If you found out your friend was having an affair what would you do?

Published by TPOS on 30 May, 2012 - 19:46

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Submitted by You on 6 June, 2012 - 01:17

no

The prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam (Peace and Blessings be upon him) was asked about this when someone demanded punishment for zina. The prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam (Peace and Blessings be upon him) went through the list and said that they were not actual zina.

They are stuff best avoided as they lead in a specific direction.

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Submitted by Lioness of Allah on 6 June, 2012 - 13:59

In some cultures, when adultry does occur, no one actucally says anything to the people who committed it, but they will talk and talk about it amongst themselves. And then when they see the people, just whisper and stare.

 

If it was my friend, my really really close one, i would confront her, let her know about the level of sin she's committed and offer soloutions/or help. But tbh, you would have to be in a pretty bad state if you know the rulings and still commit Zina. And then they probably would'nt want your help as they may belive that they are in "love" with the person they commited adultry with, and might believ that it will all end happily ever after.

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Submitted by TPOS on 25 June, 2012 - 03:42

 

Nasheedgirl wrote:
I agree with Foysol... You have to deal with them with wisdom. remember the reason why they came and told you is becuese they trust you... Then if you go and screw at them, they're obviously gonna either feel even worse or feel like rebelling in a sense.

What if they didn't feel bad in the first place? Would you try to, as you say, screw at them  , to make them feel bad and want to stop? Or would that still be a bad decision and make them go further away. 

Hmm, I guess it depends on the kind of person they are.

 

Foysol89 wrote:

I chose other because i would try to help/advise them (with wisdom) but if they don't listen i wouldn't abandon them. If you don't stick by them then who will? You can't expect them to listen to you straight away. 

Hate the sin, not the sinner. 

It's sort of like someone who listens to music/ smokes/ hangs out with non mahram. I'm sure a lot of us have friends that openly do something we dislike or even believe to be haram. You don't abandon them because of it but at the same time if you care for them you'd advise them not to do it in a way that they will listen to you. It takes time. 

Shaitan allready takes the role of putting someone down or even filling them with pride when a person sins. We shouldn't be doing the same. 

Allah knows best. 

I like what you're saying and it is right. However there's also the case of being influenced by the bad in the people around you. When do you stop trying to help people (who aren't even accepting your help) and realise they are bad for you and you should stay away?

 

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Submitted by TPOS on 25 June, 2012 - 03:44

Lilly wrote:

itsnot abt leaving them straight away. its abt telling them a few times.

 

 

you know hate the sin not the sinner, is that a hadith along that lines?

and advising someone three times then your duty is done, is that also a hadith?

just things ive heard and dont know abt.

oh, also. you need to have long hair coz in next life they turn into snakes. if hair short they can bite your face? sounds like a lot of manure but just to double check?

lol the hair thing does sound rubbish as there is a hadith which mention one of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam (Peace and Blessings be upon him) wives having short hair (at an old age) (as far as I can recall)

Not sure if the others are hadith or not, but I have heard them and did think they were proper teachings.

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Submitted by LookingToSee on 27 June, 2012 - 14:35

its hard (im now finding) to cut away totally from a friend because of one thing they're doing. coz you tell yourself "well..apart from THAT she's alright". its becoming quite difficult with my friend..i'm not sure what to do. now she just doesnt mention him and if she does wont mention him directly or say his name or anything.

its just going to end badly coz they're plannig to get married and i have no idea how this is going to happen with her parents...

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Submitted by Foysol89 on 28 June, 2012 - 00:28

....been there so many times myself, nothing much you can do really. At this moment in time usually nothing you say against their decision gets into their heads cause they're 'in love' -__- 

Myself, i usually end up spending less time with a person that's in this situation after telling them many times allready what they're doing is wrong. 

Seriously can't do much but be a spectator. Just be there if and when they need you to be. 

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