Mind Your Own Business

MuslimSister —

Salaam

I’ve always been BIG on privacy….I don’t like telling people about stuff that I consider private and I don’t like people asking me either….if I offer information then that’s different.

I’m not a totally closed person …as some are. If someone is close to me then they pretty much know almost everything about me.

My parents aren’t snoopy people…they’ve never been down my wardrobe/drawers or mobile….and on the rare occasions when they’ve accidentally opened a letter of mine…(even if it’s just a bank statement) I’ve always kicked up a fuss….but overall my parents respect my privacy…dad always knocks before he enters my bedroom.

…I think thats because I’ve always told my parents about practically everything anyway… they’ve never had a reason to suspect me or invade my privacy.

However, I’am extremely conscious of my double standards….I’ve very close to my younger sister and have always felt it’s my “right” to double check where she’s going and go down her phone regularly…but I don’t do that behind her back.

And if I was a parent….I have a feeling that I’d be very snoopy mother. That’s cos I know how much crap goes on out there…

Yep I can be hypocritical…and I think it was Prophet Isa (AS) who said “treat others how you would like to be treated”.

Slightly of the topic…it is said the sign of the one with perfect taqwa is that he can have all his private thoughts on display for everyone and he won’t feel embarrassed by them.

So…how important is privacy to you?

Personally, I think privacy is a big issue here whilst for some reason it’s a non issue back home…

Is it correct to say, that only those people who have something to hide would be big on privacy?

I used to have a Nokia 8310 and it could record your conversation without the other person knowing…I never used that option on anyone. Apparently it’s illegal anyway…

What does Islam say about privacy? Do parents have a “right” to go down their children’s things..? Or can they only do that if they have a reason to suspect them?

Please discuss…

Wasalaam

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Anonymous (not verified) — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:05

[quote="*DUST*"][quote="(*_Shazan"]Shukran. Alhamdulilah[/quote]
'afwan.[/quote]

Excuse me???

Dave — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:07

[quote="(*_Shazan"][quote="*DUST*"][quote="(*_Shazan"]Shukran. Alhamdulilah[/quote]
'afwan.[/quote]

Excuse me???[/quote]

...apparently something very bad :shock:

*DUST* — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:08

[quote="Don Karnage"][quote="(*_Shazan"][quote="*DUST*"][quote="(*_Shazan"]Shukran. Alhamdulilah[/quote]
'afwan.[/quote]

Excuse me???[/quote]

...apparently something very bad :shock:[/quote]
lol! shukran = thank you, 'afwan = you're welcome.

Dave — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:09

[quote="*DUST*"][quote="Don Karnage"][quote="(*_Shazan"][quote="*DUST*"][quote="(*_Shazan"]Shukran. Alhamdulilah[/quote]
'afwan.[/quote]

Excuse me???[/quote]

...apparently something very bad :shock:[/quote]
lol! shukran = thank you, 'afwan = you're welcome.[/quote]

ah, very good then - Shukran.

Anonymous (not verified) — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:10

Afwan means Excuse me!

I’d thanked DUST for providing a source.

Anonymous (not verified) — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:12

Ahlan beka means - your Welcome

I understand DUST.........

*DUST* — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:13

[quote="Don Karnage"][quote="*DUST*"][quote="Don Karnage"][quote="(*_Shazan"][quote="*DUST*"][quote="(*_Shazan"]Shukran. Alhamdulilah[/quote]
'afwan.[/quote]

Excuse me???[/quote]

...apparently something very bad :shock:[/quote]
lol! shukran = thank you, 'afwan = you're welcome.[/quote]

ah, very good then - Shukran.[/quote]
note: its better translated as shukrun and 'afwun i guess, coz thats how its pronounced. 😉

*DUST* — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:16

[quote="(*_Shazan"]Afwan means Excuse me![/quote]yes, it can be used as either, depending on the context...

[quote="(*_Shazan"]Ahlan beka means - your Welcome[/quote]...but no, as far as i'm aware that^ is a literal translation of the english phrase into arabic.

Anonymous (not verified) — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:21

[quote="*DUST*"]
[quote="(*_Shazan"]Ahlan beka means - your Welcome[/quote]...but no, as far as i'm aware that^ is a literal translation of the english phrase into arabic.[/quote]

You are far better taught then I. Until I catch my plane to Syria my Arbaic going to remain wishy washer

Shukran, once again.

Dave — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:23

lol Aasiyah pretty well has arabic down cold. She's her own authority most of the time...

When are you going to Syria?

