Living A Double Life

Salaam

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Amazing double life a growing trend among Muslim girls

By Claire Coleman

For the past four years, 24-year-old engineering student Sofia Ahmed
has been leading a double life. During a typical week, she will study in her university library by day, then head to any one of Liverpool's many student bars at night. There, she will party until the early hours: drinking, smoking and experimenting with the hedonistic lifestyle of a typical British
undergraduate.

But at the weekend, Sofia plays the role of a completely different person; a dutiful daughter of a well-to-do, traditional Muslim family who have raised their daughter to shun such Western temptations.

"Every Friday I get on a train home to Manchester to stay with my family," she says. "It isn't up for discussion; it is just expected. Before I leave, I tidy myself up, make sure I don't smell of drink or cigarettes, and head home to play the dutiful daughter, helping my mother in the kitchen, attending mosque and sitting with my parents' guests."

On Sunday night, Sofia returns to Liverpool and the cycle begins again.

"Within half an hour, I will be slipping into a sexy dress and be on my way to a bar to meet friends."

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Does the above ^^ sound familiar? I’m sure you guys all must personally know people in the above predicament.

I’ve always found this fraud fascinating…its always amazed me the extent to which people can pull wool over their parents eyes….Most parents really are oblivious to the 101 shady activities their little darlings get up to behind their back….simply and only because they’re such good actors…..

It really is shocking to see how easily some Muslim girls can slip out of a mini dress and into the traditional attire….and what is more shocking is how they automatically seem to have the right attitude fit right into their “expected role” as well.

But at the same time whilst some people seem to be experts at lying through their teeth and also being totally guilt free but for others the stress of deceit is too much to handle….

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But for many female Muslims like Sofia, this taste is bittersweet. When she graduates this year, she will return to her parents' home, where she'll revert back to the life of a "good girl", cocooned in a close-knit community where drinking, smoking and having boyfriends is considered sinful.

Not surprisingly, many Muslim women students find it incredibly hard to lead this double life. In the case of Malaysian-born Faria (21), a student at Sheffield University, her freedom came with overwhelming guilt.

"In my country, unmarried men and women are not allowed to be alone together. If caught, you can be jailed or fined," she says.

"But because I was on my own, I felt I could enjoy a Western life. I dated and eventually slept with a boy I met here."

For a while, she enjoyed her new-found openness. But soon, she was overcome by feelings of guilt and paranoia.

"I felt anxious throughout our relationship and had to lie to my parents and tell them I spent all my time studying."

"Then finally, last year, I had a nervous breakdown. I couldn't cope with my double life any more. I regret having a sexual relationship. I can't wait to finish my studies and go back to my country to make a fresh start."

"If anyone in Malaysia discovered the truth, my life wouldn't be worth living."……

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The thing is…one can NEVER get away with secretly breaking the limits of Allah (swt), such people are eventually named and shamed by Allah (swt) Himself. That in it self should be enough to shake people up….but then again, one shouldn’t avoid sinning because of the displeasure of their parents but rather because of the fear of Allah (swt).

So what’s the answer….obviously locking girls up at home and prevented them from pursuing higher education is not the answer, after all if one wishes to go astray they’ll go astray regardless of how many chains are placed around their neck….

Are the parents to blame? Are they a bit TOO trusting?

To a lesser extent have you guys ever went into schizophrenia mode in your parents presence?

Share your thoughts on all of the above….

Wasalaam