How do you know if your in love?

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Salam

"MuslimSister" wrote:
how does anyone know that they aren't in love but are just infatuated?

There is a clear difference:

Infatuation does not make you want to things for her. You just think about her. Thats it. You only day dream.

Whereas in love, you think about her AND you think about doing things for her. Things that are not necessarily liked by you.

You are willing to put yourself in pain for her. That is true love.

Everything else is fake and meaningless.

Omrow

"Omrow" wrote:

There is a clear difference:

Infatuation does not make you want to things for her. You just think about her. Whereas in love, you think about her and also think about doing things for her. Things that are not necessarily liked by you.

Omrow

So if some1 hasnt met her but what he can do for her, he tries to do then he might be in love? But what about if the person who might be in love thinks all this stuff is evil and wrong and so he would never make contact, can that be a true love or is that just infatuation?

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

Salam

As the binger said above: " you can not fall in love with someone that you do not know ".

And you can only truly know after an encounter.

If you have not met her than you can not love her.

Contact is one of the several requirments of love.

So... no touch, no love.

Omrow

I c.

well that was an interesting topic. So from it I understand that love is different for different ppl?

That it is necessary to meet the person for love to happen.

Anyway, I was pretty right about all this love rubbish. I think its just a devils plot and a branch of madness and its just a thing to make money for the fillum industry yah. lol

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

"MuslimSister" wrote:
Salaam

When you’re in love with someone you go out of your way to make them happy….nothing is too much trouble for you.

You’re happy when they’re happy and what upsets them upsets you too..

I don’t know if meeting is a necessary prerequisite for love…it should be because if you love someone you gotta KNOW them….you can not fall in love with someone that you do not know…ignorance does not lead to true love.

You can be "infatuated" with someone without knowing them-but not "in love".

I don’t believe in all that “the world becomes a more beautiful place” stuff….

But it’s true that love has often been described as a sickness that impairs the mental state, clouds ones vision and sense of reason…

And No, I’m not in love. I just love reading books by the Sufi’s…they knew what “being in love” was all about.

Wasalaam

well said

"Constantine" wrote:

First kid better be named Dawud for services rendered.

Okay you win i'm curious, what do you mean?

Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.

Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes

lol well it is customary to name your first child after a family member or somebody who was very important to you. Such as somebody who pulled you from a burning building.

And since Med can't very well name his first kid Dave - he can name him the islamic equivalent.

Reaching - I know

"Constantine" wrote:
lol well it is customary to name your first child after a family member or somebody who was very important to you. Such as somebody who pulled you from a burning building.

And since Med can't very well name his first kid Dave - he can name him the islamic equivalent.

Reaching - I know

dave i mentioned before but perhaps your a bit hard of hearing, [size=24][u][b]i am not in love[/b][/u][/size]

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

im not in love, jus a phase im goin thru..........sing along.... :roll:

we believe ya Biggrin

The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.

Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.

ɐɥɐɥ

"Constantine" wrote:

And since Med can't very well name his first kid Dave - he can name him the islamic equivalent...

That sort of reminds me, Dave when ever you're somewhere and either listening intently or not; and someone says the word 'Day' you say yourself looking up quickly coz you thought they were gonna say Dave/David even if its something like: 'Tuesday' (the 'day' at the end of the word)?

Just wondering.

Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.

Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes

"Dawud" wrote:
"Constantine" wrote:

And since Med can't very well name his first kid Dave - he can name him the islamic equivalent...

That sort of reminds me, Dave when ever you're somewhere and either listening intently or not; and someone says the word 'Day' you say yourself looking up quickly coz you thought they were gonna say Dave/David even if its something like: 'Tuesday' (the 'day' at the end of the word)?

Just wondering.

lol yea I do

"Med" wrote:
"Constantine" wrote:
lol well it is customary to name your first child after a family member or somebody who was very important to you. Such as somebody who pulled you from a burning building.

And since Med can't very well name his first kid Dave - he can name him the islamic equivalent.

Reaching - I know

dave i mentioned before but perhaps your a bit hard of hearing, [size=24][u][b]i am not in love[/b][/u][/size]

hmm its all obvious now, i know who med is in love with and i am not jokin but will stay hush....he must also be that guest tryin to make contact with a certain member

"Constantine" wrote:

lol yea I do

Wow this is so amazing, its like I have a brother or something, I was pretty sure it couldn't just be me, woah this is proper cool! I feel like it should be weird but it ain't, I think.
Dirol

Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.

Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes

"Dawud" wrote:
"Constantine" wrote:

lol yea I do

Wow this is so amazing, its like I have a brother or something, I was pretty sure it couldn't just be me, woah this is proper cool! I feel like it should be weird but it ain't, I think.
Dirol

I dunno any other Daves that do that.

