The Years Of Dossing
Salaam
Teenage years and the 20’s are usually the years of dossing.
Dossing means wasting time/chilling/having a laugh (I don’t know if people from up north use this term).
I used to doss a LOT when was college…we had so much free time then. And my school was so strict that they didn’t let you off the premises even if you had most of your lessons free…so me and the girls would spend all our time in the common room and just talk for hours and hours…we’d talk about every subject under the sun….we’d talk about serious issues and stupid issues…and we’d do each other’s
hair/nails/listen to music and read magazines…SO much time was wasted this way.
The Holy Prophet ﷺ has told us to take appreciate five things before they go, one of which is youth before old age….
One is physically and mentally the most active when they are young. Youth possess phenomenal amount of energy some more then others. I possess OTT mental energy and physical energy….on some days I can easily be out and about doing stuff all day long and awake writing stuff all night long….
And it is during THIS time that if this energy is channeled in the correct way it can guarantee us a place in Paradise. It is during this stage in life that we can greatly benefit society around us…...
Unfortunately instead of using our time and energy in a beneficial manner…years and years are spent dossing…doing nothing beneficial or useful. Sometimes this may be because there aren’t that many outlets to channel our energy…sometimes it may be because family holds us back….but in most cases its because youngsters are SO lazy and couldn’t careless about anything.
Mohammad Bin Qasim from Basra (Iraq) who marched into Pakistan by way of Persia and Balochistan with an army of 60,000 men was only 19 at the time!!
But instead of aspiring to follow in the footsteps of great personalities such as Muhammad Bin Qasim many of us believe in breaking all the laws ordained by Allah (swt) and then later calming down and getting serious about religion and living their lives as good Muslims….just like many of our elders did.
Do we utilise our time effectively?
My 16/17 year old brother is the worlds biggest dosser...he never does anything useful-ever...
So what exactly is my question? There are no questions today. The above is just a bit of food for thought.
Wasalaam
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Personally I m gonna be in sheffield for 5 years but alhamdulillah Im not too worried about it. Im going there to get an education not to make friends with scantily clad women or drunks sprawled on kerbs.
At school our careers advisers always banged on about personal skills and being involved in loads of societies and things to make yourself stand out for the uni and later for employers. Alhamdulillah with my degree I dont need to do any society or club things so will just stick with my lessons and get out of that devils pit.
University is a huge fitnah.
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[quote="Medievalist"]Personally I m gonna be in sheffield for 5 years but alhamdulillah Im not too worried about it. Im going there to get an education not to make friends with scantily clad women or drunks sprawled on kerbs.
At school our careers advisers always banged on about personal skills and being involved in loads of societies and things to make yourself stand out for the uni and later for employers. Alhamdulillah with my degree I dont need to do any society or club things so will just stick with my lessons and get out of that devils pit.
University is a huge fitnah.[/quote]
It may be a definate place for such things but it doesnt have to be. Self-Control bro, self-control. Even you will feel lonely if you dont make friends. No one can stand alone.
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my dad doesnt like us girls working ....talking of uni thats a no no to....i dont know why hes like that but i'd say he thinks we'll come under all the fitnah...
where as the boys are allowed to do what they want.
but i'd say uni can have a bad effect on a person...my cuzon sis goes ta sheffield at first she was naik but now shes totally changed ..her clothes attitude ..what not.
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personally i dont want to go uni. I said to my parents send me to Darul Uloom Karachi but they just wont allow it, they want me to have a degree, trim my beard, eat halwa(!) but alhamdulillah I pray ALLAH protects me. InshaALLAH I wont send my kids to uni either, boys or girls unless its segregated and thats not gonna happen in this country.
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[quote="irfghan"][quote="MuslimSisLilSis"][quote="irfghan"]Depends what course you do.[/quote]
buisness and law
after the first week-I'm gonna choose one and drop the other
I'll either do buisness degree or law degree[/quote]
Very little free time with that.
My second year at History was 4 lectures a week. Now that's free time![/quote]
4 classes a week!?
u gotta be kiddin me... :shock:
is dat were my tax money is goin on?
i always suspected dat students were lazy, but dat is taking the u know wot...man i wish i could have dossed around wiv a fat loan cheque to tide me over for yrs...
suppose history requires a lotta readin, but come on!
more to da point...wot r da lecturers gettin paid for?
chattin about da past for a few hrs? i culd do dat!
4 hrs a week...am i da only person outraged by dat???
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lectures are a waste of time....with mine they read out tha handout they give us....the point in that???!
Uni is crappy
i start on tuesday and have a 2 and a half hour exam within three weeks :?
LilSis...do Law, i'll slide you the courseworks and text books 😉
anyone been to Uni of Hudds or planning on goin? i was there, i was really impressed by thier prayer rooms (better than ours!)...excellent wudhu facililties and they got an Islamic Research Library...sick one! :shock:
Man Met.....the Student Union are trying thier hardest to get rid of the Islamic Society :evil:
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[quote="St George"]
4 classes a week!?
u gotta be kiddin me... :shock:
is dat were my tax money is goin on?
i always suspected dat students were lazy, but dat is taking the u know wot...man i wish i could have dossed around wiv a fat loan cheque to tide me over for yrs...
suppose history requires a lotta readin, but come on!
more to da point...wot r da lecturers gettin paid for?
chattin about da past for a few hrs? i culd do dat!
