee for success or failure
marriage wipes away your past sins and makes a smile on your parents face. obviously not talking about running away with some one like.....
lol....
u know what i mean. lil sis's lil sis, or what ever the name
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no i dont know what u mean wass :roll:
marraige issue is not black and white
love marriage can take place in a halaal way i.e if the couple don't date etc
and arranged marraige can take place in a haraam way e.g forced marraiges
divorce is increasing-in both arranged and love marraiges
I think that there is a common misunderstanding about arrange marriage in the old sense. Because there was less Divorce in that tme, people assume it was a better way of getting married. there are some positive in marry in this way. But the success of the marriage of our parent generation, was due to the patience and general character of our parent, not the system of getting married IMO. Something this generation of muslims is kind of devoid of to the most part and is one of the reason why arrange marriage is beggining to fail in some cases just like marriage in general.
"A true Muslim is thankful to Allah in prosperity, and resigned to His will in adversity."
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people shouldnt condemn what they havent tried. My best friend is in a very loving marriage with a man she met online.