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Salaam
Many people in the Asian Community lead VERY sheltered lives.
My twelve year old neighbour gets spoon fed by his mum every night, whilst he reclines on the pillow watching Telly…in fact even my 30-40year old uncle’s still sometimes get spoon fed by their mum.
What are the implications of babying your grown children?
If anything, don’t people start to take liberties? Who wouldn’t want to be waited on hand and foot?
And doesnt this result in the self-fulfilling prophecy? You know, treat someone like a baby and they'll begin to act like a baby?
Or do mothers actually enjoy chasing their grown kids with milk and fruit?
I was on work experience in some hospital once, and a Pakistani woman who was qualified doctor came in for a job interview with her dad.
It was an interesting interview as the dad would answer the questions for her. Unsurprisingly, she didn’t get the job.
And when, people live such sheltered lives don’t they find it difficult to stand on their own two feet in the real world? I have heard of 30year old men who expect their dad to find them jobs etc because they just don’t know how to go about these things themselves..
Heck, even my dependency on my parents annoys me at times.
I’m at the garage with my car and I don’t know what on Earth the mechanic is talking about, so who do I call? Dad. I’m lost I call dad. I don’t know if I should park somewhere, I call dad. I’m in the bank and the manager is messing me about, I call dad. Today, I wasn’t sure which line rental I should sign up for so I called dad.
When most of our parents came here in the 50’s 60’s they had to build their lives from scratch…they worked so hard and because of them, today we have it so easy….but unfortunately, many of us aren’t as clued up as they were…
You know in the West at the age of 18 a teenager is considered independent….many are expected to pay the rent or contribute to the household expenditure and it’s considered an insult if someone is in their late 20’s early 30’s and still living with their parents…
Should the Asian community take a leaf out of their books?
Share your thoughts…
Wasalaam
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Its ok dee. I can take it. They fire blanks.
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lol kk
dee????
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[quote="ayesha d"]lol kk
dee????[/quote]
ayesha, ur a newbie now but you'll realise soon enuf why people dont let omrow get away with anything. 😉
dee = d (the one you've got after your first name) - omrow likes misspelling girls' names or giving them nicknames. :roll:
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[quote="Admin"]I do not understand Omrow Vs Latifah.
Is it in jest? or is it a serious dislike of each other? (I guess I should pay attention to what happens on the forums I administrate...)[/quote]
I can’t speak for the patriotic pipsqueak but there is no real dislike on my part.
It’s just that he needs a slap every now and then to keep him in line, and I am quite happy to administer the chastisement when required.
We can’t have the mouse getting to big for his boots.
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😃
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ryyyyyt well ma namez ayesha n not dee thanks anyway Omrow lol 😉 but no niknamez r needed!
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[quote="*DUST*"][quote="ayesha d"]lol kk
dee????[/quote]
ayesha, ur a newbie now but you'll realise soon enuf why people dont let omrow get away with anything. 😉
dee = d (the one you've got after your first name) - omrow likes misspelling girls' names or giving them nicknames. :roll:[/quote]
actually i still dnt get it, why does he want to annoy the girls? and why do we let him annoy us?
though he doesnt annoy me 😉 😉 theres a thing called tolerance
oh :o and now i realise why he calls me madia instead of madiha, i thought it was actually a sin to not pronounce names properly and give nicks to islamic names, did u knw that?
my names madiHa with the strong H sound.
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[quote="madiha"]oh :o and now i realise why he calls me madia instead of madiha, i thought it was actually a sin to not pronounce names properly and give nicks to islamic names, did u knw that?
my names madiHa with the strong H sound.[/quote]
yup, he seems to have a particular dislike for the letter H. :roll:
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i was wondering where this asian obession of ramming food down ur throat as if you were a baby generated from?
i dont think this stems out of love or OTT hospitality
i think some ppl are just crazy :roll:
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Madiya. Stay out of it.
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[quote="Omrow"]Madiya. Stay out of it.[/quote]
yea, MADHEIA, omrow is still spoon-fed by his mommy, he cant get off his lazy backside for a glass of water, so don't criticise his beloved lifestyle! 😉
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Two ladies in my town just returned from the hospital cos they some had a minor operation…another two just had babies.
I had a big lunch at home and left to visit them all the other day and ended up eating spicy, greasy food at each and every house… I told them that I’ve just eaten lunch and that I wasn’t hungry…..but they wouldn’t take No for an answer.
I know people have good intentions but…this extreme hospitality is extremely annoying and very fattening.
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[quote="*DUST*"][quote="Omrow"]Madiya. Stay out of it.[/quote]
yea, MADHEIA, omrow is still spoon-fed by his mommy, he cant get off his lazy backside for a glass of water, so don't criticise his beloved lifestyle! :wink:[/quote]
LOL
Aasiya's on a roll-she's gonna scare that mouse back into his hole 😉 8)
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yeah well don't ever visit my mothers house her favourite word is "eat". Not 15 minutes passes she says eat eat, comes out with a new dish. Annoying is not the word. I'm surprised she isn't obese considering her love of cooking. She just likes to feed others.
Most bengalis offer you tea when you visit with other food. They actually ask you if you want one. If you say no you still get one, so why do they ask?
I've gone off tea at the moment, and i'm still given tea, even though i explain it makes me throw up. So now i just let the tea sit there till it goes stone cold. Then they eventually offer me a cold drink. That which i asked for in the first place.
Hospitality my foot, they need to be retrained.
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[quote="yashmaki"]
Hospitality my foot, they need to be retrained.[/quote]
Lol-I feel the same way. I've made myself sick in the past eating food that I can't usually stomach simply and only so that I do not offend my host.
I'm way past that now...my health and weight is more important that going to extremes to please others.
yeh but it alwayz seems 2 be lets get omrow,y is that??