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Salaam
Interestingly, for some reason the only suitable careers for Asian children is Medicine.. be it pharmacy, dentistry, optician etc…
Why is that?
When I was 16 and choosing my A levels for sixth form, my dad told me to choose the sciences so that I’d be able to do Medicine in University. Since, I was a little child I’ve been going on and on about wanting to be a teacher when I grow up, any other career choice was not even an option…
I have never had any interest in the sciences, nor did I excel at science and I could never stand the sight of blood.. :?
Higher education is difficult…so you really need the interest, motivation, desire and a certain level of expertise to study and pass the subject you have chosen to study for 3/4 years…..
Anyways, I chose my A levels in subjects that interested me and I was good at…such as English, Sociology, cos I knew that no University would accept me to study Medicine if I did not have any A levels in science… And I pretended to dad that I had chose the sciences at A levels…boy did I have to hear a killer lecture when dad found out what I did. :oops:
As a child my elders tried to deter me off my chosen career path by telling me that no one will marry me if I’m not a doctor ?! Even today, when I hear people praising their kids …it’s usually “Wow-he/she is a Doctor” And what? Ones profession is only a part of who someone is…it does not totally define someone’s worth.
It’s not even as if Doctors are loaded…and many of them are debt for years since they’ve been in higher education for so long…
Being a doctor is a noble profession….but NOT if you’re in it solely because of the money, status or to increase your suitability for marriage.
And yeah, we need Muslim doctors BUT don’t we also need Muslim teachers? Journalists? Writers? Counsellors? Designers? Architects?
What is it with Asians parents obsession with Doctors and why isn’t any other career even an option?
Any thoughts?
Wasalaam
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i no but im not looking for the money or the fame thats the last thng i want cuz i personally feel i will be able to excel in either one of these careers as i hav gr8 passion in it, i fink i will be able to carry them out to the best of my ability
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My problem is not with any particular profession, just with higher education. The amount of people who think they have to go into higher education to be a success is a problem IMO. Because Uni is not for everyone and alot of people would excel in different areas, but it seem alot of people are pressured into getting a degree. That why you get loads of people doing business and computer studies without no real plans. I don't think there anything wrong with being a plumber or mechanic, i personally think working with your hands is the greatest thing you can do, but it is looked down by Asians parents.
See that is the thing that annoys me most about the asian community, no respect is given to the manual workers, maybe because alot of them were once in that position and think that today generation should move on and be more advance. But it always been my opinion that these people who work in factories, work all hours given to them just to provide what little they can, should be given the most respect, instead of being look down on. Saying that the Taxi drivers in my area, seem to be some of the most well off people, i wonder why :roll:
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My brother is a doctor and he wasn’t forced but only encourage- since the age of 20 he’s now 28 he always wanted to use his surgical experience and volunteer to work for an Islamic charity.
I know a sister who dropped out of Medicine in her 3rd year due to family pressure. I dropped out during the first month.
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[quote="(*_Khamzat"]I dropped out during the first month.[/quote]
at least u got on the course :shock:
I've had no pressure on me ever-I guess parents learn from their mistakes with the older child
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[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"][quote="(*_Khamzat"]I dropped out during the first month.[/quote]
at least u got on the course :shock:
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My college councilor told us- to pursue a profession, which we enjoy, and stimulates our minds, which is true, anything else would be a waste of our time if we don’t enjoy it.
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[quote="yuit"]My problem is not with any particular profession, just with higher education. The amount of people who think they have to go into higher education to be a success is a problem IMO. Because Uni is not for everyone and alot of people would excel in different areas, but it seem alot of people are pressured into getting a degree. That why you get loads of people doing business and computer studies without no real plans. I don't think there anything wrong with being a plumber or mechanic, i personally think working with your hands is the greatest thing you can do, but it is looked down by Asians parents.
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i agree wiv you bro not every1 is cut out to be a doctor etc but like i said before every1 has their own area which they shine in, n its not fair to look down on ppl just coz they do a certain job at the end of the day sum1 has to do it, ppl look down on dustbin men/women n turn their noses up at them but i mean they do one of the most important jobs n cleaniless is emphasised strongly in islam, i was saying for me academics is my route but i accept someone may take a different route but doesnt mean they're better or worse than me both are equally valuable.
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One respectful sister said to me, 20 years ago if Muslim were involved in politics and media then the war in Iraq could have been prevented.
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Thing with “respect” is that….ANY man/woman working hard to earn an honest livelihood in a halaal job is worthy of respect.
Why should one halaal career be considered more “respectable” than another?
And its down to ones intentions…one form of sadqa (charity) is to remove something dangerous from the streets so that others will not be harmed by it…if cleaners/bin men had this intention when they did their work….they’d be rewarded tremendously.
And if one really was all that…they’d automatically receive the respect of society; regardless of their chosen career.
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[quote="MuslimSister"]Thing with “respect” is that….ANY man/woman working hard to earn an honest livelihood in a halaal job is worthy of respect.
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I used the term respectful because she is polite etc…
And a good reminder MS.............
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[quote="yuit"] Saying that the Taxi drivers in my area, seem to be some of the most well off people, i wonder why :roll:[/quote]
how comes?
all the rich taxi drivers I know also have some dodgy buisness on the side
I think what your forgetting is alot of the time (except in your case) alot of kids dont know what they want to do with their lives and need something good and respectful to aim for and instead of majoring in something stupid like art :roll:
The thing with careers like medicine and law etc is that not only are they paid well(supposedly) but they also deemed to be very respectful jobs not to mention useful to your immediate family (comeon havein a doctor or a lawyer in the family helps in certain circumstances). Plus becoming a doctor is like very very very hard and if you manage to do it you you're like the dogs bollucks. Which is why every parents wants one.
Ofcourse if the kid has a decent career in mind anyway they shouldnt be forced into anything they dont wanna do. Especially if its a life changing thing like this.