Weddings!

MuslimSister —

Salaam

Its wedding season, many weddings are taking place these days.

I’ve always really loved weddings; they’re such joyous occasions…. However, I do have some issues regarding weddings that I wish to raise.

Firstly, the extravagance that takes place these days is unbelievable…I’m not advocating being a cheapskate, but one should really spend according to their means and should not splash out unnecessary things i.e. hiring out numerous limo’s, getting ice sculptures carved, hiring out extremely expensive venues in the countryside... which all puts people into debt

And why are weddings SO long? How long does it say to say “Kabool”? Must weddings drag on for hours and hours?

Dancing is another issue…personally I love dancing even though my parents always tell me not to…..I don’t see a problem with dancing if there are no males present and if nothing gets recording….I don’t know what Islam says about this though.

But I know that dancing in front of boys is definitely wrong. It’s not right for a woman to dance in front of her dad, uncles, cousins and other strange men…

That’s another thing, why aren’t all weddings segregated? If they were all segregated, women could wear/do whatever they wanted to without any restrictions…

Also, to me weddings are all about the bride. But why is it that, people rate the bride when she enters the wedding hall. Everybody cranes their neck and falls all over themselves to see if the guy's wife-to-be is fit or not.

This is so wrong, what business do strange men have in the Fitness of another man's women!?

And then after everyone rates her she has to sit there like a doll for hours and hours getting bogged out by everyone. Again, ALL weddings should be segregated.

Also, I’ve always believed that if any aspect of culture does not contradict the teachings of Islam then there is nothing wrong with it…and I’ve always been a fan of the “Mehndi” ritual….But some of the rituals that seem to go on in weddings seem to stem out of superstition…or are just plain ridiculous.

e.g taking money and twirling it around the bride/groom's head to take off "nazaar" (the evil eye), oiling the door before the bride enters the home, throwing rice etc etc

Please share your views on all of the above.

Wasalaam

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*DUST* — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 14:53

[quote="Don Karnage"][quote="*DUST*"]this is for Dave[/quote]

lol and I thought I was doing such a great job of pretending (out of politeness) I am understanding of them

[size=7]I need to take acting lessons...[/size]

Thanks though[/quote]
:o u were pretending?! about what? :shock:

😛

shawana — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 16:26

[quote="*DUST*"][quote="naj"][quote="shawana"][quote="naj"]cant hack wedding cake...

too much thick icing, always end up taking it all off[/quote]

how can you not explain,icing is the main bit :D[/quote]

dont like fat icing...

my sister also thinks its the main part.[/quote]
depends - if its chocolate icing, then i'm all for it! 😂 (but wedding cakes dont usually hav choc icing :()[/quote]

ive never seen a chocolate wedding cake 😃

*DUST* — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 16:53

[quote="shawana"][quote="*DUST*"]depends - if its chocolate icing, then i'm all for it! 😂 (but wedding cakes dont usually hav choc icing :()[/quote]

ive never seen a chocolate wedding cake :D[/quote]
i know... 🙁 but no worries, i'll make sure mine is all nice and chocolatey! 😃 😉

Mez — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 16:55

mmmmm Chocolate!!! 😛

Alisha — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 20:05

WOW :o that what I call choc-a-licious

Mez — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 20:44

ahhhh so there is such thing of Chocolate Wedding Cake then !! 😛

Ahhh it would be an ideal wedding cake for Dave!! 😉

Dave — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 20:53

[quote="Mez"]ahhhh so there is such thing of Chocolate Wedding Cake then !! 😛

Ahhh it would be an ideal wedding cake for Dave!! :wink:[/quote]

lol I tried to get one actually but I think im losing that battle, it's okay though everything is temporarily on hold

Mez — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 20:57

ahhh its a shame you did try though!!

fizzy1 — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 21:03

dave getting married???

ooh i luuuuuuuuurve gossip

spill

Mez — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 21:04

Dave please do the honers of telling!

Dave — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 21:04

[quote="Mez"]ahhh its a shame you did try though!![/quote]

lol well I can't have everything I want.

Actually so far it seems I can't have [i]anything[/i] I want 🙁

Then again I am getting everything I want 😃

So it's a trade off i'm really the one coming out on top here, she gets a glittery day with lots of extravagence - I get her. For the rest of her life

BWAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHHAHHHAH

Her short sightedness was her weakness :twisted:

Mez — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 21:07

I suppose she was in your destiny!!

Good luck though!!

Dave — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 21:10

[quote="Mez"]I suppose she was in your destiny!!

Good luck though!![/quote]

Thanks!

Mez — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 21:17

[quote="Don Karnage"][quote="Mez"]I suppose she was in your destiny!!

