"yuit" wrote:

But he decent, that what the question was?

decent aint enough-that aint what the Q was

husbands should have the full package.

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:

"yuit" wrote:

But he decent, that what the question was?

decent aint enough-that aint what the Q was

husbands should have the full package.

Too be honest there no such thing as the full package, it about accepting weaknesses on both part and being able to live and cover each other.

i guess girls in our generation just expect a lot more then women in my mums generation did

they also a lot less tolerant

expectations with todays girls jus makes u :shock:

they fail to look at their own weaknesses and faults....and concentrates on the guys.

why do girls love to hate guys? lol

i like to consider myself decent

i'm sure u are decent and decent is good enough. there are still some girls who know that in reality there aint no perfect and yet the most imperfect can seem perfect. its a matter of tolerance, keeping expectations within reason and looking on the bright side.

there are women in their thirties looking for Mr Perfect and they'll be looking forever

just get what you're given and be thankful was my advice to myself.

i keep telling them these women in their 30's give the guys a chance, you may have pleasant surprise and if you dont well thats life - there are no guarantees

"Darth V-Hayder" wrote:

expectations with todays girls jus makes u :shock:

they fail to look at their own weaknesses and faults....and concentrates on the guys.

why do girls love to hate guys? lol

i like to consider myself decent

girls dont have high expectations (some may do)

but most just expect what they deserve

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:

girls dont have high expectations (some may do)

but most just expect what they deserve

yeah right!

everyone can be self centred.

"Admin" wrote:

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:

girls dont have high expectations (some may do)

but most just expect what they deserve

yeah right!

everyone can be self centred.

I have to agree with you there, Admin. And in all honesty, I think in marriage is one of the few places you SHOULD be looking out for yourself; you want someone you can get along with, like, gelle with; someone who will help YOU in being a better person

Yeah, I can't help but feel that most girls here in England are spoilt. Alhumduillah some are very good and devote, but alot of them are indeed too self centred as admin has mention in general.

Also a wise man in my community said something and when he say something it normally good and very true. He was commenting on the fact that a little while ago that Men had no shame and women had modesty, he then said that now it the opposite way around and women have no shame and men have decency. It kind of true, women are shameless today. I not including the sister who are devote to islam, just general street girls.

Ofcourse it easy to blame the man for everything, but alot of the problem we see with marriage today stem from the woman as well IMO. They just ain't realistic anymore, they demand and expect too much, when they ain't giving too much in the process as well.

That is most people. Not just girls.

"Admin" wrote:

That is most people. Not just girls.

Of course, but of late especially on this website, it seem that the man has been getting alot of the blame. But I think the women have alot to answer for themselves.

"yuit" wrote:

"Admin" wrote:

That is most people. Not just girls.

Of course, but of late especially on this website, it seem that the man has been getting alot of the blame. But I think the women have alot to answer for themselves.

Works both ways, Elmer. As my darling mum says 'you can't clap with one hand alone'

since when does our society show that girls are worse then guys

BOTH are equally as shameless as one another

and like Afro said-it takes TWO to tango

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:

since when does our society show that girls are worse then guys

BOTH are equally as shameless as one another

and like Afro said-it takes TWO to tango

i totally agree wid u sis.

"Aphrodite" wrote:

I have to agree with you there, Admin. And in all honesty, I think in marriage is one of the few places you SHOULD be looking out for yourself; you want someone you can get along with, like, gelle with; someone who will help YOU in being a better person

EXACTLY

and what's wrong with being careful and fussy?

after all the person u end up marrying can either become ur source of misery or happiness

so I dont agree with them people who say that a person "shouldnt be fussy" :roll:

I would like to say it is so quick for people to say yes and no each have their own lives own experiences etc the ones who are saying yes to marriages in pakistan are the ones who are ok with it the ones who say no have had hell with it.

The truth is no one should marry where people are not so good and most likely 90% cases from freshies turn out bad no one wants to marry them. Has anyone ever tried to wonder why people don't wanna marry freshies ok to say British people think highly of themselves well if the other is getting a passport for free they would do.

And i also agree men who marry freshie girls are living better because they are men and they can make women dance to their tunes. Whereas men from they are bastards they like to come here have the passport and then earn money and piss off leaving kids and ruining girls life.

They want this respect and think they can do anything once their mission is achieved and most likely the run away after getting a passport. several cases, most cases where men use women for the passport. You must have no option if considering Pakistan freshies.

i won't recommend big NO 

In my opinion,Pakistani and Muslim parents must help their children to get married from back home for the survival of their cutlrue, faith and language, otherwise, the future generations would be lost in western jungle.

IA

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