To You Your Belief, To Me My Belief.

Salaam

(Another rant…bear with me please).

I believe in a certain sets of ideals. I’m can be stubborn at times…unless someone presents a strong/logical argument opposing my beliefs I won’t change what I believe.

At the same time, it doesn’t bother me one bit if one does/doesn’t think in the same way that I do.

Whenever I present my argument and people choose to accept it- its all good but if they don’t I’m not one to lose any sleep over it…

However, in my town which consists of nosy, busybodies who love to get involved in everyone else’s business….I’ am regularly hassled.

There’s a large number of ladies who are affiliated with a certain Mosque…they’re harsh and hold strict and rigid beliefs. It doesn’t bother me what they believe in..

What DOES bother me is the fact that they do my head in.
Literally every other day my mum is hassled on the phone by these ladies who are telling mum to “control her daughter” and to “stop her from attending the Mosque she goes to”…they tell her that “she is going astray and must change her misguided beliefs”….they tell mum she's bringing her kids up wrongly..I wish mum wouldn’t answer the phone.

Regularly these same ladies come to my house to “knock some sense into me”…I make it so that I am never home when they come and see me.

I do not wish to get into which beliefs of mine they have issues with-that’s irrelevant.

The only point that I wish to raise is-What on EARTH does it have to do with them? If my own parents don’t have an issue with what I do, what I believe in, what Mosques I’m affiliated with etc-what’s it gotta do with a bunch of ladies who don’t even personally know me?

So what, if I hold a different aqeedah to them? How does this affect their life in any way?

When I went to visit family in Manchester a few weeks ago, a bunch of girls that my cousin introduced me to had serious issues with the beliefs that I held….I had serious issues with what they believed in as well….But I didn’t knock for them daily and pester them to come out with me…I didn’t call them up 24/7 on their mobile….I didn’t accuse them of committing Kufr/blasphemy nor did I tell them to “renew their shahada”….yet they in their zeal to reform me wouldn’t leave me alone.

I have nothing against difference of opinions, I have nothing against people refuting what I believe in and presenting their arguments in a logical and calm manner…..but I can’t stand people who try to force their beliefs down other people’s throats.

Other then this beliefs issues, why do some people think they have a right to dictate to others how they should be living their life?

I get people telling me what course I should be doing/what I should be wearing/who I should be associating with/what books I should be reading/whose circles I should be attending/where I should be working etc etc….I get enough of this from my own family, what right does some third party have to tell me what to do? Its so unbelievably stifling at times….

Yeah one should take such things in from one ear and out the other, but it’s so in your face sometimes….I hope I never grow up and become a annoying aunty.

Anyways, feel free to add your comments on the rant above.

Wasalaam