How Do You Entertain Guests?

MuslimSister —

Salaam

This is something that I’m not very good at…

Islam stresses the importance of being good hosts.

When people come to my house and I offer then food and they say No…I’ll ask again and if they still say No I’ll leave it.

That’s only cos I know how annoying it is to be forced to eat when you don’t want to eat….But my mum will not let go of a guest until she has forced them to eat (gun on head style)…she’ll empty out her cupboards for guests.

I don’t feel comfortable doing that.

I’m totally fine with entertaining kids/teenagers. But I’m so crap with aunties….I can’t talk to them (partly cos of my terrible Urdu) and also cos I don’t really like the topics they raise. But regardless of what they speak about…I KNOW that being hospitable is obligatory on me.

I know that I should smile and offer aunties samose (even if they’re chatting about so and so’s daughter from number 25)

And whilst we are obliged to be good hosts, guests also should be perfect guests…the type that don’t over stay and don’t inconvenience the family with their silly demands…

How do you entertain YOUR guests (I could do with some tips).

My British upbringing and Pakistani culture makes it very difficult for me to decide what is the right or wrong way to treat guests.

Isn’t it rude to watch TV, read or text people when guests are present?

What do you do when guests start slandering and backbiting people who you are close to? Can you nicely tell them to shut up?

And what do you do when you’re entertaining one set of guests and ANOTHER set of guests turn up?

Is there segregation in your household?

And what according to Islam are the do’s and don’t of being the perfect guest?

Isn’t it rude to come to someone’s house without phoning in advance?

What about when they leave? Pakistani culture is to make people stay when they announce that they have to go...But isnt it wrong to force people to stay-what if they really have to be somewhere?

Share your thoughts…

Wasalaam

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MuslimBro — Wed, 12 Jul 2006 - 17:44

[quote="MuslimSister"]There's no way pedestrians can cross Romford Rd esp towards straford end where you were on Sunday.[/quote]
There's a few traffic lights there, isn't there...

[quote="MuslimSister"]Generally speaking, in East London, Romford Rd is the worst place to drive[/quote]
What d'ya mean...I love that road, gives me a chance to speed there :twisted:. Maybe you're there at the wrong time.

[quote="Angel"]The first line u quoted of mine is regarding pedestrians, second one is regarding drivers ie when you are tying to pull out no car gives u way to do so, comprende?[/quote]
Seen, you should have been more clearer.

LilSis, you should have waited at the zebra crossing so he would have had time to stop. I have found some people waiting near a zebra crossing but not wanting to cross it so you don't really know their intentions.

kas — Wed, 12 Jul 2006 - 17:44

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]i was too busy yelling at the man to run after the car and note down his number plate[/quote]

lol ha ha fair enough i'd probably do the same ikkle sis 😃 hope youre okay.

MuslimSisLilSis — Wed, 12 Jul 2006 - 17:49

what u on MuslimBro

romford rd is such a crap place-esp on a weekened on ur way to straford/green street

its always blocked and full of mad drivers :roll:

MuslimBro — Wed, 12 Jul 2006 - 17:57

I can only remember being in a traffic jam twice in romford road...or maybe more (since I'm not too good at remembering things) but I don't think its [i]that[/i] bad.

Green street is packed at weekends, you need to learn to use the small road, helps you avoid the traffic jams.

Or you can try using the bendy buses during rush hour coz cars are not allowed in bus lanes.

Angel — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 - 00:12

[quote="Sirus"]erm....i was blocking romford road on sunday, causing a big jam :lol:[/quote]

How by standing infront of the cars fatty :twisted: (couldn't resist!)

Did u actually drive down to London :shock:

Sirus — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 - 00:15

[quote="Angel"][quote="Sirus"]erm....i was blocking romford road on sunday, causing a big jam :lol:[/quote]

How by standing infront of the cars fatty :twisted: (couldn't resist!)

Did u actually drive down to London :shock:[/quote]

no, i made the driver pull up in the middle of the road, i was tryna get out of the van, looking for stuff and at the fone at the same tym lol

MuslimSisLilSis — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 - 13:44

[quote="Angel"][quote="Sirus"]erm....i was blocking romford road on sunday, causing a big jam :lol:[/quote]

How by standing infront of the cars fatty :twisted: (couldn't resist!)

