Who would make the best Wife?

deleted

[quote="Seraph"]Sup

They say you can marry a woman for:

a.) her beauty

b.) her wealth

c.) piety

Its recommended you go for (c) but which one, or which other characteristics would you prefer?[/quote]

I'm sure in a famous hadith, the fourth attribute one can possibly look for in a potential spouse is that of Status.

ws

Salam

Yes. Umar is right.

Prophet did say that you can also marry a woman for her lineage.

You may prefer a woman of certain tribe over another.

Women of Sioux and Comanche tribes tend to be very brave females, while girls of the Blackfoot, Mandan, Pawnee and Cheynne clans are way too superstitiouss. And females of Cherokee, Lakota, Geronimo, Apache, Navajo, and Pueblo tribes are extremely shy.

Therefore, I might choose a woman because I like her parents more than her wealth or beauty.

The girl has got to have good genes.

Omrow

omro for ur info

status and tribe/caste are two diff things :roll:

Salam

Same thing. Different terms. Mediya. Furball.

Omrow

i dont know what tribe/caste I'm from

and nor do I care

but point is-u cant say people of such an such tribe/caste act in a certain way

thats just dumb

Salam

Dont you ever hear that the upper class, or the Royal Family, behaves diferently from the rest of us ?

And ask your dad. He will tell you the name of your clan.

Omrow

I did once-

he told me to ask my grandad-but he annoys me and lives on the other side of the world

and btw the royal family act the way they do cos of NURTURE not NATURE

they are only snobby and stupid cos they are brought up like that

not cos its in their genes

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]
and btw the royal family act the way they do cos of NURTURE not NATURE
[/quote]

eerr so is status/clan or watever you wanna call it.

Nature doesn't provide us with labels to clans or tribes we do that.

[quote="Seraph"]Sup

They say you can marry a woman for:

a.) her beauty

b.) her wealth

c.) piety

Its recommended you go for (c) but which one, or which other characteristics would you prefer?[/quote]

who's 'they'?! cum on seraph, u cant b so vague wen it comes to ahadith... :?

The Prophet (s.a.w) said, "A woman is married for [any of] four reasons: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her religion. So try to marry one who is religious, may your hands be smeared with dust." (Bukhari and Muslim)

"may your hands be smeared with dust" is an Arabic expression encouraging the person to perform the action.

[quote="Seraph"]c.) piety[/quote]

I'm getting into the general theme of The Revival.

My contribution is reviving old topics.

D) Nagability

Has to be extremely low as you cannot get zero nagability!

To be honest, its got to be both

[quote="Seraphim"]a.) her beauty

c.) piety[/quote]
Obviously piety is important but so is beauty. They don't have to look like miss world but got to be 'alright' if you know what I mean.

You don't want to live with someone who looks like a witch all your life, I dunno maybe I'm being too picky.

IMO wealth isn't that much of an issue for boys, girls wanna marry someone who's financially stable, am I right? :?

[quote="MuslimBro"]To be honest, its got to be both

[quote="Seraphim"]a.) her beauty

c.) piety[/quote]
Obviously piety is important but so is beauty. They don't have to look like miss world but got to be 'alright' if you know what I mean.

You don't want to live with someone who looks like a witch all your life, I dunno maybe I'm being too picky.
[/quote]

You do realise that sounds a little shallow.... lol.... although i realise where your coming from. But the point id like to make as well to all the brothers out there who use this line ^^ is should ALSO gotta look 'alright' if your gonna demand such things otherwise it aint much of a match.

The best wife is one you share mutual admiration and love with.

The second best wife is one who you don't like but who is wealthy and beautiful and has a soft spot for piety.

[quote="Mr Honey's Day Out"]The second best wife is one who you don't like but who is wealthy and beautiful and has a soft spot for piety.[/quote]

Lol. What's there not to like?

She's very brash and stupid, but she looks good and you get a tennis court.

C

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and wealth is dangerous.

[quote="Seraphim"]But the point id like to make as well to all the brothers out there who use this line ^^ is should ALSO gotta look 'alright' if your gonna demand such things otherwise it aint much of a match.[/quote]
I see you agree with the [url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matching_hypothesis][i]Matching Hypothesis[/i][/url]

[quote="MuslimBro"]
IMO wealth isn't that much of an issue for boys, girls wanna marry someone who's financially stable, am I right? :?[/quote]

No, - I'd go for piety. Of course money is important, but I'd rather have a really, really pious husband and be comfortable money-wise, than a pious husband and be really, really loaded.

I think I would find it really difficult to outright ask my husband for money for anything, I hope he's the type that just offers it, lol.

My sister was telling me about her friend today - her brother's having an affair, like her Dad did a few years back. Scary stuff. So I guess lineage is pretty important too.

[quote="Imaani"]

No, - I'd go for piety. Of course money is important, but I'd rather have a really, really pious husband and be comfortable money-wise, than a pious husband and be really, really loaded.

[/quote]

lol what's the difference between pious and really really pious? (i enjoy reading your posts sis, your are so funny)

There’s this Arab saying…

“He who marries a gorilla for her money…when the money goes the gorilla remains a gorilla”.

I suppose this can be applied to anything that’s temporary such as looks, money etc etc

[quote="Angel"][quote="Imaani"]

No, - I'd go for piety. Of course money is important, but I'd rather have a really, really pious husband and be comfortable money-wise, than a pious husband and be really, really loaded.

[/quote]

lol what's the difference between pious and really really pious? [/quote]

Oh you know what I mean.......
pious, as in prays 5 times a day, and really, really pious, as in regularly gets up in the night to pray tahujjud too.

So for the people who say [i]only[/i] piety is important, would you then marry someone who was pious but was really [i]really[/i] unattractive?

I'm assuming you'd say no, because both qualities are desired.

[quote="MuslimBro"]So for the people who say [i]only[/i] piety is important, would you then marry someone who was pious but was really [i]really[/i] unattractive?

I'm assuming you'd say no, because both qualities are desired.[/quote]

ALL the qualities stated in the hadith are important. Esp looks.

However, the overriding deciding factor should be ones piety...cos thats what shapes ones personality, and THATS what one has to spend the rest of his/her life with.

Piety can compensate for a lot of the other traits should they be lacking...however, nothing can compensate the absence of piety.

[quote="MuslimBro"]So for the people who say [i]only[/i] piety is important, would you then marry someone who was pious but was really [i]really[/i] unattractive?

I'm assuming you'd say no, because both qualities are desired.[/quote]

But what would you say is really [i]really[/i] unattractive?
You see different ppl, go for different stuff.

I know girls whose husbands aren't all that, but to them they're everything. I can understand that. Me and my best friend both thought, when we were very young and quite immature, that this particular famous person was like sooooo fit. Her husband's nothing like him lol, but I bet she thinks he's better than that guy. Or I hope she does anyway!

If I had to pick ONE quality, it would be piety, but all are important.

[quote="MuslimSister"]ALL the qualities stated in the hadith are important. Esp looks.[/quote]
That's what I was getting at, not only is piety important but so is looks.

I would not say piety so much as good-naturedness.

i would say IMO a man should marry a women for the only true intention that she will be someone that will help ragg him to the deen a lot more.