The Truth About Being A Single Muslim Mother

Sajid Iqbal —

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By Misbah Akhtar

The issue of single Muslim mothers is fast becoming a prevalent one; with divorce on the rise it seems only logical that some of these statistics would also apply to Muslim households.


Why then are they not revered as they deserve to be and instead looked down upon and scorned by many communities?  Is it really seen as so contagious that girls from ‘respectable’ families should stay away from these women in case they too, catch it? 

Single Muslim mums

Single Muslim Mums —

Asalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatahu, my name is Misbah and I'mm the founder of Single Muslim Mums. I'm here to promote awareness insha'Allah about the problems that  single Muslim mums face on an every day basis.  These sisters are shunned by society, seen as substandard and are in a lot of cases refused for marriage simply because they are single mothers either throught divorce or by being widowed.  They are made to feel isolated and are stopped from speaking up about this issue as they are made to feel guilty.  A lot of sisters suffer from low eeman as a result and some are depressed and even suicidal.  It can be very lonely being a single mum as not all sisters have their famiy's support, that means no help with the kids, no financial aid if their ex refuses to pay maintenance but more importantly no-one to talk to that will comfort them.  These women are the mothers of our future ummah, OUR sisters in Islam and it is our responsibility as an ummah to help them in whichever way we can.  For more information please contact me or check out my facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/SingleMuslimMums. I am currently trying to make the organisation into a charity and am looking for a free website designer/maintainer who is willing to take their reward from Allah swt.  I am also insha'Allah looking for an aalim/counsellor willing to write regularly for the website.  If you are interested please get in contact with me.  Jazakhallah khairan.


Paradise

Kunoichi —

In the season where cherry blossoms bloom and scatter across the university campus, I noticed just how pretty trees and plants were in general. I only become introspective during Ramadan, so it was strange to notice the beautiful colours. After all, my eyes were tired of poring over textbooks and diagrams and they were pleased to see such a delightful sight.


Allah (swt) has certainly made this world beautiful. And I hadn’t realised I had said this out loud until my friend replied:



“Then imagine, how will it be like in paradise?”


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The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "There is a tree in Paradise (which is so big and huge that) if a rider travels in its shade for one hundred years, he would not be able to cross it." (Hadith, Sahih Bukhari 4:474)