HMMMMMMM

My family are the "marry your own kind" type.
However, I think when it comes to it, they might relax
who knows
it's all in the hands of destiny
I'm not sure what I want tbh!

I think many of us have gotten used to the idea that perhaps we will find our own partners in life. Somehow marrying someone you already know seems less scary than marrying someone you're parents have chosen for you.

It is also the case that unfortunately sometimes what we want and what our parents want are not the same thing. What is clear is that its an important decision that will affect us for the rest of our lives and should not be made in haste nor for the wrong reasons.

Its seems destiny has a habbit of testing our resolve. We can either choose to take the easy road or a much harder path. Only know this, neither guarantee's success or failure.

You only get out of life, what you put in it.

I don't mind my parents helping me to choose, as long as they realise that it'll be MY decision at the end of the day. This is something that'll affect the rest of your life, as Seraphim rightly pointed out. Rushing is a road to disaster! You have to take you're time thinking, find the common ground, have the dialogue and put your faith in Allah.
Which is easier said than done, I'm afriad.

Wow. A thread about marriage. On the Revival forum.

What a surprise.

Ya'qub wrote:

Wow. A thread about marriage. On the Revival forum.

What a surprise.

LOL... i know.

Young folk these days ey?

Summer is here.

What d'ya expect.

Sirus wrote:

Salaam

hope everyone is well inshallah.

I was just wondering (no particular reason...ahem), but is there anyone here who is married and chose their own partner, as opposed to parents made the choice?

And for the majority who i am presuming are not married, what are your views? gonna let your parents choose, or hoping to meet a good partner yourself?

Just interested.

wasalaam

Im sure others will contribute more if you answer the questions first