Hijabed Up AND Fashionable

MuslimSisLilSis

Balancing Religious Sensitivity, Fashion Sense
Young Women Follow Islam's Ancient Tenets on Modesty -- but With a Modern Twist

"Isn't this so cute?" cooed Hiba Khan, admiring a loose-knit vest glimmering with a sequined brown collar at Tysons Corner Center's LVL X clothing store. Sexy, the 21-year-old Fairfax City resident admitted, but that's easily remedied with a long-sleeve top and a properly fastened head scarf.

In the hip young Muslim crowd, modesty is always in.

"I usually try not to buy anything too flashy or too revealing, but yeah, I want to look nice," she said while at the mall one recent afternoon for a little back-to-school shopping.

With summer coming to a close and classes about to start, she and a half-dozen other college students were in search of "sister-friendly" clothes -- attire that conforms to Islamic dictates but appeals to a contemporary sense of style and beauty.

But sticking to Islamic standards of modesty isn't always easy, and it doesn't always come naturally to girls raised in the United States, where MTV and Hollywood are more likely than religious texts to set fashion standards. Choosing to follow Islam's clothing guidelines is often the result of a deep desire for cultural identity or religious soul-searching -- especially for young women such as Khan, who as a teenager decided on her own to adopt the clothing standards of her religion.

That doesn't mean she and other young Muslim women want to put aside a desire to be pretty.

"We want to look beautiful, but we don't have that pressure to be sexy," said Khan's friend Khadija Amjad, 21, of Centreville, dressed in a sleek black-and-purple ensemble that stretched to her ankles. The outfit was topped by a pink-and-purple hijab , or head scarf.

Estimates of the number of Muslims in the United States vary from 3 million to 7 million. About 150,000 live in the Baltimore-Washington area, according to the American Religion Data Archive.

Muslims, men and women, are required by their holy book, the Koran, to be modest in their attire, Islamic scholars said. How the guidelines are interpreted varies by geography and family tradition, from simply avoiding form-fitting or revealing clothes to covering oneself with a head-to-toe burqa .

"The whole thing goes back to the presence of God," said Akbar Ahmed, chair of Islamic Studies at American University. "You need to be in a state of decorum. You must ask yourself: How would God like to see me?"

Rika Prodhan, 22, a recent graduate of George Washington University, never worried too much about her form-fitting outfits and cascading hair when she was growing up in Houston. But as she matured into an observant young Muslim woman, a nagging voice in the back of her head grew louder. She recalls it telling her that the Koran was unambiguous -- the body, including the hair, should be well covered.

While in college, she gradually adjusted her wardrobe to better reflect her religious convictions, eventually purging it of clothes that revealed her ankles or wrists. Finally, after much introspection, she began wearing the hijab, a big step that she knew would forever change the way she was perceived in public.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2005/08/28/AR20050…

Simple Q

is being hijaabed up AND fashionable an oxymoron?

When people admire a girls pretty Hijaab or pretty Jilbaab-is that wrong

Forum

Dave — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 - 20:17

[quote="Beast"]Dave, he's just making a sectarian jibe - that's all.[/quote]

oh... right.

You're in the US right now?!

You shoulda said something!

How flipping cold is it right now?! I hate the North. Are you in NYC or the western hinterlands?

Dave — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 - 20:24

[quote="Beast"]I'm not in the US.

:?[/quote]

...is there another New York State somewhere?

What is the Xavier Institute

Beast — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 - 20:28

lol

Xavier Institute is where the X-men hang out or something. You know, X-men... Beast et al.

Sorry to confuse you.

I'll go back to Birmingham... England.

Dave — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 - 20:29

[quote="Beast"]lol

Xavier Institute is where the X-men hang out or something. You know, X-men ... Beast.

Sorry to confuse you.

I'll go back to Birmingham... England.[/quote]

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

I'm an idiot.

lol well done - no need to change to Birmingham.

New York is far more interesting 😃

Angel — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 - 21:55

Musk your well off topic, get a life and get over it!

The rest of the boys behave and back to topic...

I just brought the most gorgus shoes from ravel, they are baby pink and they have diamontes all over the front of the shoes and at the back of the heels, i need to get salwar kameez matchin with it for Eid, and also a hijab!

I also got this stunning short maroon cardiagan with a brooch in the middle its lovely!

Medarris — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 - 22:05

[quote="Angel"]Musk your well off topic, get a life and get over it!

