Is A Woman’s Place In The Home?

Salaam

For the last couple of months I’ve been actively seeking work…. after being rejected left right and centre…I was advised to contact this agency that gets you into schools, now after they check my references out I should start working in a matter of weeks… Finally-Alhumdullilah!!

Why do I want to work?

Since I was a little girl I’ve wanted to teach, I used to play “school/school” with my brother and sisters and I was always the teacher….whenever I have spare time I work voluntary in different types of schools.

Also, I dislike being idle, I’m a girl with OTT mental energy, I can not do nothing. A life of leisure does not suit me. I prefer being active/busy and on the go…..that’s when I’m the most happiest.

Also, I don’t like asking my dad for money. If I start working I’ll be able to pay for my own driving lessons/car maintenance when I get a car and my sisters lessons as well…I’ll also be able to spend money on my family.

ALSO, my grandmother’s been on my case to get a job. She claims I need to be more “independent”.

But what bugs me SO much is people who have issues with girls who work. Thankfully my family is not like that, but that doesn’t stop every other Tom, Dick and Uncle Harry from advising my parents to “keep her in the home” so that she doesn’t become “too modern” and that “no one likes modern girls”

What on Earth does it mean to be “too modern”?

Apparently working women are responsible for the break up of a home.

I see such a TREMENDOUS need for more Muslim women in the workforce.

I would hate to live in a society where all men advocated that women should stay at home and not work.

When the wives of such men fell pregnant would they really be OK with her giving birth in front of male doctors?

If God forbid something happened to her, would they really be OK with her being touched and prodded by some male Doctor?

If their daughter started attending public school would they really be OK with her being taught the facts of life by some male teacher?

If they underwent some family crises would they really be OK with their wives opening up to a male counsellor?

Many women wish/need to know how to drive, would the men be OK with their wives spending a significant time alone with some strange male in his car?

Cos thats what would happen if ALL men advocated that their women MUST stay at home...

On a side note, I heard of instances in this country where a wife was in difficult labour however, the husband allowed her to die in labour then to be checked out by a male doctor….

I don't understand what’s the issue with working if internal/external pardah is implemented?

And why do some men have serious issues with their women working in a place where men are present especially if they are covered up and do not flirt/talk unnecessary.....

Is it lack of trust? Insecurity?

Yes, I know that the welfare of children should the number one concern of a mother. But what if she doesn’t have kids? Or what if they are in school all day long? What should she do at home all day long…brush her hair/do her nails and wait for her husband to get home?

So share your thoughts, is a woman’s place in the home?

Wasalaam