4 hrs a week...am i da only person outraged by dat???[/quote]
😂 😂
There is quite a bit of reading involved.
The lecturers touch on the certain areas. Hard to get hundreds of years of history into a few hours.
My waste of the free time led to me scraping through with a 2/1 in 2nd year. This year I will really get my head into the books God willing.
The lecturers are very clever people. When not lecturing they're writing books and articles, attending seminars and speaking at conferences. The lecturers I have are particularly good at what they do.
Your taxes are well spent.
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still thou irfan!
i know "students" who spend all day in bed, all night in da bar/club, and a few hrs actually doing any real studing the day before work due in...no wonder so many ppl que up to join uni...im sure u aint among these layabouts irfan 😉
im jelous now! :evil:
i wanna be a lazy student...
i reckon uni tutiion fees should reach 10 grand a year, then we see who really wants to study...
hope you get a first...
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Thanks Georgy.
But the layabouts are generally the ones that finish with nothing.
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except me 😉
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[quote="yashmaki"]why don't you go to the darul uloom up in bury or kidderminster if it's a matter of distance?[/quote]
its not a matter of distance. My respected parents are not exactly religious folk, they want me to have a degree and a good shop and a sharp suit and a fast car.
InshaALLAH I have made intention to go darul uloom AFTER finishing uni and setting my parents up financially. Although bury and kidderminster are good I know for a fact that there is a heaven-earth difference between these uk madaris and pakistan/india ones; even I have friends who have experienced both and pakistan ones are totally different.
Now that musharraf has decided to not allow ''foreign'' students into madaris it looks like inshaALLAH i will go deoband, make dua that ALLAH accepts me. In the meantime I study in birmingham and ustadji said I can do alim course after uni; my teachers are most favourable to me.
Perhaps will become alim fazil here and then pursue further studies abroad but for a good few years have to do uni and work at the moment. May ALLAH make things easy upon me.
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inshallah
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plus the advantage of doing alim course by my current ustaad is that if there are only 5 people doing it in the entire madrassah, you kinda get excellent teaching.
ppl go on abt private schools where they pay thousands of pounds fees and only get one teacher to about 25 pupils. here i pay 15 a week and practically one to one tuition! subhanALLAH easy to learn lessons this way and plus understand more stuff quicker. make dua that i finish uni quick time and can continue with my studies at madrassah.
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[quote="yashmaki"]
Although it is not better than those courses offered abroad it is a good alternative for ppl who can't go abroad for what ever reasons they may have.[/quote]
yes thats true. I have had opportunity to compare bury/kidminsiter with korangi and binor town in pak and there is a HUGE difference even between the way the students behave.
So tranquil and quiet, they leave their lessons at namaz time and walk quietly to the masjid and fill up front rows, little chatter and no gaps. It was amazing, and over here even though the madaris are good the students dont behave like that. Start talking given half a chance and dont be as dedicated to studies as I seen in pak. I think deoband and lucknow are even more amazing, inshaALLAH will visit india sometime soon.
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ive been off since May
i've been sitting at home since May
i will be off till end of September
i spend my day eating, shopping, over sleeping and watching TV
i watched norbit 2day
shrek 3rd yesterday
bring it on
and whatever is on SKY on a daily basis
im bored out of my head
i can not doss anymore
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Get a Job ... good for nothing... lazy girl...
GO CLEAN THE KITCHEN FLOOR!!
:twisted:
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[quote="Seraphim"]
Get a Job ... good for nothing... lazy girl...
:[/quote]
cant as we may be going on holiday this year
[quote="Seraphim"]
GO CLEAN THE KITCHEN FLOOR!!
:twisted:[/quote]
everyone cleans their own mess in my house
plus - it dont exactly take hours to clean a floor
it takes my about an hour to clean the whole house daily :roll: :roll:
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[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]
it takes my about an hour to clean the whole house daily :roll: :roll:[/quote]
It takes me an hour just to clean the kitchen. They are all born idle at my house nobody ever picks up after themselves.
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[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]and I recommend ALL women to leave their homes and do something useful like find a job (including myself)
the devil makes work for idle hands
8)[/quote]
(14 september 2005)
maybe you should follow ur own advice from 2 years ago!!
or volunteer at th mosque, that way you go on holiday if you want.
or maybe write an article for TheRevivalMag!
[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]but its diff for us
dad pays most of our fee's
which is a LOT of money-
anyway-like i said aint looking forward to crappy Uni[/quote]
Uni life passes alot quickly and alot happily depending on the company you keep. As yashmaki said beware of the dodgy people evan in religious societies aka Wack-Jobs.
Its good if you find a good group of friends within the first week to be around, im sure you'll find the time passes very quickly. You may not be looking forward to it now but when the time comes to leave you prob wont want to.
Best of luck