Good luck though!![/quote]

Thanks![/quote]

Save me some cake then!! 😃

Dave — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 21:24

[quote="fizzy1"]dave getting married???

ooh i luuuuuuuuurve gossip

spill[/quote]

lol yes - I mentioned it [url=http://www.therevival.co.uk/forums/viewtopic.php?p=44273&highlight=diam…] and [url=http://www.therevival.co.uk/forums/viewtopic.php?t=4&postdays=0&postord…].

I proposed over the break and she said yes!

Sort of in mid planning right now... lots of stuff to iron out - i actually had a Cardinal tell me i'd make a terrible Catholic and that I not only don't have to but [i]shouldn't[/i] convert.

Ouch.

The Church doesn't want me.

lol Catholic wedding though - lots of fanfare looks in all well over 400 people will be coming to the wedding and a couple hundred more to the reception :shock:

Dave — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 21:27

[quote="Mez"][quote="Don Karnage"][quote="Mez"]I suppose she was in your destiny!!

Good luck though!![/quote]

Thanks![/quote]

Save me some cake then!! :D[/quote]

Absolutely!

*DUST* — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 22:03

[quote="*DUST*"][quote="Don Karnage"][quote="*DUST*"]this is for Dave[/quote]

lol and I thought I was doing such a great job of pretending (out of politeness) I am understanding of them

[size=7]I need to take acting lessons...[/size]

Thanks though[/quote]
:o u were pretending?! about what? :shock: [/quote]
...? 😛

Dave — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 22:18

[quote="*DUST*"][quote="*DUST*"][quote="Don Karnage"][quote="*DUST*"]this is for Dave[/quote]

lol and I thought I was doing such a great job of pretending (out of politeness) [b][size=18]--->[/size][/b][u][b]I am understanding of them[/b][/u][b][size=18]<---[/size][/b]

[size=7]I need to take acting lessons...[/size]

Thanks though[/quote]
:o u were pretending?! about what? :shock: [/quote]
...? :P[/quote]

*DUST* — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 22:27

[quote="Don Karnage"][quote="*DUST*"][quote="*DUST*"][quote="Don Karnage"][quote="*DUST*"]this is for Dave[/quote]

lol and I thought I was doing such a great job of pretending (out of politeness) [b][size=18]--->[/size][/b][u][b]I am understanding of them[/b][/u][b][size=18]<---[/size][/b]

[size=7]I need to take acting lessons...[/size]

Thanks though[/quote]
:o u were pretending?! about what? :shock: [/quote]
...? :P[/quote][/quote]
ah thought so. but i was too shocked (:shock:

Dave — Wed, 25 Jan 2006 - 22:35

[quote="*DUST*"]ah thought so. but i was too shocked (:shock:

*DUST* — Thu, 26 Jan 2006 - 16:15

[quote="Don Karnage"][quote="*DUST*"]ah thought so. but i was too shocked (:shock:

MuslimSisLilSis — Thu, 26 Jan 2006 - 17:02

Dave I rather u expressed ur concerns

ur the MAN remember

u couldnt possibley offend us

I wish I could say the same thing about Mr-Never-Spoke-to-a-girl-before :evil:

Dave — Thu, 26 Jan 2006 - 17:33

Nah it's unimportant, there are more interesting things we can do with our time than bicker on cultural differences.

I'm not so convinced of my own perfection anymore that I care so emphatically about things that don't really concern me and aren't my business.

Medarris — Thu, 26 Jan 2006 - 18:23

out of interest, has ne1 actually been to a wedding where the dessert is cake?

every wedding i've been to (and trust me its a lot) always get a paki sweet dish. If the hosts are modren type they might give icecream/kulfi but never had wedding cake. Does it actually happen, and wouldnt they have to buy a HUGE cake to feed all the guests?

Beast — Thu, 26 Jan 2006 - 18:27

[quote="Med"]out of interest, has ne1 actually been to a wedding where the dessert is cake?

every wedding i've been to (and trust me its a lot) always get a paki sweet dish. If the hosts are modren type they might give icecream/kulfi but never had wedding cake. Does it actually happen, and wouldnt they have to buy a HUGE cake to feed all the guests?[/quote]

During the day it just sits there as a decoration piece gathering dust. Then at the end of the day, when most of the guests have left and the cake has gone slightly mouldy, the remaining close family and friends get to eat it.

Medarris — Thu, 26 Jan 2006 - 18:28

k, I never seen the cake in any wedding.

MuslimSisLilSis — Thu, 26 Jan 2006 - 19:07

last three weddings we went to had a massive cake

but the stingy family just kept it to pose in front of the camera with and only fed the immediate family

they served the audience yucky halwa frm NAWAAB caterers :roll: