A few of my mates have confessed to me that they masturbate as its the only way they can stay away from entering in to haram relationships; they're too young or not financially stable to get married and some of them are even married- what does Islam say about masturbation and what advice can you offer?
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In the name of Allah the Most Beneficent and Merciful
Masturbation by one’s own hand or self is not permissible in Islam.
Allah (The Exalted) says: “Those who guard their sexual organs except with their spouses or those whom their right hands possess, for (with regard to them) they are without blame. But those who crave something beyond that are transgressors.” (23:5-7)
The above verse is used as evidence by all four Imams of Fiqh that masturbation is prohibited.
It is also mentioned in various Hadith as follows that Imam Ibn Kathir has wrote in volume 5 p. 458; Hasan Ibn Arifah reports: The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said,
'Seven persons are such that Allah will not look at them on the Day of Qiyaamat nor will He purify them nor will He include them among the learned and Allah will enter them into Jahannam. They will enter Jahannam first except for those who repent. As those who repent Allah will accept their repentance.
- A person who masturbates.
- A person who performs the act of sodomy.
- The person upon whom the act of sodomy is performed.
- A perpetual drunkard.
- The person who hits his parents so much that they appeal for help.
- The person who harms his neighbours so much so that they curse him.
- The person who commits adultery with his neighbour's wife.
It is spiritually wrong as well as morally wrong due to the fact that that when one masturbates they are taking away the right of their spouse (if they are married) or the fulfilment of getting married. However, many youth then claim that masturbation is the only way they can stay away from sin. Although one has to understand that normally sexual arousement occurs when a person either sees something that makes them want to commit a sexual act or they may involve themselves in a relationship which then leads on to masturbation. In both cases a person is not allowed to put themselves in that position.
The other problem is that their relationship with their spouse is not a fulfilling one and therefore to fulfil their sexual hunger they feel they have to masturbate. In this situation it is still not allowed and in some ways even worse as this could deprive their marriage of one of its essential ingredients.
It is permissible for a wife to masturbate her husband and vice versa. (Radd ul Mohtar). Therefore if the husband has the urge to this then he may allow his wife to do this for him. Also, if there are other reasons why a husband feels the need to masturbate then he must identify the root cause and discuss this with his spouse.
If a person knows for sure that if they did not masturbate then they would commit fornication, then in this situation the lesser of the two evils is to masturbate as fornication would be a worse sin. One should still repent after this.
If a person feels the urge to masturbate on a regular basis then they should get married if they can financially afford to do so. If this is not possible then a person should fast as this according to the Hadith will quell a person’s sexual urge (due to weakness resulting from the lack of food and drink).
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said,
'O group of youth! Whoever from among you can marry should do so because it keeps the gaze low and it protects the private parts. And he who cannot marry should make it compulsory upon himself to fast because it breaks lust.' (Bukhari & Muslim)
What else can I do to stay away from masturbation?
- The motive to seek a cure for this problem should be solely following Allah's orders and fearing His punishment.
- Lowering the gaze (from looking at forbidden things such as pictures, movies etc.) will help suppress the desire before it leads one to commit the haraam (forbidden).
- Using one's available leisure time in worshipping Allah and increasing religious knowledge.
- A person should pray after every Salaah and ask for help from Allah to refrain from sin.
- Trying to follow the Prophet's (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) recommendation concerning the etiquette of getting ready for bed, such as reading well-known supplications, sleeping on the right side, and avoiding sleeping on the belly (the Prophet forbade sleeping on the belly).
- Repenting, asking forgiveness from Allah, doing good deeds, and not losing hope and feeling despair are all prerequisites to curing this problem.
Of course Allah knows best.
Comments
ws YOU.
EID MUBARAK to you and everyone else.
Ayatollah rightly named America as "Great Satan".
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Eid Mubarak to you and your family too.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
I thought these views were only amongst the very old...
there is NO TABOO in Islam
Any issue, especially one which concerns the youth, both men and women, should be discussed on platforms where youth can get access to them like a website or youth magazine.
Shouldnt women be educated on this topic. Dont/can't women do this act. Course they can so thats they need to be educated on it.
And if you think 10 /12 year old dont know what this is then you will be shocked!
Parents also need to know about this issue in light of quran n sunnah so they can be educated and answer to their young ones when asked.
shying away from the topic and saying ooh its disgusting, rude, hayaa is lost.... im afraid we're doing unjustice to our youth and need to adjust and understand the needs of the times.
Although I agree with part of what your saying here, and I understand what you mean in regards to doing unjustice to the youth of this time, I believe there are certain issues and topics which DO need some kind of restriction because the haya IS lost when it is discussed openly between men and women, theres no shame left when you talk about masturbation with strangers and when haya is lost there is no Imaan (and imaan is THE MOST important thing in Islam to get closer to Allah and Rasool
). You are talking about your personal and sexual desires and needs openly.We cannot talk about anything and everything because it will do injustice to the youth. This is where I would assume the parents need to step in and educate their children. (which unfortuantely does not happen most of the times).
However, considering this article is for educational purposes I think its an exception because parents are put into a strange position when it comes to these topics and may not feel capable to discuss it openly with their child. So if strangers do refer to it for educational purposes I think there should not be a problem.
Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.
but the thing is, this is an article, the person reads it in the comfort of their home and there's no real "discussion". then if they have any more question, they can just ask parents (<--yes, yes, i did include them in my theory!)
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
its just disgusting to read such a thing before your family all sitting in the living room.