The rest of the boys behave and back to topic...

![/quote]

actually i responded to a qsn by dave. So angel think before you write yeh?

Angel — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 - 22:09

[quote="MuslimSister"]Your shoes sound cute angel.

I brought [url=http://www.shalimarshoes.com/index.php?product_id=66508&option=Prod_det…] shoes today. (The black ones).

And I got some material too. I don't like the fit of ready made clothes.

I'll accessorise nearer to the time.[/quote]

they are lovely my mate brought sumthin similiar as that except they are closed from the back and they are plum.

I prefer loose fabric and i get my cuz to make it so it fits me properly, ready-made suits have short sleeves which i cnt be bothered getin fixed.

Does anyone know u where you can get pins for hijabs?

MuslimSister — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 - 22:13

Yeah ready made clothes do nearly always have short sleeves. I prefer clothes to be normal fit on me...but some ready made clothes are like a tent on me. And they are over priced.

The best place to get Hijaab pins are the hijaab shops...and always attend Islamic fairs, they always have really pretty hijaab pins.

The [url=http://www.thehijabshop.com/hijab_pins/index.php]Hijaab shop[/url] has a fantastic collection too.

Angel — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 - 22:15

Yeh they are nice, i bought a hair clip thing but i am gona use it as a hijab pin, they look really cool though, its got purple diamontes in it.

*DUST* — Tue, 20 Dec 2005 - 00:00

[quote="Don Karnage"]Wow our posts would have been so much wittier if we hadn't gone off and confused each other into explaining further.[/quote]
lol thats true come to think of it.

[quote="Don Karnage"]Dave = tool.[/quote]
nah u have an excuse - the assignment! but i was just out of it. 😂

[size=7]hey we cud always just go back and edit our posts...[/size] 😂

Dave — Tue, 20 Dec 2005 - 00:02

[quote="Aasiyah"][quote="Don Karnage"]Wow our posts would have been so much wittier if we hadn't gone off and confused each other into explaining further.[/quote]
lol thats true come to think of it.

[quote="Don Karnage"]Dave = tool.[/quote]
nah u have an excuse - the assignment! but i was just out of it. :lol:[/quote]

lol oh well - we'll just have to wait for another opportunity to demonstrate our unparalleled wit and agree not to ruin it.

muslim_kuri — Thu, 22 Dec 2005 - 19:29

mums nearly finished sewing my eid clothes (i know i should be sewing them myself by now but mums 2 nice...) 😃

i prefer getting unsewed material 2 because that way u can sew the clothes 2 suit the individual style.....mine are cream/gold/black........gona be a nightmare ta match the accessories lol plus not sure whether ta buy a new hijab or jus wrap the long 1 that comes with the suit? decisions decisions!!! :!:

Angel — Thu, 22 Dec 2005 - 20:15

[quote="muslim_kuri"]mums nearly finished sewing my eid clothes (i know i should be sewing them myself by now but mums 2 nice...) 😃

i prefer getting unsewed material 2 because that way u can sew the clothes 2 suit the individual style.....mine are cream/gold/black........gona be a nightmare ta match the accessories lol plus not sure whether ta buy a new hijab or jus wrap the long 1 that comes with the suit? decisions decisions!!! :!:[/quote]

lol

Getin eid clothes is a stress in itself, i should have gone today as i was off work but it was too cold outside :evil:

I do have a mint coloured suit inside which i was suposed to wear to a party but the trouser material was too thin so i need to get lining underneath it..

I want another material which is black and simple which i can wear on an ordinary day.

muslim_kuri — Thu, 22 Dec 2005 - 20:26

itz soo annoying when the material turns out 2b too thin because i hate wearing the extra lining underneath so i tend 2 get it fixed 2 the material instead!

Angel — Thu, 22 Dec 2005 - 20:40

[quote="muslim_kuri"]itz soo annoying when the material turns out 2b too thin because i hate wearing the extra lining underneath so i tend 2 get it fixed 2 the material instead![/quote]

yeh thats what i am thinkin of doin, i gota do my eid shoppin next weds cuz thats when i will be free but my cuz called me y'day to let me know to get my clothes to her ASAP, how can i? i aint got any material yet!

I wish i was more organised, eid is gona be just a week before my exams :evil:

muslim_kuri — Thu, 22 Dec 2005 - 20:52

i knw tell be bout it...all soo hectic! but im sure ul enjoy urslf nxt wed nothin like a good shopping spree ta relieve stress!!!!

