Salaam
I meet parents on a daily basis – most of who are deluded about their kids.
I have a good handful of children who are lazy, cant write a simple sentence and never bother to give their homework in on time but parents are convinced that they are top in the class.
One child in my class settles his disputes by biting – parents don’t understand how on earth their tiny, skinny, scared looking child could be capable of doing such a thing.
Parents evening are a joke –often I have to double check that we’re speaking about the right child – as parents seem to talking about some academic angel that I’ve never met.
This isn’t just a problem with kids – I know of people in their 30’s and 40’s who have deluded parents.
A guy from my area is doing time for murder – his mum insists that “he’s a good boy, really”
A 14year old girl from my town regularly has the police over at her house over some petty crime, but mums convinced that her daughter is an angel.
Whilst I’m not saying that parents should announce their kids flaws for all to know….but come one, a guy doing time for a race related murder is hardly an ‘angel’.
Are parents genuinely deluded or are they just trying to cover up for their darlings?
And are parents guilty of loving their kids a bit too much? And what is the implication of such behaviour?
Are YOUR parents guilty of presenting a not very accurate picture of you to the world?
Waslaam
i reckon its got more to do with pride i mean its not really about love, with asians having someone in jail is majorly bad on there reputation. Its also the same with non-asians pride plays a huge part in this issue and they try to protect there kids rather than help them to become better people.
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
i used to be able to talk my way out of almost ANY scrape when it came to my mum. I told her lies and convoluted stories which made me always the 'innocent party'.
When it came to my dad however...he was nobody's fool.
i think my mum wasn't exactly deluded...she just wanted to think if i'd done something wrong it was 'out-of-character', if i was falling behind with work at school it was because 'the teacher was moving too slowly and i wasn't being challenged'.
i havn't even had kids, but i already know they'll be sin-free geniuses (insha'Allah)!
Don't just do something! Stand there.
So your going to teach your kids to be like me eh?
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
sorry, i should change that to [b]modest[/b], sin-free geniuses.
Don't just do something! Stand there.
man your kids are going to be like little funzo's
Those who danced were thought to be quite insane, by those who couldn't hear the music...
I dont think we should be judging other peoples parents (or our own) who defend their children no matter what they have done.
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
theres a difference from judging people and trying to understand where they've gone wrong so we might not make the same mistakes in the future.
Don't just do something! Stand there.
just felt like ppl were disrespecting. Sorry my mistake.
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy