Salaam
Saying sorry is hard on the soul….do you find it easy to apologise to those whom you have wronged?
OR are you one of them who can easily apologise first to outsiders but will bend in front of family?
And why is that? Why do we find it easy to say sorry to someone who we’ve accidentally not given way to on the Zebra crossing but find it hard to say sorry to your siblings?
Obviously, the underlying factor behind the inability to say sorry is pride…our Nafs does not like to bend.
OR are you one of them who won’t ever say sorry, however, your way of apologising is pretending that nothing happened and acting all normal…
Sometimes saying sorry makes all the difference…when doctors/hospitals or even PM’s screw up, saying sorry can make a LOT of difference.
Annoyingly some people’s apology even sounds like an insult..e.g “I’m sorry that you’re so sensitive and my words offended you”.
Islamically if someone apologises you must accept their apology…do you ever find yourself questioning the motive or sincerity behind people’s apologies? And do you blow up if someone doesn’t accept your apology.
More annoyingly there are some people who are ALWAYS apologising, even when they haven’t even done anything wrong, this is incredibly irritating and weird..
Allah (swt) will not forgive the one who has not sought forgiveness from the one they have offended…
Please discuss
Wasalaam
Sometimes I don't wanna say sory, but if I shoyld my heart normally lets me know, at which point I compromise by saying wait until I've cooled down a bit.
Its hard to apologise when you're angry but I find music helps me calm down and start to feel gracious again, [u]naat/nasheeds[/u] and some survivor stuff too.
So much easier to bite the bullet when you're not wishing you could fire it.
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It depends on if you mean it.
Like walking late into work.
You are not sorry. SO if you say it, its just to get you to your desk.
And if you need to apologise, are you sorry for the actions, or the fact you got caught?
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
Salam
Man ought to say sorry only when something really convinces him that he was wrong.
Other than that, why apologise ?
Omrow
I think the meaning of the word sorry is not really much appreciated nowadays, as just walk in the street and all what u hear is sorry here… and…sorry there…as the word sorry comes automatically with out even thinking….
In my family when some one do something wrong to me I wont accept him saying “sorry” to me at all… he/she got to say it in Arabic as it have much better and valuable meaning…
MMUISOC
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Ya'ani Na'am, u spoke the truth Abdul
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Its a LOT easier to throw around the word "Sorry" to people you don't know...thats why generally you do hear it a lot outside....maybe its cos strangers don't mean much to us, so we're less likely to lose face by apologising.
Yet with family/friends etc I feel its harder to bend. In my house days can go by and the siblings are not speaking to one another. And all it takes is one to make the first move and everything is back to normal again.
Which is weird since my parents are always the first to apologise if they've upset any one of us...
hmmmm... razor!!!!....is that someone i know!!!!
its true, but in the case of families and friends the problem occurs when every side think he/she is right... for me if I think i made a mistake i wouldn’t really stop talking to someone or may be leave a friend just for not saying sorry... but if I was feeling that I am the one who should people say sorry to….that would be a complete different thing
MMUISOC
Shoulder by Shoulder, Feet to Feet
i always break the ice first in my family fueds
i'm very weak like that
but only with my immediate family tho
if extended family ever earn my wrath then they've made an enemy for life
Furbal. Do you have fangs ?
salaam
for the perfect person an "I'am" sorry situation shudnt arise but were not perfect now are we lol.
i have a bad habit of UN-intentionally offending people, however people who know me well know its just a joke. am learning to think twice coz wat seems a harmless joke to me isnt to others :?
if i know am in the wrong i will apologise thou it will kill me to say it!!
as far as accepting people apologies, if they have really really upset me then i find it really hard to forgive and it depends on who said and wat was said!
wa/salaam