Angel — Thu, 22 Dec 2005 - 21:09

[quote="Aasiyah"]girls: consider urselves lucky - i have an exam ON eid. :([/quote]

awww poor you! when is Eid and whens your exam, has Eid been confirmed?

*DUST* — Thu, 22 Dec 2005 - 21:47

[quote="Angel"][quote="Aasiyah"]girls: consider urselves lucky - i have an exam ON eid. :([/quote]

awww poor you! when is Eid and whens your exam, has Eid been confirmed?[/quote]
January 10th right?

Angel — Thu, 22 Dec 2005 - 22:02

[quote="Aasiyah"][quote="Angel"][quote="Aasiyah"]girls: consider urselves lucky - i have an exam ON eid. :([/quote]

awww poor you! when is Eid and whens your exam, has Eid been confirmed?[/quote]
January 10th right?[/quote]

Oh excellant :roll:

I need to get that day off then, this is annoyin

Best of luck for your exams!

Talkin of exams i wil be leavin this forum for a few weeks 😢 (well that is the intention!)

All those celebrating xmas/new years have a good one.

If i dont post before eid then i hope you all have a good Eid, also Dave asked to pass the message of Happy Eid onto you all.

Will miss MOST of you lovely people (you knw who u are 😃 )

Remember me in you duas and pray i do well in my xams, i wish the same for those who are goin to have exams...tc wasalaam xXx

muslim_kuri — Thu, 22 Dec 2005 - 22:05

aw angel sis gona miss ya hun....dnt wori bout your examz u know your gona fly thru them Insha'Allah

happy xmas/new year n Eid mubarak 2 u n all sis!!!!!

keep me in your prayers 2...tek care Khudafiz!!xxxxxxxxxx

Ramz — Fri, 23 Dec 2005 - 17:46

Whilst I don't wear hijaab yet. I always dress decently. I never show skin. I always wear ankle length skirts. Now that its cold I've started to wear fish net tights under them. You can only see the foot bit, or when I take off my shoes. Someone told me that Muslim girls shouldnt wear such tight because the kafir girls wear them. Is this true?

*DUST* — Fri, 23 Dec 2005 - 17:50

[quote="Ramz"]Someone told me that Muslim girls shouldnt wear such tight because the kafir girls wear them. Is this true?[/quote]
no, the only requirement for our clothes is that they dont imitate men's clothing, and that when we go out, it covers us properly. the only negative thing i can think about tights is that they can b a pain when it comes to doing wudhu...

Ramz — Fri, 23 Dec 2005 - 17:53

[quote="Aasiyah"][quote="Ramz"]Someone told me that Muslim girls shouldnt wear such tight because the kafir girls wear them. Is this true?[/quote]
no, the only requirement for our clothes is that they dont imitate men's clothing, and that when we go out, it covers us properly. the only negative thing i can think about tights is that they can b a pain when it comes to doing wudhu...[/quote]

Thanks Aasiyah. I actually saw a Hijaabi wearing such tights under her long skirt and I thought it looked pretty and of course tights keep you warm. But some OTHER hijaabi told me its not decent to wear them because only Kafir girls wear such tights. So I was confused with the issue. IMO its a lot more decent then being bare legged in windy weather. :roll:

Omrow — Thu, 5 Jan 2006 - 20:02

Salam

A woman can dress inorder to disgrace her honour, or
she can dress inorder to elevate her status before God and men. Men, because some women don't
care about what God thinks; but they do care what men think of them.

It is completely her choice. And her decision will shows all thinking men what her motives are.

Therefore, there is nothing wrong with being fashionable, as long as you are SPIRITUALLY FASHIONABLE.

Omrow

muslim_kuri — Thu, 5 Jan 2006 - 20:21

[quote="Omrow"]
Therefore, there is nothing wrong with being fashionable, as long as you are SPIRITUALLY FASHIONABLE.

[/quote]

spiritually fashionable...hmmmm...i like that 😃

MuslimSisLilSis — Fri, 6 Jan 2006 - 12:52

[quote="Omrow"]

Therefore, there is nothing wrong with being fashionable, as long as you are SPIRITUALLY FASHIONABLE.

[/quote]

He has his good moments.

So omroW what would a spritually fashionable girl be dressed in