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Would you get married more than once, whilst already married (men) OR would you get married to a person already married (women)?

HarajukuDoll —

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Would you get married more than once, whilst already married (men) OR would you get married to a person already married (women)?

Yes.
17% (2 votes)
No
75% (9 votes)
I don't care
8% (1 vote)
Total votes: 12
Forum

LookingToSee — Tue, 24 May 2011 - 20:15

[quote=bilan][quote=Aziza2011]I dont think id be able to share him[/quote]

Now, now Aziza..sharing is caring! :p[/quote]

sharing for some random stranger? thats just weird.

i dont think i'd be able at the beginning, but maybe later..when i strengthen my faith or something...

ARGHHHH me and a few friends, imagining having the same husband...then we stop imagining...coz..euh..yeah....

my friend was acting like the hubby came home and called her by MY name. ROFL!!!!!

Foysol89 — Wed, 25 May 2011 - 12:24

I'm with Lampy right there. Having more than one wife would just give you a headache.

Btw does anyone one know of someone who is married to more than one woman cause i haven't heard of anyone that is. It's become quite rare indeed whereas i'm quite sure alot of the sahabah R.A were married to more than one woman.

Bilan — Wed, 25 May 2011 - 15:33

[quote=Lilly]i can just see Abdur-Raheem Green saying that LOL

i guess today's gurls are just the right amount. not too much you dont want one or too less you want another one.

but God knew, he didnt even PUT OUT the idea of more than one husband... *innocent*[/quote]

Yes us gals are Goldilocks alright 😉

LookingToSee — Wed, 25 May 2011 - 15:39

[quote=bilan][quote=Lilly]i can just see Abdur-Raheem Green saying that LOL

i guess today's gurls are just the right amount. not too much you dont want one or too less you want another one.

but God knew, he didnt even PUT OUT the idea of more than one husband... *innocent*[/quote]

Yes us gals are Goldilocks alright ;)[/quote]

ah man..i read this as "you girls are goldilocks alright" and i thought... is she embracing the masculinity or something...i read it a few times and i think of the fourth i got it. it said US! phew...

Bilan — Wed, 25 May 2011 - 15:44

[quote=Lilly][quote=bilan][quote=Lilly]i can just see Abdur-Raheem Green saying that LOL

i guess today's gurls are just the right amount. not too much you dont want one or too less you want another one.

but God knew, he didnt even PUT OUT the idea of more than one husband... *innocent*[/quote]

Yes us gals are Goldilocks alright ;)[/quote]

ah man..i read this as "you girls are goldilocks alright" and i thought... is she embracing the masculinity or something...i read it a few times and i think of the fourth i got it. it said US! phew...[/quote]

You just had to go there didn't u??? :neutral:

Bugz — Wed, 25 May 2011 - 15:44

[quote=Lilly]i can just see Abdur-Raheem Green saying that LOL

i guess today's gurls are just the right amount. not too much you dont want one or too less you want another one.

but God knew, he didnt even PUT OUT the idea of more than one husband... *innocent*[/quote]

yup, nice one!

Foysol89 — Wed, 25 May 2011 - 16:21

[quote=Ghost][quote=Lilly]i can just see Abdur-Raheem Green saying that LOL

i guess today's gurls are just the right amount. not too much you dont want one or too less you want another one.

but God knew, he didnt even PUT OUT the idea of more than one husband... *innocent*[/quote]

yup, nice one![/quote]

are you a ghost from the past or from the future. what i mean is are you an old member or a newbie.

anyway that pic is freaky.

Aziza2011 — Wed, 25 May 2011 - 18:04

[quote=Foysol89][quote=Ghost][quote=Lilly]i can just see Abdur-Raheem Green saying that LOL

i guess today's gurls are just the right amount. not too much you dont want one or too less you want another one.

but God knew, he didnt even PUT OUT the idea of more than one husband... *innocent*[/quote]

yup, nice one![/quote]

are you a ghost from the past or from the future. what i mean is are you an old member or a newbie.

anyway that pic is freaky.[/quote]

i think that pics kinda funny....... dont know why... it has a hint of edward scissor hands to it!

Bugz — Thu, 2 Jun 2011 - 07:35

[quote=Foysol89][quote=Ghost][quote=Lilly]i can just see Abdur-Raheem Green saying that LOL

i guess today's gurls are just the right amount. not too much you dont want one or too less you want another one.

but God knew, he didnt even PUT OUT the idea of more than one husband... *innocent*[/quote]

yup, nice one![/quote]

are you a ghost from the past or from the future. what i mean is are you an old member or a newbie.

anyway that pic is freaky.[/quote]

sorry to freak u out, ghosts are just ghosts

Do you like living in England?

