Istikhara help

Salaam,

I am quite religious and try to pray 5 times a day. I always keep my faith in Allah and pray 4 times a day, always read duas and keep my belief strong. I have liked a muslim brother for some time and he likes me too. I have performed Istikhara in the past for him and Mashallah it came out positive. Recently he has decided he wants nothing to do with me because he has a lot of family problems to deal with, although we planned on telling our parents about each other. He is going through some really difficult times, and is pushing me away as a result. I thought maybe this is a sign from Allah not to continue with him, so I performed Istikhara again recently and again Mashallah it came out positive. I felt relaxed, and at peace, and even had a dream about him which was positive. However he seems to still be stubborn and wants nothing to do with me as he said he wants to be with his family instead.

I don't know what to do, I am putting all of my trust and faith in Allah swt to see a better outcome, and still keep my faith strong. If my Istikhara is still positive, why does it seem so difficult, as he is still insisting that he wants nothing to do with me. Is there anything else I could do to receive a better outcome? Are there any duas I could read to help him through his problems and the problem I am facing?

I would appreciate any help.

Jazakallah

I dont think you can force someone to be with you... you can't fight them that way.

Your istikhara is that you are using the best of your judgements. That does not want he has the same priorities etc nor that he is willing to fight for it.

Either that or he is a coward.

Besides, not everything is in your control and sometimes even things that are for the best may not be right or work. If you dont think he will budge, move on.

(Disclaimer: I dont know what I am chatting about)

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

Thanks for the advice. I know deep down he does care but his situation is causing him to push me away. I don't know what to do as my istikhara and duas are all positive but he's being stubborn lol. I guess if it's meant to be it will happen.

have sabr.

let him deal with his problems and then approach him later when he has a clear mind (through your family of course).

Inshallah I will, I guess if it's meant to be then it will happen, only Allah knows best