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^^^^ xena warrior princess
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
The "screaming" you're referring to is in fact called uluating and it is not only an arab thing but is used in india and africa as well as the middle east. And its not weird-every culture is different and unique and if you dont recognise or practice a custom, it is not right to take the mick out of it. Everyone has different ways of expressing their happiness, what may be weird to you may make so much sense to others.
My wedding will be a low-key, dignified affair, insha'Allah.
Just martial arts and someone playing the bagpipes :roll:
Some magazine people may be getting invites, BTW. Book 5 June 2009, insha'Allah.
Don't just do something! Stand there.
erm
I wasn't taking the p***
I just didnt know how to explain it, as I didn't know what the term was
n NOWHERE did I call it screaming, the other person said that thank u very much
n I even said it was a crap explanation since I didnt know what it was called
n I DIDNT say it was an arab thing, the other person said thats what some arabs do at their weddings, thats why I responded beause I knew what they meant
I don't think anyone was tkaing the mick out of it, there's a reason why I put it in inverted commas. Now that you've said what it is I think everyone knows.
“Before death takes away what you are given, give away whatever there is to give.”
Mawlana Jalal ud Din Rumi
Seriously?
Ive never been on the brides side (apparently its really boring in comparison to the guys side, well at least thats what my mum says).
If your weddings are anything like mine then I can assure you that you aint missing out on anything.
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
I've been to many weddings: Scottish, English, Malay, Somali, mixed Pakistani and British, mixed Pakistani and Irish. Some have cost thousands and thousands of pounds, some have cost less than a hundred. Some were segregated, some were mixed. One of my friends had his wedding in a coffee shop (yes, really).
My favourite ones are Malay. And I'm not just saying that to suck-up to the in-laws. It's just a really chillaxed atmosphere and they make a MASSIVE bowel of curry (they have to stir it with a broom handle) and LOTS of chicken satay with peanut sauce (possibly the tastiest food outside of Jannah) and then you just sit and chat to people, then some guys do martial arts and sing TERRIBLE Malaysian pop songs.
And to top it all off you get given an egg (?) as a gift when you leave.
What more could you want?
One of my school friends was ASTOUNDED when I said I was getting married. He said he'd never been to a wedding in his life, and asked if we were going to have snakes (?!).
Don't just do something! Stand there.
Free range or the opposite of free range. Raw or cooked?
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
What are you, a rooster?
I think they're boiled eggs and the chickens that laid them have probably never seen daylight.
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So... is it like a cauldron?
Do they wear pointy hats?
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
Their hats are sort of 'pointy', more like a peak, though.
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ypu're getting married??
thats the plan
Translation:
insh'ALLAH!
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
There's still three spaces that are unallocated, so don't give up hope!
(that was a joke, btw, before anyone accuses me of being inappropriate or whatever).
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hahahaahahahaha!!!!
Don't worry
my SOH is still intact
awww
mashaallah
I'm happy for you
I just didn't know u were getting married though
are we all invited???
Not ALL... but some (mainly magazine people and oldies).
She was at the IslamExpo for a bit, I think you were chasing American social commentators... She was with another charity and tried to get some people from our stall to contribute (which I'm sure they did because they're generous souls).
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LOL
so I missed future mrs yaqub??
ah damn...!
You do make me laugh.
I met her mum! she was really nice
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
Yeah, but in Islam a woman doesn't change her second name when she marries. So in the eyes of Islam she will not be Mrs Bell, poor Yaqub.
“Before death takes away what you are given, give away whatever there is to give.”
Mawlana Jalal ud Din Rumi
As long as she cooks and cleans, I don't care what she's called!
(that's a joke too, for all the serious so-and-sos)
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most of the asian wedding iv been to in britain have done all of that and more! :)mye it is fun but not very islamic :S
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
I didnt know her name, thats y!
Throwing money over the grooms head might be because your wasting money which isnt allowed. I also missed out the necklaces made out of money (how could i forget that), that could be classed as a wedding present rather then wasting money. The stick thing i dont think theres anything unislamic about that hmmmm and isnt wearing oil sunnah? :?
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
Is it because they are not allowed to or because they dont have to? Ive heard its not allowed because its construed as the wife belonging to the husband (like property) or something like that.
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
I don't think it says that she's not allowed, if you went to the Sahaba and told them about this they'll be like: "What?"
I think the concept was alien at that time.
“Before death takes away what you are given, give away whatever there is to give.”
Mawlana Jalal ud Din Rumi
I dont it says anywhere that a woman CANNOT or HAS to take on her hubby's name. I've stuck with my maiden name only because its too much hassle with getting new passport/driving liscence etc. I know my husband would like our kids to be named after him, I dont personally mind.
Aren't sons named after their father and daughters named after their mother? Is this just my imagination?
Anyway, this way of naming (along with a wife not-taking her husband's name) was around in Arabian culture before the advent of Islam. Does this mean its 'Islamic' or not? Or whether its a 'duty' or not? I have absolutely no idea.
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As far as I'm aware it is the right of a muslimah to choose whether she wants to take on her husbands name or keep her maiden name.
I know loads of girls who take on their husbands first name - I always thought it was his surname. I think some first names sound odd as surnames.
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