Muslim Rebel —

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Do you like living in England?

Yes
81% (13 votes)
No
13% (2 votes)
I dont live there
6% (1 vote)
Total votes: 16
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You — Sun, 22 May 2011 - 20:19

Yes.

We are allowed to practice our faith freely, there are jobs and employment available to us, ample opportunities for education ad a system of justice too.

What's not to like?

HarajukuDoll — Sun, 22 May 2011 - 22:28

I like this place (well London), I'm a city person. I dont want to be the vicitm of those wierd psycho people who grab you when you're in the middle of nowhere and torture you. BUT sometimes I get waaay too claustrophobic in this country, and I need to run around in the wild. :D. Like jungle wiiild. And yup, the weather's mood swings sucks. Pft.

Bilan — Sun, 22 May 2011 - 22:34

The English weather gives a whoooole new meaning to the song #You are my sunshine, my only sunshine..you make me haaaappy! When skies are grey...# yada, yada, yada...

So yh, long live the Queen and all that :p 😃

LookingToSee — Sun, 22 May 2011 - 23:06

[quote=bilan]The English weather gives a whoooole new meaning to the song #You are my sunshine, my only sunshine..you make me haaaappy! When skies are grey...# yada, yada, yada...

So yh, long live the Queen and all that :p :D[/quote]

yada yada yada? (im not gona ask...)

anyway,

i love the british weather. so "unique and special" ya cant help but louve iit.

MuslimSister — Mon, 23 May 2011 - 08:17

I used to love London - however, after living abroad for almost 2years now. I have really become critical of the West. I would encourage people to re-locate esp if they have British qualifications. The quality of life away from the UK is so much nicer.

Bijou — Tue, 24 May 2011 - 19:36

[quote=MuslimSister]I used to love London - however, after living abroad for almost 2years now. I have really become critical of the West. I would encourage people to re-locate esp if they have British qualifications. The quality of life away from the UK is so much nicer.[/quote]

Where do you live again ?

I don't like living here 🙁 but that said I think it's not all that bad compared to other places... I plan to move to Mauritius inshAllah 🙂

Can you strengthen your willpower?

TPOS —

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Can you strengthen your willpower?

Yes
85% (11 votes)
No
15% (2 votes)
Total votes: 13
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TPOS — Sun, 22 May 2011 - 23:19

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]Well obviously [/quote]
That's what I thought. {waits for admin to argue the opposite}

[quote]Or no-one would ever overcome addictions.[/quote] That would work without you strengthening it, no? Like at first you may not want to give up, but then you do and your willpower comes into action.

You — Sun, 22 May 2011 - 23:21

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]Well obviously Or no-one would ever overcome addictions.[/quote]

You just replace one addiction with a stronger one.

RI_RS — Sun, 22 May 2011 - 23:26

[quote=You][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]Well obviously Or no-one would ever overcome addictions.[/quote]

You just replace one addiction with a stronger one.[/quote]

Oh right yeah.

So you replace your smoking addiction with an addiction for not smoking :roll:

LookingToSee — Sun, 22 May 2011 - 23:29

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=You][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]Well obviously Or no-one would ever overcome addictions.[/quote]

You just replace one addiction with a stronger one.[/quote]

Oh right yeah.

So you replace your smoking addiction with an addiction for not smoking :roll:[/quote]

this time. i gotta love it.

RI_RS — Sun, 22 May 2011 - 23:35

[quote=Lilly][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=You][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]Well obviously Or no-one would ever overcome addictions.[/quote]

You just replace one addiction with a stronger one.[/quote]

Oh right yeah.

So you replace your smoking addiction with an addiction for not smoking :roll:[/quote]

this time. i gotta love it.[/quote]

Pardon?

HarajukuDoll — Mon, 23 May 2011 - 00:02

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]
So you replace your smoking addiction with an addiction for not smoking :roll:[/quote]

Waiiit. I don't get it.
Whilst you're trying to get over smoking how are you replacing it with an addiction for NOT smoking? That's just trying not to smoke. :S
And your will power is what's fighting your nafs and your need to smoke.
So... before you didn't have a strong enough will power. But now...by fighting the addiction, your strengthening your will power. So when you're fighting it, thats not an addiction for NOT smoking, it's just...trying not to smoke.
If you've never smoked, and you won't ever, does that mean you have an addiction for NOT smoking, or just that you don't smoke because you can't be asked or blabla? :S
Omg, Ive confused myself again.

