hi,
not sure if anyone will be able help but i could wiv some advise....:(
i really like someone with a clean intention of marrying them but the other person doesnt feel as strong about it , it leaves me really confused becoz i dont know where i stand.
im not 100% religious but id rather not be in a girlfriend boyfriend relationship as i believe they can lead to wrong things and wont do me any good.
but neway i decided to to istihara namaz on this , i really dont understand my sign though..... im not sure if its gud or bad....
i had a dream of me my mum n the guy i like . me and mum are walkin into his car for a lift down to the hospital. wen i get into the car the guy i like tells me to slip on sum white clothing as the weather isnt to gud outside.this clothing highlights thru out the whole dream....
as he drives my mum starts mentioning the topic about marriage, im getting really annoyed at my mum as i didnt want him thinkin i put my mum up 2 it, but neway he turns around and says that aunty i tel her the same...but she doesnt listen....
we arrive at the hospital so me n mum get out...we hav a lil tif on the way n spilit up.... the guy i like meets me afterwards n i ask him why he rejected my offer of marriage in the dream he says he likes me but he wants perfection n im not dat.....
but at the same time im gettin gud vibes from him , he sed we shall talk at 10pm sooo i await excitedly for that time but that time nevr comes as i wake up....
i woke up feeling really happy and positive n thats dont usually happen either...
was this a gud dream or a bad dream....i reali dnt know...
did this dream even mean anythink...
shud i keep doin istihara until im 100%
if anyone has any answers plz do let me knw...
thank you
x
If the other person does not feel as strong/does not want to marry you, I don't see how you have any choice really.
With istikhara - if you feel positive, it means go for it. It is less about the content of a dream, but asking Allah (swt) to guide you in feelings and actions.
According to this page, white is also a good sign, but once again, it is less about having a dream - which it has been boiled down to in society - and more about asking Allah (swt) to guide you in action and then YOU DO WHAT YOU THINK IS BEST.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
it can take up to 7 days to receive some sort of guidance.
the guy said he isn't too keen on the marriage, move on?
thanx for ur replies.... wat ur sayin makes sense but sumtimes he says it can wrk n sumtimes he says it cant, its ever sooo confusin this is why i did the istihara to help me move on with the guidance of allah... inshallah i will keep tryin until i can get a clearer msg.....
also noor u mentioned that it can take up2 7days to get a a sign does that mean i hav to keep doin the istihara up until den or is doin it the once jus fine....??
xxx
yup, you keep praying salahtul istikhara.
has the guy prayed salahtul istikhara yet?
no i havent even informed him that i have performed it....
wudnt want to pressurise him into it, wud be great if he cud ....
thanx once again appreciate ur time in replyin....
xx
It sounds like a good dream :/
Tell him to get his act together otherwise to pass off.
if you're serious about the marriage ask him to pray it.
I think you wanted an "i" in there, not an "a"...
As for it being good or not... depends on how you look at it (he was not the knight in shining armour... but generally white is taken to mean good).
Forget the dream, as it is more about trusting yourself. Even with Istikhara. It is about asking God to help you in your decision making, but even then, you have to choose yourself.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
u lot r soo sweet wiv ur opinions ... duno how to fank u all
"you" u sed to make my decison according towat my heart sayin well after the istihara its tellin me too keep tryin .... inside my heart i have hope but i jus dnt want false hope coz later on itl be me who will hav to pay for it....:(
but u lot r rite i need to be alot stronger if i show my weakness he will show his not interested mre.... i need to be able to hav mre control in the sense if it cant happen den lets leave it to this....
mashallah his a lovely person though
leave it for a while, ask him in a few weeks/months time and if he's still not interested, move on.
i shall take ur advice n do that.....
its gna be hard either way....but i hav to take responsibility now rather than moan about it later wen fings goooo rng....
xx
i agree with Noor if the guy truly loves you and wants to be with you then he will be fine with concept of marriage and i agree, that leave him for a while if he comes back then fine hope it works for you inshAllah but if not then just move on because you can't wait for someone forever its just not fair on you. May Allah grant u happiness and guide you on straight path, ameen.
hope it all works out for u .
For that to happen... he has to know her and if the situation is being read correctly, they have managed to avoid such things...
If the guy suggests dating - he is playing you. (its from "the asian players rulebook"... if a girl is not succumbing to your advances... mention marriage and she will be under your thumb.)
He might just be afraid. Or it may be something else - but only you can decide that.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
thank u so much ....inshallah i will go by what u lot hav said....
"you" lol @ datin means his playin me due to the fact it cumin frm an asian players rulebook..... so tru dou
st786 : thanx for the sweet wishes....