21 Types of Negative Friends

Seraphim —

There is no crystal ball to predict that a particular friend will turn out to be a reliable, positive relationship in your life or, by contrast, that a negative association will cause you emotional distress, or worse. Since destructive or negative friends are not always that easy to spot, it may be a time to reevaluate your current friends, as well as to reassess past or potential friendships.

[b]1. The Promise Breaker[/b] Constantly disappoints you or breaks promises
[b]2. The Taker[/b] Borrows and fails to return something precious or valuable to you.
[b]3. The Double-Crosser[/b] Betrays you big time
[b]4. The Risk Taker[/b] Puts you in harm's way because of illegal or dangerous behavior
[b]5. The Self-Absorbed[/b] Never has time to listen to you
[b]6. The Cheat[/b] Lies, or steals your romantic partner
[b]7. The Discloser[/b] Betrays your confidence
[b]8. The Competitor[/b] Excessively combative with you and wants what you have relationships, job, possessions
[b]9. The One-Upper[/b] Always one up on you
[b]10. The Rival[/b] Wants whatever you have and may try to take it from you
[b]11. The Faultfinder[/b] Overly critical
[b]12. The Downer[/b] Always negative, critical, and sad, and makes you feel that way too.
[b]13. The Rejecter[/b] Dislikes you and lets you know it
[b]14. The Abuser[/b] Verbally, physically, or sexually abuses you
[b]15. The Loner[/b] Would rather be alone than with a friend
[b]16. The Blood Sucker[/b] Overly dependent
[b]17. The Therapist[/b] Needs to analyze everything and give you advice
[b]18. The Interloper[/b] Overly involved in your life
[b]19. The Copy Cat[/b] Imitates you
[b]20. The Controller[/b] Needs to dominate you or the friendship
[b]21. The Caretaker[/b] Needs to be a friend's keeper, mother or nursemaid, rather than an equal.

You may recognize some of the 21 traits in yourself or in a friend, but the occurrence may be so rare or so minute that it does not pose a problem...

God defend me from my friends; from my enemies I can defend myself.

Discuss

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Dave — Fri, 13 Jan 2006 - 13:42

Oh boy... looks like i'm 4, 5, 9, 17 (big time)

Although I think the list is a bit unfair - associated with some there are at least a few good characterstic that often makes friendship with such people acceptable. Take 17 for instance, I am like that all the time - drives people insane, but at the same time I know people who are like that and I appreciate the fact that they care enough to be interested in my problems and actually want to help. Even if its a bit condescending and irritating.

Angel — Fri, 13 Jan 2006 - 16:28

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]u also misseed out the LONG friend

the one who never returns ur calls or makes the effort to visit u-its always u who has to see them

thats me :?[/quote]

I am like that too, its cuz u get busy/lazy and you just cant be bothered to....

As for Serpah's list none match for me - it aint excly a frends list more like how u treat your enemies! Good frends dont do any of those 21 things :?

Seraphim — Fri, 13 Jan 2006 - 18:57

Well im not a shrink... nor did i ever take shrink-ology...

But the list is an average... obviously there may be a few i've missed. And i think you'll find these characteristics are just as common among friends as they can be in enemies.

Which is why, when a friend turns on you they can hurt you alot more than any enemy could.

Angel — Sat, 14 Jan 2006 - 09:40

[quote="Seraphim"]
Which is why, when a friend turns on you they can hurt you alot more than any enemy could.[/quote]

That above is true however i think those traits are more commonly found it primary school or secondary or rather they should only be found there. I think maybe i could have classified myself into some of those categories before but now i am not anythin like that, maybe cuz i knw what a true friend should be like.

There are many qualities which a good friend should have and out of those 21 none come under this category but then again we weren't really talkin bout "good" friends.