TPOS — Mon, 23 May 2011 - 00:16

[quote=Lilly]it's just that there's loads of way of looking at it.

dont worry too much..[/quote]
please do explain (I dunno why I keep using that 'phrase')

RI_RS — Mon, 23 May 2011 - 00:33

[quote=HarajukuDoll][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]
So you replace your smoking addiction with an addiction for not smoking :roll:[/quote]

Waiiit. I don't get it.
Whilst you're trying to get over smoking how are you replacing it with an addiction for NOT smoking? That's just trying not to smoke. :S
And your will power is what's fighting your nafs and your need to smoke.
So... before you didn't have a strong enough will power. But now...by fighting the addiction, your strengthening your will power. So when you're fighting it, thats not an addiction for NOT smoking, it's just...trying not to smoke.
If you've never smoked, and you won't ever, does that mean you have an addiction for NOT smoking, or just that you don't smoke because you can't be asked or blabla? :S
Omg, Ive confused myself again.[/quote]

Sorry, I was being sarcastic because I dont think every addiction is just replaced by another addiction. The act of giving up an addiction is only giving up an addiction, its an omission, you're not nec getting addicted to someone else. Its like saying cigarette smokers all turn into junkies after or smth.

You — Mon, 23 May 2011 - 00:38

I would think that if a person just quits, that willpower already existed.

and/or new activities were chosen to cover for the times when a person would habitually smoke.

HarajukuDoll — Mon, 23 May 2011 - 00:44

[quote=You]I would think that if a person just quits, that willpower already existed.[/quote]

If it did, then giving up smoking would be easy and done ages ago. I.e you dont have enough strength to pick something up (same like not enough will power to give up smoking) but now that you gained enough strength (will power- exactly how to gain it? I don't know) you now can pick whatever up (and thus give up smoking).

RI_RS — Mon, 23 May 2011 - 00:48

[quote=You]I would think that if a person just quits, that willpower already existed.

and/or new activities were chosen to cover for the times when a person would habitually smoke.[/quote]

Right so a smoker who'd been smoking for years who did want to quit but they were so addicted that every time they tried they eventually gave in when it got too difficult but then they realised that cos they had a young child or something they had to force themselves to quit one at a time but it was very hard for them.

OBVIOUSLY they had some sort of willpower and the Capacity to improve their willpower but they only got the means and motivation to STRENGTHEN it by the realisation that their kid might suffer for it.

Just because they did it FOR a child, they're not REPLACING cigarettes with a kid, it's a completely different thing. Lack of smoking is merely an omission of smoking, there is a gap where the smoking would have been and there is also a kid.

RI_RS — Mon, 23 May 2011 - 01:01

[quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE]So how do we actually strengthen our will? (and if any different, what about sins specifically)[/quote]

I dunno, i'm guessing you do stuff like
-Pray to God to strengthen your will
-Be more proactive around it Islamically
-Exercise the self control you know you have by mentally prioritising differently

Foysol89 — Mon, 23 May 2011 - 02:53

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=You]I would think that if a person just quits, that willpower already existed.

and/or new activities were chosen to cover for the times when a person would habitually smoke.[/quote]

Right so a smoker who'd been smoking for years who did want to quit but they were so addicted that every time they tried they eventually gave in when it got too difficult but then they realised that cos they had a young child or something they had to force themselves to quit one at a time but it was very hard for them.

OBVIOUSLY they had some sort of willpower and the Capacity to improve their willpower but they only got the means and motivation to STRENGTHEN it by the realisation that their kid might suffer for it.

Just because they did it FOR a child, they're not REPLACING cigarettes with a kid, it's a completely different thing. Lack of smoking is merely an omission of smoking, there is a gap where the smoking would have been and there is also a kid.[/quote]

exactky what i said, Motivation strengthens your will power and demotivation weakens it.

for staying away from sins etc. your motivation is to please Allah(swt) and to attain Jannah. it's just trying to keep that in mind i guess.

for example if i read an ayat in the Qur'an or hear a lecture i usually get some motivation to stay away from sin etc. vice versa, people or whispers from the shaitan can de-motivate you.

it's the same thing when trying to lose or gain weight, you need some motivation to keep you going

i don't know if any of this makes sense

RI_RS — Tue, 24 May 2011 - 00:05

[quote=s.b.f][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=s.b.f]:lol:[/quote]

What is so funny? o.O[/quote]

It's a beneficial secret.[/quote]

😂

Fizz, Can willpower be Strengthened?

s.b.f — Tue, 24 May 2011 - 00:12

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=s.b.f][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=s.b.f]:lol:[/quote]

What is so funny? o.O[/quote]

It's a beneficial secret.[/quote]

😂

Fizz, Can willpower be Strengthened?[/quote]

Let's not argue, when we both know the answer is blinkin' obvious. But do tell, what are your thoughts?

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