A sisters dilemma: Should she propose or not?

A sisters dilemma

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The first time u saw him was at a talk

And u watched him as he walked

With his mates to his car

You and he seemed far away

As u drove home the opposite way

You thought about him

The rest of the week

And felt weak

Unable to breath

The second time was near the masjid

He was coming out

And u were going in

Your eyes met

And u looked away

But felt his eyes on u

Taking a long appreciative look

Since then

Your paths have crossed often

An uneasy feeling

You can’t quite imagine

Him proposing and kneeling

He’s so knowledgeable

And beautiful

In demand

While your Ms Average

In education and looks

Although u can knit and cook

He can’t be interested in you

The sisters who are Alimah’s

Give talks and have a high profile

Get all the attention

While those like u

Are ignored

You told your- friends

And they smiled and laughed

It must be love

Nice to know that

Even the pious have these feelings

We get them regularly

What to do

You didn’t know

Felt lost and confused

Friends were bemused

They said it’s easy

If u like him

Feel this way about him

Based on his Islamic personality

And other good qualities

Then instead of waiting

Contemplating

For him to notice

Why don’t u take the lead

And propose to him

Via your Wali?

The advice shocks u

Throws u into more despair

And your inner fears surface

What if he rejects u?

The shame and embarrassment

Being talked about

Then it dawns

Like a flash of lightening

This is what brothers go through

Before and after proposing

And u understand that it cuts both ways

It’s better to compromise

Find middle ground

Propose and be proposed to

As the situation demands

Instead of expecting

Waiting

Anticipating

Brothers to do all the work

Because of the pressure

by your own culture

east and West

Hard to Confess

But there it is

Truth stands clear from falsehood

Author: Showkotali@hotmail.com