Ayatollah rightly named America as "Great Satan".
www.presstv.ir
Read it alone then.
With the question of "hiya"/modesty and discussing this issue, I just want to note, that the comments are not actually discussing this issue, just whether it is appropriate to do so.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
oh my god!!! we so need more articles like this. our parents are so backwards and are too embarrassed to speak about these things and when they find out the children have been doing it they go off on one saying how bad it is and all. but if you havent been educated about it they cannot tell you that you are a disgrace to the family.
well done revival!!! i look forward to reading more open topics like this they are very informative and will hopefully keep the believing youth on the right path and bring the non practising youth back on the right path.
thanks for your post. Im glad someone has benefitted lol
I frankly think it is unreal that you would even bother with an article like this. Is there no limit to the extent to which the Imams and so-called scholars will interfer in the lives of Muslims?
This is NONE of your business. It is ridiculous. Is there any wonder that no one on this earth respects Muslims?
Instead of making sure we are educated, lead fulfilling lives, improve our economic and political standing, we are obsessing over issues like this, or menstruation and other things that are PRIVATE and of concern only to INDIVIDUALS.
I would challenge all my bearded brothers to actually consider important issues. We are facing GRAVE issues and yet all we focus on is this basic 'Islam for dummies' stuff.
Has it ever occurred to you that once upon a time, Muslims were philosophers and scientists who occupied themselves with issues more challenging than masturbation or whether a woman's ears are covered. It's embarassing.
We must move away from these simplistic issues and actually start contributing positively to the world we live in.
Any non-Muslim looking at site would LAUGH at us.
Masturbation. Get a life.
Knowing what is halaal and haraam is important.
Go read fiqh and you will read that they did not only deal with the philosophical but also the mundane.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
@ Hisham
Do you agree with homosexuality? Or do you think that's a personal matter too?
You understand that Islam is a complete way of life, right?
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
+1
this is a youth side, dealing with YOUTH issues. Masturbation is quite a biggy. not one that needs to be dealt with over and over again. because there is ONE straight forward point of view about the matter. hence warning the youth is important. especially for us who lives in anon-muslim country where this might be seen as something normal and something that all "youth" go through and do at some point.
whereas in Islam its NOT allowed.
i dont see how this is a minor issue. For the YOUTH.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
You also seem to have missed or ignored the ahadith in the article ^^. Which show how big of an issue it really is.
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
Those who curse Aisha and Hafsah, Also curse The Beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and all the believers too
1. "The Prophet is closer to the believers than their selves, and his wives are their mothers."
Qur'an 33:6
2. "Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable."
Quran 24: 26
ALLAH GAVE THE WIVES OF THE PROPHETS THE TITLE MOTHERS OF THE BELIEVERS, ALLAH ALSO STATED WOMEN IMPURE ARE FOR IMPURE MEN! SO WHEN YOU SAY OUR MOTHERS AISHA AND HAFSAH ARE IMPURE, YOU NOT ONLY CURSE THE PROPHETS WIVES BUT YOU ALSO CURSE THE HOLY PROPHET TOO!
Conclusion:
What better way to conclude than with more Ayahs of Quran:
"But the Unbelievers,- their deeds are like a mirage in sandy deserts, which the man parched with thirst mistakes for water; until when he comes up to it, he finds it to be nothing: But he finds Allah (ever) with him, and Allah will pay him his account: and Allah is swift in taking account."
Quran 24: 39
"Indeed, those who [falsely] accuse chaste, unaware and believing women are cursed in this world and the Hereafter; and they will have a great punishment. On a Day when their tongues, their hands and their feet will bear witness against them as to what they used to do.That Day, Allah will pay them in full their deserved recompense, and they will know that it is Allah who is the perfect in justice."
Quran 24: 23-25
“It is only those who believe not in the Ayah (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) of Allah, who fabricate falsehood, and it is they who are liars."
Quran 16:105
Allah knows Best
Haha you made me laugh out LOuddddd
Its an issue which any respectable sister should be aware of..... we are future mothers after all. How do you expect the ummah to have knowledge about their deen if their parents or they themselves are too afraid or ignorant to seek it?
Slaves?
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
first of all i think people need to calm down you are allowed to ask anything you want why??? well first of all the prophet did things for reasons like marry wives for certain reasons and people thought it to be some sort of taboo at the time of the prophet you think women wernt allowed to ask questions openly you need to understand you need to rid yourself of backward thinking.. even at that time people wernt as backward as yourselves do u know children learn at a very young age and that it is common for young people as youngf as 10 to experiment so who will tell these kids??? from what age should you start reading namaz and it becomes a must for you the same with learning about these matters that should be OPEN not hidden and for people to feel embarassed about these problems must be discussed as it does happen... dont be ignorant!!!!
Im all thumbs up 4 this article and the many more to come....
There's nothing wrong with having fiddle
Its save, you're not committing any kind of zina
no child is born as a result
I can’t see the harm in it
My English is not very good
Your word is not the law.
We go by the qur'an and hadith.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
I never said it was
My English is not very good
You're tryna make out it's ok.
You really should read up on aqeedah like Ya'qub suggested
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
My English is not very good
There is a difference between "there is nothing wrong with" and "as a last resort"
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
The point is that zina is the greater sin compared to this and if this "little sin" stops you from doing the "big sin" then it should have been allowed just for that if nothing else
My English is not very good
It is allowed as a last resort.
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
I mean it should have been allowed as a first resort thinking that it may stop a person from committing zina
My English is not very good
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