So what is everyones views on such marriages, Should we advise or keep quite?

Incompatible marriages

She’s getting married in the morning
But I feel like crying
It’s a marriage of disaster
And won’t last her
She thinks it’s for life
But it’s going to end in tears

Heartbroken, letdown, disillusioned
Abused and treated like dirt
Some of the traits
Of her new family to be

I should speak
But why can’t her family see
It’s crystal-clear
But some think I’m confused
A kill joy
So I remain silent

Let the marriage continue
Heading for disaster
But what if it’s averted
Would they live happily ever after?

He’s getting married this afternoon
to the woman he thinks will complete his life
But he’s unaware
of her undisclosed past

Has she told him?
And will he care?
Shall I say something?
And prevent problems in the future

He’s bound to find out
Without a doubt
What if it’s on the wedding night?
Will he not care or have a big fright

The past should remain in the past
Let sleeping dogs lie they say
But for some the past, present
Equal the future
Some are old fashioned
Believe in chastity and honour
Offended easily
And will even kill for it

They’re getting married this evening
So compatible like a dream come true
Pity about their families
Who will spoil their destiny?
Use them as a pawn
To score points
Against each other

Should I bother?
And warn and advise
Or keep quite and know my place
What to do, what to say?

Some people hide their bad habits
And trap people like a rabbit

Some parents don’t care
Who their children marry
As long as they fulfil their fard
And responsibility
And get what they want
Status, alliances and money
Grand children and a burden offloaded

So what advise should we give?
If we express our opinions
They just won’t believe
Some say love is blind
And advising them may seem unkind
Make many enemies
And upset the extended families

So the only thing I recommend
With which no one can argue
Is ask them to make dua
And pray Istikhara
May Allah guide everyone to what is best
In this life and the next
Ameen

Author:Showkotali@hotmail.com