*DUST* — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:27

[quote="(*_Shazan"]You are far better taught then I. Until I catch my plane to Syria my Arbaic going to remain wishy washer

Shukran, once again.[/quote]
syria is an excellent place to learn arabic because the locals there arent as fluent in english as ppl in other arab countries, so you're forced to practice the language! 🙂

[quote="Don Karnage"]lol Aasiyah pretty well has arabic down cold. She's her own authority most of the time...[/quote]
and don't listen to dave 😛 - there's still a lot more for me to learn inshaAllah.

Anonymous (not verified) — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:28

[quote="Don Karnage"]lol Aasiyah pretty well has arabic down cold. She's her own authority most of the time...

When are you going to Syria?[/quote]

When I stop posting on forums- should be a good indication that I have competed my exodus.

Because I didn’t make the grade for Medicine and didn’t complete my first year in Forensic Science I’m very Indecisive at this moment regarding higher education 😢

if I decided to study again it will be in another country. InshaAllah

Anonymous (not verified) — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:34

[quote="*DUST*"]
syria is an excellent place to learn arabic because the locals there arent as fluent in english as ppl in other arab countries, so you're forced to practice the language! 🙂
[/quote]

Yes sister, and the Sheikh, Imam and Tajweed students are very accessible and offer unlimited free tuition and all they ask for is you make Dua for them....... and also give the brother’s an opportunity teach the local’s English- it work’s both way’s. I like Syria because it's not as commercialized as Cairo- free tuition… wouldn’t find that in the UK 🙁

Dave — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:41

[quote="(*_Shazan"][quote="Don Karnage"]lol Aasiyah pretty well has arabic down cold. She's her own authority most of the time...

When are you going to Syria?[/quote]

When I stop posting on forums- should be a good indication that I have competed my exodus.

Because I didn’t make the grade for Medicine and didn’t complete my first year in Forensic Science I’m very Indecisive at this moment regarding higher education 😢

if I decided to study again it will be in another country. InshaAllah[/quote]

Yikes that has to be a little unnerving - good luck working that out

Dave — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 - 18:42

[quote="*DUST*"][quote="Don Karnage"]lol Aasiyah pretty well has arabic down cold. She's her own authority most of the time...[/quote]
and don't listen to dave 😛 - there's still a lot more for me to learn inshaAllah.[/quote]

Noooo listen to Dave - she's trying to be modest so that nobody suspects she's that good, then she'll spring it up on you as a surprise in arguments.

Anonymous (not verified) — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 - 03:19

[quote="Don Karnage"]
Yikes that has to be a little unnerving - good luck working that out[/quote]

I didn’t mean to make you feel uncomfortable, why do a degree and waste three years of you’re life if you don’t enjoy what your doing?

Ever since my accident which I told you about on chat have been doing allot of searching :roll:

Anonymous (not verified) — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 - 03:38

[quote="Don Karnage"]That's a good question...[/quote]

My interests are forever changing. Maybe this show’s what kind of person I am, if I was like my friends I would have settled for Bsc in Business IT or Finance or some other trend setting degree course.

Dave — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 - 03:40

you could always pursue the moments interest - a career rennaissance man

Anonymous (not verified) — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 - 03:42

[quote="Don Karnage"]you could always pursue the moments interest - a career rennaissance man[/quote]

Yes- good advice.....

Dave — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 - 03:48

nah - not at all, i barely know what to do with myself, let alone others

Anonymous (not verified) — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 - 03:54

[quote="Don Karnage"]nah - not at all, i barely know what to do with myself, let alone others[/quote]

Maybe dreading the thought of having to work 50 years of your life isn’t really appealing to the masses however many do have to work to make end's meat.

Dave — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 - 03:57

Yes - it's quite a time commitment if you think about it. I always thought that that's the nice thing about having a family - make your family your life and your career is just an irritating sidenote should you not like it.

Anonymous (not verified) — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 - 04:01

[quote="Don Karnage"]Yes - it's quite a time commitment if you think about it. I always thought that that's the nice thing about having a family - make your family your life and your career is just an irritating sidenote should you not like it.[/quote]

Dave — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 - 04:04

Yea... I don't find that surprising at all, communication is the foundation of all human relationships

You — Mon, 30 Jan 2006 - 00:07

I have got a question.

How hard do you find it to respect someone elses privacy?

Do you lot like being nosy?

I am not generally nosey, but that orange 'new posts' icon that appears outside the boad to show there are posts is mighty enticing.

There is a board out there, which I am not supposed to visit. I have not apart from the very first post, which was an intro to it. There is an element of noseyness involved where I have to keep myself from seeing what they are chatting about. But I have never been nosey...

And no mods have powers to go into it. (That means that if a mod is member of the group, they can see it, but moderating powers are not carried in... I think... and if a mod is not a member, they cannot see it...)

So after this confused post... how hard do you find respecting others privacy?