well..during exam time, as is always common, all sorts of project and ideas flow to you; only to be restrained (sometimes) by your duty to exams. and for some, this is where it stops. "i must revise, so i must stop thinking abt all those projects and ideas, i'll do them after exam" even though..more often then not, those projects are as if magically wiped from our memory the momemnt we become free.
for me though, this is not where it stops; stubborn as i am (and please God, never take this away from me) i will keep on the thinking. i must stop thinking abt this because of exams, and then... why do i need to pass those exams?
some have dreams already, to become doctors and what not...most though...are only going through the motions; shrugging when asked that very question as if to say "what else is there to do? that's how it is, that's how its suppose to be"
this blog is not abt going uni or capitalist society...or maybe it is..a little...let's not think abt what its abt though..let's just keep going with the story...
when i think abt that question, only sadness comes to me. i must get those grades to go uni or what not and to eventually get a job. all this entails one thing that stands out to me and that's that we have to become adults. that i have to become a grown up.
and when i look around me. i dont want to be a grown up. that sentence isnt very accurate. any such generalizing statement will never be very accurate...
i dont want to be a grown up when i look at grown up around me.
that might be a little bit more accurate; so many things that grown up do...or dont do. its like they've lost something. something to make them be able to dream, imagine, smile and be happy.
or maybe its not something they lost..maybe its like pollution on white socks...slowly slowly they go grey..and you dont even realise..until you take your shoes off and see the part of your socks where it was protects.
we dont realise but maybe..slowly slowly...we're getting "tainted" with adulthood. even I. and this...for some reason..make me so sad.
im not talking abt the responsibilities. that's okay. that's fair. there's no problem with that.
but become an adult...feels like getting lobotomized.
you're always trying to blame others
never truthful about feelings
finding it so difficult to smile or laugh or genuinely feel happy.
untrusting
not giving friendliness out easily
suspicious abt everything all the time
always seeing the bad before the good
complaining all the time
bounded by society's made up, stupid, illogical, unreasonable, unhealthy, always-changing ideas. (cant call it value or norm)
find it hard to believe.
looking at the majority of grown up. this is what its like to be an adult. and i NEVER want to be like this.
what im saying is. dont expect me to grow up and become an adult. coz i'll never consider myself one.
i'd rather be naive and get hurt sometimes then be sceptical and miss out on beign happy or meeting amazing people.
of course. we got to learn from our mistakes and past experiences. and yeah, with becoming an adult. actually change that to becoming older. with becoming older you gain responsibilities. but that's that. that's no bad thing. thats good. the power to change things and make things go your way.
becoming an adult should be abt changing the world, making others happy, defending the weak, advising the oppressors, justice, fairness, happiness.
and dont tell me "oh yuo and your dreams" and "oh, life isnt like that, some stuff are out of our hands"
well who took it out your hands in the first place? but forget that. so what if its out of your hand? thats why there's GOD. in good times we thank Him. in bad time we pray. when things are seemingly out of our hands, we pray. that restores the balance of justice. but you'd have to believe..and thats onethings adults find difficult to do.
anyway, all those criticisms of adultness above. if people believed in Allah and feared Him and followed the prophet sallallahu'alaihiwassalaam's example. all this stuff wouldnt be. kids would look up to adults.
coz adults wouldnt be white socks tainted by polution.
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Hmmm.. in all honesty.. 18 is when your legally classed as an adult and at 16, people around you make it out that you need to work towards that and act like one! I think you can still meet amazing people, have fun, be happy and live life, when your 20, 25, 30 and so on. It's the choices you make and obviously you don't need to be like everyone else. However there is a point in life, when you need to mature a little because it looks silly when you see an older person doing something that you'd see a younger person doing. Sometimes it's important that you remember how old you are though! No need to be a kid all the time. I think being naive is not only associated with the younger generation. I think adults can be naive at the same time. Everyone learns from mistakes and past experiences, even adults do. It's just an occurance that happens in life because you can't be perfect all the time!
Some of those points up there (like the trust issues, the complaining, the suspicions, the blaming, the believing, yeah, those...) have made me think really hard. I don't think it's restricted to adults only. Even before your an adult, when your a teenager or a kid, you still manage to be able to be an expert at atleast one of those. Why are adults made to seem like they're boring and all sad? They're not, seriously!! Some people begin to realise what their living for later on in life and you shouldn't let age restrict you from taking part in certain activities. Its you, whose putting up the barriers and not letting yourself to get engaged in other things. You need to break those 'stereotype' views. I feel like i'll have more freedom when i'm an adult (I'll have to wait and see, but i'm looking forward to not being hoovered over!)
