From a while ago:
SalaamHow forgiving are you?
We are taught that a patient man is a faithful man; one with taqwa and humility. The ability to forgive is a sign of great patience and submission, in that those who forgive shed the desire to dispense justice themselves and leaves the fate of their transgressors entirely, consciously, in the hands of Allaah ta'ala.
So, how forgiving are you?
Do you 'let bygones be bygones' or are you more likely to hold a grudge?
If someone wrongs you, are you more likely to discuss the matter with them, seethe quietly in resentment/anger/irritation, or do you let it go, remembering that, as the children of Adam (as) we all make mistakes and we should let it go, make excuses for the wrongdoings of the other person?
Even if you are, usually, a forgiving person 'by nature', are there limits to how much someone could hurt you, how far they could go, before you say they no longer deserve your forgiveness?
Perhaps you're the type who (like me ;D) feels if someone knowingly does or says something against you, they're not really worth the time and effort it takes to be angry with them, dislike, possibly even hate them? Anyone who can hurt me doesn't deserve the energy and brain-space so I prefer to leave it up to Allah ta'ala - after all, it's not like I can be a better judge of what punishment, if any, is correct; plus, I'm blackening my own heart by harbouring ill feeling, aren't I?
Are you more likely, as I am, to forgive someone who wrongs you, then anyone who wrongs your family and loved ones? I think we all act completely differently and take on a totally new rationale when those dear to us are hurt or slandered.
Do you feel you are in no place to judge anyone's actions or words, as we have all done wrong in our lives? Glass houses and all that...
Views please
Wassalaam
Foprgiveness??? lol
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"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
I forgive very easily but i never forget. There’s more of a hassle in holding a grudge against someone than simply being ok with a person. I use to be that kind of person who would hold a grudge against a person for ages and ages but allahmadulilah I’ve changed, the Prophet
didn’t hold any grudges against anyone, not even his enemies! So how can we as Muslims hold grudges against other Muslims?! Life is to short. Live everyday as your last and plus, I want a lot of people to attend my janazah and pray for me which includes my ex-enemies.
If someone is geniunely sorry, and the can put things right, then I'm prepared to forgive. But I don't really do the forgetting.
Chin up, mate! Life's too short.
How can you forgive but not forget?
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
you can try to forget, but it's not really in your control is it :?
No, my question is if you really "remember" it, have you really forgiven?
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
well yeah, i think :?
you cant exactly force yourself to forget now can you?
Thats so true.
I often think that I've 'forgiven' someone. But my inability to forget...or that fact that I get irked when the ones who have wronged me in the past have the audicity to ask me for a huge favour...shows that I havent really forgiven.
True forgiveness is when your able to do good for the one who has wronged you in the past with no feelings of bitterness...
if u completely forget, then u can get hurt again.
its one thing to forgive someone and treat them as if they didn't do u wring in the 1st place.
but if they were to do it again, u can get hurt again. so u shouldn't forget.
i'm not making my point clear
but hopefully u lot understand it 
Don't just do something! Stand there.
we get u Ya'qub
i've had a lot of arguments wid ppl in the past and when i say a lot i mean a lot. i've forgiven almost all of them ppl and i truly mean that, infact, i love those sisters more than ever now, they're like family to me.
now i still remember the past, when they wronged me etc but that doesn't change anything. the past is the past.
Exactly, that's a bit like me.
Chin up, mate! Life's too short.
I think it depends of who it is. If it is someone i know then their opinion is likely to hurt me (they probs know me inside out and therefore know my weaknesses). If they have only said it the once and have apologised (and meant it deep down and not just said so they can have a clear conscience and therefore sleep better at night) then i forgive them. If its someone i dont know then i dont really care what comes out of their mouth UNLESS they disrespect Islam then not only are they going to get an ear full but i would never forgive them. However, saying that if that person was ignorant then perhaps i might forgive but if they were Muslims and they start disrespecting Islam then those ppl should ask Allah (swt) for forgiveness.
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