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sorry sis, lol i mean bro. I hardly ever listen to radio, so I dnt knw who u r.
but im on abt a different case. In this 1 the girl aint thinking of running off, she aint like that. shud the geeza go with his parents even tho she says that her parents are gonna sy no. That wud be a big insult on the guys parents, the guy wudnt like his parents to be shamed like that, espeically bcos of him.
Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar
ish med dis about u? or u asking generally?
is seraph some kinda agony aunt
Irrelavant.
If he truely wants to do this the right way then he's gonna have to learn to put his pride aside and do the right thing. Parents are willing to do anything for their kids and would most def give their kids choice some consideration.
No one wants their parents to be shamed like that. But like i said follow propper ettiquite and all will be well. Make sure you ring before going. DO NOT turn up unannounced... common curtousey goes a long way
Back in BLACK
ME?! tobah kar. I wouldnt have such experiences. Im just asking for my mate, he's a bit of a joker, no1 knws him here but I think he's fallen for some girl, keeps asking me for advice but I dont knw what to say, so come here to ask advice from auntyji.
lol @ agony aunt
gud advice, seraph brother. I wil pas it on.
Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar
Med-
if the girl said that her family is gonna say no
why should ur mate and his family go thru the crappy stressful "rishta" process
waste of time and a headache-
Med, im surprised.......i didnt think you would be the type to encourage nagging, rebelling etc to get the partner you wish....bieng that slight bit selfish
how can one upset thier parents?
i couldnt do it for my own sake
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
Would you prefer not to try at all... but rather sit on your backside wondering what would hav happened if you did?? I dont think so.
Atleast let them try the official method... b4 people start runing away togeather or b4 they start doing things undercover.
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why try if he knows what the answer will be?
if the girl said that her parents will say no
why put urself and ur family thru that?
AKA you prefer to give up without a fight. The mating call of the looser.
He cant say for sure 100% what the answer will be. Sometimes the smallest bit of hope is enough to keep going.
I've said it before, love is for the brave of heart not the weak.
He has no business falling in love if he cant hack it.... he should stay home and marry his parents choice.
Back in BLACK
why the stigma attatched to parents choice?
cant you both pick the same person?
cant they pick a good person for you?
you make it sound as if theres only THE ONE and no-one else
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
No stigma... only people hav their own preference and they should be taken into consideration.
Ofcourse they can pick the same person.
'The One' doesnt exist ...
Follow the White Rabbit ....
Back in BLACK
indeed
i can understand tryin your best to convince your parents to go with your likin, but i cant understand running away or angering them to get that person
you dont know you dont try, but what if its not meant to be?
you cant really think about either of those two things.....ur always gona be thinkin 'what if' or 'was it to be'
if it dont happen, get on with life........for godssake, dont run away and dont displease ur parents
(im talkin about sensible parents)
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
Running away is an act of desperation for those who do not see any other way. Sometimes it takes a calm objective mind to see another path... which is why i've said tell your parents how you feel. No matter how backwards or desi they maybe they will not ignore this as they want whats best for their children.
I've also said before love is not about possessing the person whom you love. Ideally this would be best possible outcome. However just bcoz you love them unconditionally doesnt mean they will love you unconditionally. To truly love you love without expecting anything in return... you love them with their best interests at heart. If that means letting them go will make them happy then why should you be so selfish?
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my mates parents aint backward like that, they made it pretty clear that they aint gonna force the guy to get married to any1. But I also understand hayders point.
How can the guy risk his parents to be insulted for his own happiness? My mates the second born son innit, and when his older bro wanted to ask for som1s rishta the dad goes that he aint going until he know for definite that the girls family gonna say yes. so the mom went and dad didnt, basically my mate feels that if his dad didnt risk being shamed for the oldest born, then how can he, the 2nd born, put his dad and mom in such a situation?
Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar
true nor could i, even though i'd love to marry him.
med tell your mate theres no point in shaming his parents IF he already know the answers gonna be no, like lilsis said
yea and say that 2 yr mate aswell , i know his heart wont take it but trust me he'll get over it over time. trust me i know
u know what im on bout
yeh, i told my mate that bit. He goes obviously he is gonna get over it, cant even remember the girl half the time so he aint gonna b missing her is he. Guys a joka, I dunno y he even wants to marry her, she OBVIOUSLY doesnt mean much to him, cos he just told me he hardly remembers her as it is!
gud advice Muhtarama. My mate is really happy.
Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar
your friends reflect you, you do know that dont ya
btw....i see Muhtarma has now taken up the condemned practice of using Smilies in her posts
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
surely the guys your parents are tryin set you up wiv cant all be that bad?
Your parents only have your best interest at heart and therefore would
never marry you off to someone they know you wont like or get on wiv.
Parents arent always clueless bout the kind of person you would like after
all they av brought you up for many years and you know what they say
children are always are reflection of their parents. Surely you can get
around this without resorting to runnin away. Just because ur siss did it
and they were forgiven doesnt mean to say if you did it they will. One
should never hurt their parents and if you feel strongly about this guy
then make ur parents listen and if they still say no then at least you know
you have tried, theres nothin wrong wiv tryin. Sum tymes a little
persuasion can even make desi parents change their minds.
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
to the kid who started this thread, what have your parents got against bengalis marrying pakistanis?
If you don't know pursue the issue with them and when they start mumbling recite from the Quran and Hadis about the equality of man in Islam. (honestly i the nicest possible way, your parents need to check what they're putting in their jashanda!)
Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.
Through cheating, stealing, and lying, one may get required results but finally one becomes
I think its because the pakistani punjabi army acted like savages on the muslims of east pakistan. Maybe its cos the pakistanis raped, massacred, looted the muslims of bangladehs under the orders of the shia butchers of balouch.
Maybe its cos the pakistanis treated the east pakistanis the way the hindus treat the muslims of kashmir, perhaps its the fact that the pak army rounded up bengali women and raped them like animals?
I aint a bengali, i am pakistani/kashmiri but the pak army have a lot to answer for. I dont blame bengalis for hating pakis.
Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar
NO GUY is worth upsetting mummy over
Could you tell me more about the role of Balochi Shias in the Pakistani Civil War?
exactly
i second that
obviously, replace Guy with Girl...or supermodel
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
irf. :? plz can u PM him that or sumthing. i thought we agreed not to have sectarian arguments on the forum....
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[img]http://img73.imageshack.us/img73/8416/confused25nm.gif[/img] What? Me? Secterian?
I was asking a q about history/politics.
u know wot i mean. and its Sect[b]a[/b]rian, with an 'a'
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otherwise i'll stop you
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
yeh right. darth hayduh is gonna stop me (or anyone for that matter)?!
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