You're very smart, Hummus m'A
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
(Don't know how you got to that conclusion LOL) But thank you, its all from Allah!
i didnt say anything abt age. actually i said. i dont mind getting OLDER (age wise) but becoming an adult as it is defined and understood right now sucks.
and what you said abt seeing someone doing soemthing someone yougner shoudl have been doing. why did you decide to qualify it as silly?
and im really talking abt young kids. they're the best. teenage years are a transit. they're amazing years. you've got the best of both world.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
Do people really expect 18yr olds to be pretty mature? I don't think most people do. I don't think it's exactly "old" or really represents someone becoming an adult. At 18 you're on your way to becoming an adult as you become more independent etc, but age wise 21 is when you're seen as a real adult, I think.
If we weren't to put an age to "adult", what is it that actually makes you an adult?
EDIT: sorry, it sounds like I disregarded the blog when I asked this
question. Will reply again later.
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
good question. I'd probably say it's when you become independant and responsible.
Lets reunite the ummah under one flag LA ILAHA IL ALLAH MUHAMMADUR RASULULLAH
Because i must. its basic humanity.
i believe in God. and all His attributes.
He is kind to me, He helps me, He loves me, He protects me, He looks after me, He gives me health etc..etc..
for all this. i worship him. changing the world and fairness justice blah blah blah is just part of worship.
im not being forced to grow up. but as i get older i do not want to become like the grown up around me. thats what im saying.
you might not even LIVE to 50. why press fast forward? you'll fast forward your death maybe... and then you'll miss out all the good bits of life. why do that? enjoy every moment. make them worthwhile.
im not striving for world peace. im striving for justice. and no, i wont regret doing this on my deathbed. how can you say that? all those poor people in africa, let's not donate money, we wont be able to fix africa anyway. is that how it is? saving ONE life man is enough. forget that. stopping ONE rumbling belly is enough. have you never been hungry?! give a GLASS of water to ONE person is enough. i dont need to fix africa or get world peace. i need to give those kids the right to play. give those people the right to clean water. to education. coz ive got all this! (too much of it in my opinion...) so why shouldnt eVERYBODY have it?!
one more person happy makes the world a better place. that's possible. there's a HUMONGOUS diff between wanting a better place and attaining world peace. common.
we're all suppose to look out for each other. thats what Islam teaches. and hell is such a horrendous place. you dont want anyone going there if you're in your right mind. thats why we should tell our colleagues abt Islam, thats why we should advice the girl drinking with the left hand, or the cousins listening to music and wasting their time in front of tv.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
Adults and just big children.
No smarter, no wiser but they wrongly think they know better.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
I agree with Lilly, Islam brought justice to the world. It's not just about working on yourself, only looking out for number 1.
IMO the worst person is the one that just sits there and watches the injustice happen and says it's got nothing to do with me.
Even if you aren't successful in the things you strive for in this world atleast we'll be rewarded in the akhirah.
You can't say you don't really care about this world in a sense, we were put here for a reason.
Lets reunite the ummah under one flag LA ILAHA IL ALLAH MUHAMMADUR RASULULLAH
Cherish your youth and free time, it'll be gone before you know it alongside all those long lazy summer days
they have no one to answer to and the youth surrounding them can't really tell them they're wrong most of the time and before you know it you have another generation of those same people...nothing ever changes
I tried to change one of the adults in my life.
Tried to talk to him and show him a better way.
Him "But that's how we were treated"
Me "how did you feel when they treated you like that"
Him "I didn't like it one bit. I wanted to lash out even more"
Me "them what makes you think it makes us feel any different"
Him "I never thought of it like that. I just thought it was the done thing"
The tragic thing about it is - he carried on no differently after our conversations. Not one thing changed.
I think the problem with adults is that they have no one to account their actions to so think they can do what they want. This leads to them eventually being unhappy.
I'm trying an experement with my life. I let my kids tell me off if I step out of line. If I've said they can't do certain things, that rule applies to me too. If they do it, i'll bring it to their attention (not in a telling off kind of way, but more of a "we agreed this - remember???" way)
It's working for me so far. I'd say I'm happy as an adult and I'd say that the kids around me are happy with me too. The final results will be known when I'm older and my children are adults themselves.
Until then - fingers crossed.....
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