It's real irritating too because there is no cool way to play it off. You turn around and say "yes?" and everybody stares back at you like some sort of idiot.

I have a decent exit strategy:

"Yes, today is Tuesday... or weren't you asking that?"

Sometimes it works.. Sometimes it doesn't

Do you still go by Dave for convenience?

Dunno what Dawud would shorten to

"D"

I'm not slick enough to use that one.

David actually, I had a spell where people started calling me Dave but I've always prefered David, its like Shakespear sort of said, odd numbers are cooler (5 letters as opposed to 4).

And the looking up thing used happen msinly when I was younger..ALOT.

Its not as common as i'm sort of used to Dawud now but it still happens.

My usual exit strategy was to make eye contact and grin while partially rising a eyebrow and the person wold just think I was saying Hi or acknoweledging them, most of the time people just didn't clock they perhaps thouyght this guys looking around and thats it, or so I assumed, but they could just as equally have been thinking:

"What an idiot, does he have a neck problem or something. I know a person with neck problems and he always does stupid things, maybe this guys a complete and utter freak- WHAT IF HE'S TELEPATHIC! he can probably hear every word I'm saying! quick shut up. stop thinking now.

Phew that was close, aghh no way i'm thinking again, shut up brain. shut up, shut up, shut up. AHhhh! why is everyone looking at me? Better stop smacking myself in the head. Okay he's looking at me, no wait he's not, no wait he is!!! Quick brain what do we do?

...

Oh right you want to start being quiet now? Fine, be like that."

It used to happen alot when I was 5 and 6 and in the end as long as the teacher didn't realize it was me wetting the carpet, I was reasonably happy.

Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.

Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes

lol didn't know Shakespear invented the word "Cool"

I used to go by David but when I hit 11 people decided they would change my name to Dave for me.

Can't fight popular will.

What's up with that incidentally? People are always really intent on assuming the level of familiarity that "Dave" affords.

"Hi Dave"
"That's "David" to you, i'm not your friend, i'm not your relative - I just met you NOW BACK OFF MY PERSONAL SPACE"
"Nice to meet you by the way"

lol - the telepathic thing - this might be another Dave thing.

Ever get paranoid you might be surrounded by Telepaths and they are reading your thoughts so you try to provoke them by thinking "If you were a telepath you would up to me right now and say "You were just thinking that if I were a telepath I would walk right up to you and say this""

Okay... that's just me.

Pretend I never said that.

Good exit strategy by the way! It gives them the opportunity to not actually notice you thought they were calling your name - whereas intentionally hailing them gives you no such security.

David is just such a nice word, its sort of geometric and regular with shaqrp but professional corners, I always thought it was sort of red or even white depending on the mood, but always something charasmatic and meaningful.

Whereas Dave is just like an exhalation, no depth just like at quick gentle breeze, here one momment gone the next, i dunno it sort makes me feel unprotected and vulnerable like it had no strength to it, but with David you know even if the storm comes you don't get lost in it easily.

Incidently my surname always felt green, so it was like red aqnd green were two dominant colours to me.

As for the telepathic thing, there comes a moment where you don't know if you're actually being psychic or overly nuerotic, but i've noticed things like just knowing exactly what people are thinking or about to say. But the mind really likes to play these things down a bit.

I used to be paranoid that I was surronded by telepaths, so I sort of learnt how to 'not think' but its hard to maintain.

You just reminded me of all my games I used to play like if someone randomnly shot you in the stomach, what would be your first reaction.

Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.

Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes

It is rather geometric isn't it.

I always thought of it as a big block.

DAVID.

Starts on a sharp note and ends on it.

Never really assigned it a color though (lol ironically enough your colors are Christmas) I suppose I would assign it deep blue my favorite color.

hahah when I was a little kid I actually argued with another kid about who's name it was. I was perfectly convinced I was the only David in the entire world.

Now it's like were in a club.

My surname is way too common. Kinda bothers me.

Although I do have a special claim to the 20 dollar bill which is nice because I could use a few more.

So what would you do if somebody randomly shot you in the stomach?

I suppose I would find the sharpest object I could and lash out at whatever direction I thought it came from.

Ok, you two should take this to pm, cuz I'm getting scared now

~Judgements prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.~

"God put me on this earth to accomplish a certain number of things. Right now I am so far behind that I will never die" ~ Bill Watterson

"Constantine" wrote:

Never really assigned it a color though (lol ironically enough your colors are Christmas)

I know.

"Constantine" wrote:

My surname is way too common. Kinda bothers me.

