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Her choice.
We may not like it, but that is the way it is.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
yeah better to get married than mess about. But it depends on what you meanby persuasion, it tends to border on force sometimes.
If she's adamant on marrying the guy she was dating, and will go to extreme lengths to do so, isn't it better she marries that guy? What usually happens is parents are like "over my dead body are you marrying the guy you dated. You can choose who you marry just as long as it's not someone you dated". That doesn't always work does it?
As for supportive brothers, i've been blessed with a very loving bunch of brothers, they would never back my parents if they tried to force me or anyone else in the family to get married. I think it's coz of their influence that my parents have begun to change their very traditional views. They're more willing for us to marry anyone as long as they're muslim. They'll allow us to choose. They won't force anyone on us. 15 yrs ago they weren't open to such ideas at all.
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I read it somewhere that if you marry someone in a love marriage it doesn't last as long then if you marry someone in an arranged marriage.
So if this is true wouldn't it be a good idea not to marry the guy that you dated...
Oh, I thought bengali parents always wanted their children to marry within their culture. Guess this view is changing....(none of the bengali cousins I have married outside their culture)
‘Honour killing’ duo convicted
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ive heard many stories like this one
Some pakistanis parents are off their trolley, i mean come on why force youre offspring to marry some mangy from pakistan with a big tash lol really whats wrong with you, would you like it if i forced you to marry a mangy , i guess not.
Most of these people are brainwashed by their family from back home theyre twisted these people, can they not find something else to keep them ammused then to prepare for a wedding, why are Pakistanis so obsessed with weddings and getting their kids married to their 1st cousins, and cousins from back home.
We have nothing in common with these people apart from the fact by somehow we are unfortunately related to them SO does that give anyone the right to forcefullly marry their kids of to them.
Its more tradition than anything else and alot of Pakistanis mistake it with Islam. Under no circumstances are you to forcefully marry anyone against their will in Islam. Islam has strict guidlines on marriage such as you should look to 3 criterias for choosing a partner:
1st) ATTRACTION, If youre not attracted to them then you aint gonna stick with them, if everytime they hold you or kiss you and it sends shivers down youre spine, then why torture yourself.
2nd) PIETY, You should surround yourself with pious people who practice Islam and fear Allah so it rubs off on you. Being married to a pious women or man will help you greatly in getting closer to Allah.
3rd) Family, This is a tough one as you dont always know what their family is like, but you might have an idea.
ATTRACTION is the main one so you should always get married to someone who you are attracted towards doesnt always been physical attraction but could be other criterias whicj attract you to them, lol no not money.
Arranged marriages are not wrong as long as the parents dont force their children. Arranged marriage means that the parents can choose and show you some potential partners ultimately it should be youre choice ONLY then and ONLY then will it be an accepted marriage and ONLY then will it be blessed by Allah.
Most pakistanis and sub continental asians think arranged marriages is forcefully marrying someone off, oh how wrong they are, how wrong they are.
Islam is the Key to paradise but without practice it won't open the gates.
most of our parents generation never had a say in their marriage
it seemed to have worked for them
Not really they are too scared to say anything that will offend their parents or their honour. Or they are stuck in their ways and think its okay to spend the rest of their life with someone they don't really love.
They'd rather marry someone just for the sake of marriage and to please their parents wishes i.e getting married to youre cousin or someone you never heard of often not caring how they feel, this is wrong.
Just coz theres not much divorce cases in arranged marriages doesnt mean that given the choice they would run a mile. Often they are unhappy but go along with what their family says out of the stigma it will cause.
Theres nothing wrong with Love marriage's in Islam aslong as its done the proper way set by Islam. Alot of subcontinental people have this idea that love marriage is haraam and arranged marriage is the halaal way, that is wrong and is not the mentality of the majoirity of muslims across the globe.
Unfortunately only our kind think like this.
Islam is the Key to paradise but without practice it won't open the gates.
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