Mr brother has this problem. He’s madly in love with this decent, religious girl but he doesn’t know how to tell her he likes her without offending her.
Just for him I met this girl once and she really was lovely. But when I raised the marriage issue she became embarrassed and changed the subject. If this girl gets embarrassed in front of girls then I can’t imagine what she would do if my brother approached her. It’s hard for religious people to make the first move. But love is not forbidden in our religion. This girl has no clue about my brother, she doesn’t even know him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So how do religious people approach the subject of love and marriage without offending others?
take it to her parents rather than her?
shes bound to get emabarrased
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
Obvioulsy he'd rather get the girl to agree first before my brother goes through the parents.
What if she says No?
[color=blue][b]I h8 wen pple offend me so i dnt blame other pple who do either. Regarding to ur question, its quiet hard 2 b honest it'll take me ages to figure dat out :roll: [/b][/color]
"Duniya toh badalti rehti hai...Ey mere Quaid tuh kabhi Na badal janaa"
wat u mean, 'obviously'.......
wouldnt it make sense to go through the correct authorities 1st?
what if she says yes and parents say no?
dilemna on ya hands there
keep it simple - ask the parents and take it from there
anythin else, and your gona have Romeo & Juliet stuff goin down
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
What if parents say No and she says Yes? Thats a bigger dilemna.
Look if she says yes then my brother would obviously get the go ahead to approach her parents. But that brother of mine is too shy for his own good.
I'd like the girls to answer this question too.
It seem you have a different problem everytime you on.
Anyway, it is quite complicated. It quite normal for a person not to open up straight away. So i wouldn't be too surprise with the response of her. It maybe too early to get parents involve, it best to find out what she is looking for in her future husband and then make a decision about involving the parents. You going to need patience in this situation. If it possible it might be best to ask someone who she trust or knows about what she wants and her idea of marriage and then take it from there.
"A true Muslim is thankful to Allah in prosperity, and resigned to His will in adversity."
[url=http//www.guidancemedia.com/videostream.php?id=Burda.mov]Quran[/url]
isnt that the same thing?
or are you trying to say what if he tells the parents and they say no, and he asks her - and she then says yes............why would you do that anyway
if its not got the blessings of the parents for valid reasons, its not worth going near IMO
i dunno, i get the feelin you arent really gonna take in wat any1 says anyway...so y do i bother :?
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
Ramz tell ur brother to BE A MAN
as the omro of this forum will tell u-women dont like mice
if he likes her he should tell her himself-
if she says Yes then its all good
if she says no then he should get over it-plenty more religious fish in the sea
yuit is right-u always have some prob or another when u come here
lol i was gonna say that tooo
but the revival is here to help people
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
Almost nothing I say is going to be useful to you since I come from a totally different background but has he thought of just... telling her and seeing how that goes? Don't guys negotiate directly with the girls' parents in this situation?
lol well if that doesn't work you could tell him to try this - or something like it:
Hi, my name is _____ and I sit behind you in math class.
I'm failing math.
Anyway I thought we could hang out some time because i'm sick of imagining what you are like and i'd much rather just find out.
I'm sorry i'm usually a lot better at this...
Do you want to hang out? - like with me I mean"
If that doesn't work or isn't helpful - good luck - take care - and i'll just find some other thread to post on because frankly I have no idea what I am talking about.
Does anybody know what i'm talking about?
I should order dinner...
Exams man... they are KILLING me
dave pal, i love you
now i needa tell your parents
The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.
Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.
ɐɥɐɥ
I love you too Hayder.
I think the best thing to do is approach the parents or ask a friend of the girls to see who she feels about the guy and take if from there, if she dont like him fine he can move on, if she does get the parents involved.
the girl doesnt even know he exists-she's oblivious that someone likes her
I hope he aint stalking her :evil:
Just read ur post properly now
she doesnt know the guy
that means they have never met or spoke and they know nothing about each other
so how the hell is he "madly in love" with a stranger? :roll:
Salam
Love and marriage are not offensive subjects.
Why on earth would anyone be offended if you expressed your love for them ?
Omrow
they might if they really backwards
Omrow I LOVE you so much :roll:
I LOVE your sarky comments :roll:
I LOVE the way u cuss wahhabis :roll:
I LOVE ur unique name which nobody in the world appears to have :roll:
WILL YOU MARRY ME :?:
now c'mon dude ARE YOU TELLING ME THAT IS NOT OFFENSIVE!? :!: :?:
What you put in the hearts of others; is what goes back into your own heart…
That aint offensive your tellin him all his qualities are attractive in your opinion and your askin him to marry u :roll:
its omrow that hates gay ppl right
:?:
ignore me i dont know what i am on about, i only posted coz i was bored...
What you put in the hearts of others; is what goes back into your own heart…
Salam
Ok. You are ignored.
Omrow
LOL
i find this situation incredibly funny
first of all , how can your bro be madly in love with her if they have not even met, it sounds like he probably attracted to her and would like her as a wife , in that case he should not want to marry everybody he is attracted to , otherwise he be very confused person wanting to marry a lot of girls.
DO NOT ASK THE GIRL FOR OR ABOUT MARRIAGE THATS WRONG BECAUSE YOUR MAKING THE SISTER FEEL AWKWARD
no way is a decent girl just gonna agree to marry someone she has not even met or knows,
you only have two options
1. go through the parents
2. get to know the girl through freindship , get to know her personality , family ect- then propose thought of marriage to your bro
i reccomend the first option , or tell your bro to keep his hormones in check and not falling in love with girls he not even met , lol
RAF you do know that number 2 is not allowed?
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
it is tho coz from what i understand RAF is talking to Ramz i.e. that SHE should get to know the girl, etc...
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oops, my bad. :oops:
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
yes your bad admin
but dont worry admin im sure you can find another way to discredit my comments
thanks Aasiyah for reading properly
heyyy! no need to bite Admin's head off! looks like ur holding a grudge mate...
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Asiyah thanks for your comments but i dont keep grudges or though i may bite off peoples head twisted
tasty
oops
“O my people! Truly, this life of the world is nothing but a (quick passing) enjoyment, and verily, the hereafter that is the home that will remain forever.” [Ghafir : 39]
LOL
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