Although I do have a special claim to the 20 dollar bill which is nice because I could use a few more.


So what you're David Jackson or David Sawbuck?

it knida funny if you were called David Jackson as I have a friend called that.

"Constantine" wrote:

So what would you do if somebody randomly shot you in the stomach?

I suppose I would find the sharpest object I could and lash out at whatever direction I thought it came from.

I used have alot of favourites but possibly my favourite was stick my index finger and thumb into the wound and pull the bullet out an then throw it hard into the eyes of the person who shot me and then go psycho on them, i used to love going psycho on people, you don't feel pain or anything until you cool down, now i'm just a shadow, if you haven't noticed me then i've probably noticed you.

Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.

Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes

"Dawud" wrote:
"Constantine" wrote:

Never really assigned it a color though (lol ironically enough your colors are Christmas)

I know.

"Constantine" wrote:

My surname is way too common. Kinda bothers me.

Although I do have a special claim to the 20 dollar bill which is nice because I could use a few more.


So what you're David Jackson or David Sawbuck?

it knida funny if you were called David Jackson as I have a friend called that.

"Constantine" wrote:

So what would you do if somebody randomly shot you in the stomach?

I suppose I would find the sharpest object I could and lash out at whatever direction I thought it came from.

I used have alot of favourites but possibly my favourite was stick my index finger and thumb into the wound and pull the bullet out an then throw it hard into the eyes of the person who shot me and then go psycho on them, i used to love going psycho on people, you don't feel pain or anything until you cool down, now i'm just a shadow, if you haven't noticed me then i've probably noticed you.

Ah! Typo - that was to be 10 dollar bill.

lol your stomach scenario sounds like something from rambo - I totally wouldn't mess with a guy who did that.

The only problem would be what happens if you didn't find the bullet...

Then there would just be an awkward pause while you attempt to disembowel yourself with your finger.

Which might be equally impressive.

Throw a kidney at em!

"angel" wrote:

hmm its all obvious now, i know who med is in love with and i am not jokin but will stay hush....he must also be that guest tryin to make contact with a certain member

Firstly Im not in love so you cant know who im in love with. hence no need for you to be hush. Having said that, keep your idea to yourself cos its rong to embarass ppl or spread rumours, not saying you have, just saying you should remain as you are.

secondly that guest trying to make contact was something that happened ages before i came on the scene. I can say also that i am not trying to contact any1 by being an invisible guest, the style of that guest and mine is different plus he started his post before i even came to this forum.

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

lol med i'm just playin.

Why [i]did[/i] you want to know anyway?

just out of curiosity. nothing wrong with that is there?

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

"Med" wrote:
"angel" wrote:

hmm its all obvious now, i know who med is in love with and i am not jokin but will stay hush....he must also be that guest tryin to make contact with a certain member

Firstly Im not in love so you cant know who im in love with. hence no need for you to be hush. Having said that, keep your idea to yourself cos its rong to embarass ppl or spread rumours, not saying you have, just saying you should remain as you are.

duh, thats why i didnt add who i thought you loved cuz it wouldnt be fair nor appropriate in naming someone. Ok only you know wether you are in love but the way you have posted here suggests somethin else.

k, well im sorry i give that impression.

I have denied it, i only asked out of curiosity, i dont think i need to deny it again as i have already denied it quite clearly.

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

"Hayder and Hamilton's, the best transatlantic law firm around"

"One of my great, great (one two skip a few) great grand fathers wrote some of them [the federalist papers]."

and guess who's on the ten dollar bill, wow its all falling into place, I can't believe your one of the desendants of one of the most prolific delegates to the Philadelphia convention, its like i'm talking to royalty or something :shock: , so was your family based in New York or something?

Honestly it is like you're royalty, y'know! amazing! Smile

Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.

Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes

lol my dad is from mass. his grandad is from NYC.

thus the near inexplicable reason I am a huge Yankees and Patriots fan.

even though I hate the sox and giants

Alex was a good constitutional framer but a terrible family man - cheated on his wife and ended up getting killed as an indirect result

Well you're still celebrity in my eyes Biggrin So erm...do you mind if I tell a friend or two tht I have a mate who's a direct desendant of Alexander Hamilton? Wink

Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.

Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes

"Dawud" wrote:
Well you're still celebrity in my eyes Biggrin So erm...do you mind if I tell a friend or two tht I have a mate who's a direct desendant of Alexander Hamilton? Wink

Well then! I will be signing autographs in the pavilion!

Sure go ahead and tell your friends.

I'll sign for them too!

lol why on Earth would they care? I would imagine most foreigners barely know about the Constitutional Convention, let alone the people who attended!

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