Well, I'm a young bloke, so I can't be a single mum! But tell me your experience.

Shaz wrote:

sallams,
I had such a bad experience and wish no1 goes thru this.
He used to beat me for no reason at all. Like a gud muslim wife i didnt tell any1 untill his brother stated sexually abusing me.

Mate, can I just say that if you stood up to him and told someone, it wouldn't have made you a bad Muslim. Those few lines have told me that you're a fairly tough person. Keep going, if that's alright with you.

There was this unverified guy who came here and told us lot how he sexually abused his brother's wife. He got a proper, let's just say, challenge from us. But he hasn't really come back.

Can you relate to this?

[url=http://www.therevival.co.uk/forum/general/3672]Sexual Abuse- Taboo in the Muslim Community?[/url]

If you have never suffered from domestic violence its easy to say "well oh what was stopping you?" or "You should have left him sooner".

All we can do is make dua that may Allah(swt) give these women the courage and strength to stand up to these cowardly pathetic excuse for men.

But wouldn't group 2 undestand that it isn't easy and encourage the victim to stand up?

love to live but living to die wrote:

but the purpose of me askin all those questions is cause i nvr get to find the underlying cause of the flippin crime! there may b more than 1 factor involved but still i think evry1 needs to c the whole picture!

Women stay with their abusive partners for many reasons.Those reasons differ for each vctim. Every case should be judged on its own merit.

And you can never get the whole picture coz there are two sides to every story!

But at the end of the day, we all have to learn to stand up for ourselves and each other, right?

Courage wrote:

But at the end of the day, we all have to learn to stand up for ourselves and each other, right?

True but its easier said then done.

Naz wrote:

Courage wrote:

But at the end of the day, we all have to learn to stand up for ourselves and each other, right?

True but its easier said then done.

Most things worth doing usually are.

Yeah I get that, but we have to help each other to do that, otherwise the real criminals in this would get away.

Hey Shaz you have vainished for a bit!

Posted too many times haha

HAHAHA
Well serves that Tramp ryt dont it?!
you probably would have looked stunning and i bet he regrets everything now
Blesss you.. i was just reading thru this thread and MAN you must be a strong person 2 get thru all of that.. nut im glad its all over wid and now u shud concerntate on looking after your children and stay strong!! Ameeen

and again - posted 2 many times haha

Shaz wrote:

He was staring at me and i could see the regret in his eyes because iv lost 3 stones and i admit i look good gota go Allah Hafiz

lol. A lot of women when they have kids they lose their confidence good to hear you still got yours. Go girl!

salaam shaz!
how u doin?
well ypu have got your confidance back which is a good thing and yes you do deserve a lot more than that prik,mashallah you have to gawjus kids who i know you love loads.
it good to see you happy now not like before when you use to be upset , you were upset cus of some cheap,gay,perv bastard sory about the swearing just cant help it init wen hearing bwt sum1z name i reli get pissed of thinkin wa he did to yaz so hes desveredto be called a dog.
shaz am on ur side each and every step of the way and you knwo that hun. i dont wnat you to think about taht shytface cus hes nt worth it, your a million tymes netter dan him, you can do 1000 times better.
yh as for him im sure he saw you at ur sistas wedding he was staring at you thinking OMG!!! thinking what am i missing out tuff luck he cnt have u nw. you looked amazing gowan gyal.
all i can say to you hun is that im always ere 4 u if u ever need mi,and i dont want you to worry about anything im always here to support you
sorry about the swearing when talking or saying anyfing about him i really get angry so i end up cussing him.
love you loads
tke care
mwah
Annie