:[/quote]

LOL

thats EXACTLY what i was gonna say 😂

when he got out of the car his great big backside must of blocked all the traffic causing the entire Romford rd to have a traffic jam for hours :twisted:

Angel — Fri, 14 Jul 2006 - 01:18

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]

LOL

thats EXACTLY what i was gonna say 😂 :[/quote]

Great minds think alike 😉

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]
when he got out of the car his great big backside must of blocked all the traffic causing the entire Romford rd to have a traffic jam for hours :twisted:[/quote]

lol that description is classic hehe

MuslimBro — Fri, 14 Jul 2006 - 02:17

Sirus you shouldn't have said that you were blocking romford road.

I had the sudden urge to say what Angel said but I kept it back 😂

Angel — Fri, 14 Jul 2006 - 19:26

[quote="Muslim Bro"]Sirus you shouldn't have said that you were blocking romford road.

I had the sudden urge to say what Angel said but I kept it back :lol:[/quote]

You were too much of a wimp to say it incase sirus crushed you :twisted: 😛

Exquisite — Fri, 4 Aug 2006 - 12:09

[color=magenta]OMG we had guests from canada n bham over at the same time n it was hectic, my lil sis tried to escape by staying a my aunts hse bt she couldnt ge away, i dont like it when too many ppl come over the hse gets so messy n there is so much disorder n chaos n i feel i cant work to my schedule n if i cant keep to my schedule my head to goes crazy, but all in all it was good the kids werent monsters, the sleeping arrangements were hilarious ppl sleeping all over the place, the hallway, al women in the living room,i felt sorry for daddy though[/color]

Noor — Fri, 4 Aug 2006 - 13:14

[quote="Exquisite"][color=magenta] my lil sis tried to escape by staying a my aunts[/color][/quote]

lol, im like tht!

i h88 it when guests cum over, they take over ur house! they boot u off ur own bed! make u sleep on the floor, hoff the kitchen and eat all ur food! i hope we dnt have any cuming sooon...

Exquisite — Fri, 4 Aug 2006 - 14:15

[color=magenta]lolz i knw the feeling, someone told me sleeping on the floor is good for your back mine seem to ache when i sleep on the floor[/color]

Exquisite — Fri, 4 Aug 2006 - 14:43

[color=magenta]is it just me but you knw when you have guests over n they use the toilet if i really need to use i open the window, kill the toilet wiv air freshner n use gallons of bleach before i use the toilet?n also i cannnot anyone elses loo it has to be my loo[/color]

Noor — Fri, 4 Aug 2006 - 14:46

lol, im not like that, but my mum is, she gives it a quick clean and then its fit enough for the family to use

MuslimSister — Fri, 4 Aug 2006 - 16:47

[quote="Exquisite"][color=magenta]OMG we had guests from canada n bham over at the same time n it was hectic, my lil sis tried to escape by staying a my aunts hse bt she couldnt ge away,
[/quote]

After I've helped mum clean the house and cook stuff...I usually escape out of the house too when certain guests I cant stand come over.

Exquisite — Fri, 4 Aug 2006 - 16:53

[color=magenta]you are so lucky i try n escape myslef but therez only so many times you can, wht i find extremely rude is when ppl treat my hse like a 5 star hotel i dont mind cleaning up n stuff but you dont spit thngs out of ur mouth on the carpet[/color]

Exquisite — Fri, 4 Aug 2006 - 16:56

[color=magenta]you knw the worse thng the spit the juice of the beetle nut thng, thats gross i dont mind running and getting the bin but they just spit it out, [/color]

Exquisite — Fri, 4 Aug 2006 - 17:16

[color=magenta]lolz i knw but not all my relatives are like that n these ppl arent cruel ppl just sum bad habits [/color]

MuslimBro — Sat, 5 Aug 2006 - 04:45

[quote="Exquisite"][color=magenta]you knw the worse thng the spit the juice of the beetle nut thng, thats gross i dont mind running and getting the bin but they just spit it out, [/color][/quote]
I used to swallow it.

I would lose my temper if my cousin spat on our carpet. If I had wooden floor then that would be something else as it is easy to clean it up but if you have carpet in your house, it's a headache keeping it clean.

Angel — Sat, 5 Aug 2006 - 23:12

eww ewww teach them lessons in hygiene ppl! Spittin alone is disgusting but doin it in someone elses house is not only disgustin but inconsiderate and plain filthy eugh!