21 Types of Negative Friends

Seraphim —

There is no crystal ball to predict that a particular friend will turn out to be a reliable, positive relationship in your life or, by contrast, that a negative association will cause you emotional distress, or worse. Since destructive or negative friends are not always that easy to spot, it may be a time to reevaluate your current friends, as well as to reassess past or potential friendships.

[b]1. The Promise Breaker[/b] Constantly disappoints you or breaks promises
[b]2. The Taker[/b] Borrows and fails to return something precious or valuable to you.
[b]3. The Double-Crosser[/b] Betrays you big time
[b]4. The Risk Taker[/b] Puts you in harm's way because of illegal or dangerous behavior
[b]5. The Self-Absorbed[/b] Never has time to listen to you
[b]6. The Cheat[/b] Lies, or steals your romantic partner
[b]7. The Discloser[/b] Betrays your confidence
[b]8. The Competitor[/b] Excessively combative with you and wants what you have relationships, job, possessions
[b]9. The One-Upper[/b] Always one up on you
[b]10. The Rival[/b] Wants whatever you have and may try to take it from you
[b]11. The Faultfinder[/b] Overly critical
[b]12. The Downer[/b] Always negative, critical, and sad, and makes you feel that way too.
[b]13. The Rejecter[/b] Dislikes you and lets you know it
[b]14. The Abuser[/b] Verbally, physically, or sexually abuses you
[b]15. The Loner[/b] Would rather be alone than with a friend
[b]16. The Blood Sucker[/b] Overly dependent
[b]17. The Therapist[/b] Needs to analyze everything and give you advice
[b]18. The Interloper[/b] Overly involved in your life
[b]19. The Copy Cat[/b] Imitates you
[b]20. The Controller[/b] Needs to dominate you or the friendship
[b]21. The Caretaker[/b] Needs to be a friend's keeper, mother or nursemaid, rather than an equal.

You may recognize some of the 21 traits in yourself or in a friend, but the occurrence may be so rare or so minute that it does not pose a problem...

God defend me from my friends; from my enemies I can defend myself.

Discuss

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flower — Tue, 10 Jan 2006 - 12:21

Theres also [b]The User[/b], the kind of friend who only uses you for money, transport, convenience, etc etc......for me personally this is a very BAD trait in freinds

Wow looking at that list really makes you think, im getting a bit concerned that some of the traits listed might apply to me :oops:

Dont get me wrong i think im a very good freind but sumtimes i do break promises, (not huge promises but like "i promise i will come round yours tomorow" but dont go round for another week)

And sometime and analyse a situation and do give advice but thats not really that bad is it? Unless its constant

Im glad that looking at that list i can say i have some very good freinds but also some who can probably change their ways a bit

E20 — Tue, 10 Jan 2006 - 12:39

[quote="Seraphim"]
[b]14. The Abuser[/b] Verbally, physically, or [u]sexually[/u] abuses you
[/quote]

Lol Seraphim I can’t imagine anyone who would want to go near someone that has sexually abused them, never mind befriend them.

MuslimSisLilSis — Tue, 10 Jan 2006 - 15:08

u also misseed out the LONG friend

the one who never returns ur calls or makes the effort to visit u-its always u who has to see them

thats me :?

Omrow — Tue, 10 Jan 2006 - 16:33

Salam

[quote="Seraphim"]
[b]21 Types of Negative Friends[/b]

since destructive or negative friends are not always that easy to spot, it may be a time to reevaluate your current friends...[/quote]

And you refer to them as friends !!

Pray your enemies are better than those idiots.

It is interesting to note that the list features all the characteristics of Salafis.

Omrow

star — Tue, 10 Jan 2006 - 19:52

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]u also misseed out the LONG friend

the one who never returns ur calls or makes the effort to visit u-its always u who has to see them

thats me :?[/quote]

such friends get on my nerves...

and i tend to do the same to them...if someone aint gonna bother with you cant be asked putting up with them.

Alisha — Tue, 10 Jan 2006 - 20:43

I agree with najs comment, cant be asked 2 bother wit them type of people, after a certain lenght of time always making an effort it gets to a point when it becomes ridiculous!

Omrow — Tue, 10 Jan 2006 - 23:38

Salam

[quote="E20"][quote="Seraphim"]
[b]14. The Abuser[/b] Verbally, physically, or [u]sexually[/u] abuses you
[/quote]

Lol Seraphim I can’t imagine anyone who would want to go near someone that has sexually abused them, never mind befriend them.[/quote]

Good spotting there by E02.

Some people are just sooo tolerant.

Turn the other cheek sort of girl. Plenty of cheeks.

Omrow

You — Wed, 11 Jan 2006 - 00:14

[quote="Omrow"]A vampire. See what I mean.[/quote]

what? you see that as a positive thing?

There is a reason I am mostly here after dark...

Omrow — Wed, 11 Jan 2006 - 00:22

Salam

Ofcourse, its positive.

For example:

1. Its sexy to be a tall dark handsome man of passion.

2. Females would all would love to marry you.

3. You are invicible as well as invisible.

4. You get to sleep all day.

5. You make lots of converts.

6. You grip people just by looking at them.

7. You will never become a Christian.

Omrow

You — Wed, 11 Jan 2006 - 00:36

[quote="Omrow"]Can I ask: Who is your ghoul ?

You know the ugly servant who never betrays the Count.[/quote]

That would mean it can be eliminated...

... and I would be left defenceless...

why would I do that?

E20 — Wed, 11 Jan 2006 - 10:23

[quote="Seraphim"] [b]13. The Rejecter[/b] Dislikes you and lets you know it
[/quote]

lol Seraphim if someone rejects you then they can’t possibly be your friend. :roll:

Seraphim — Wed, 11 Jan 2006 - 13:30

I think its important to note at this point that none of these characteristics can be attributed to my friends (thank-God). They're more so common among my familiars (you know people whom you chat to sometimes but wouldnt count as friends).

E20: you'd be surprised what some people are willing to put up with. As Omrow so rightfully said turning other cheek.

Me personally ... i had a 16/18 a while ago. I only came to know him thru university... and he needed my help... but became too clingy... so i became 13.
Unfortuneately he always thought i was joking or trying "run away from him" so never really took the hint.

MuslimSister — Wed, 11 Jan 2006 - 20:04

According to the Sufi’s the worst type of friend is the one who doesn’t point out the errors of your ways…it’s the one who doesn’t ever point out your mistakes.

Dave — Wed, 11 Jan 2006 - 20:15

[quote="MuslimSister"]According to the Sufi’s the worst type of friend is the one who doesn’t point out the errors of your ways…it’s the one who doesn’t ever point out your mistakes.[/quote]

You started your sentence with a prepositional phrase, you forgot a space after the elipses, you have a redundant clause and there is no apostrophe in the plural of Sufi.

:twisted:

star — Wed, 11 Jan 2006 - 20:17

people tend to associate with the wrong crew...

irreligiousness of ones friend is most likely the cause of ones own irreligiousness.

i my-self stopped associating with alot of my mates because you get influenced big time.

rasulullah s.a.w said, "a person is on the religion of his friend.therefore a person should see who he associates with" (abu dawood)

MuslimSisLilSis — Wed, 11 Jan 2006 - 21:35

[quote="Andoverpolo"][quote="MuslimSister"]According to the Sufi’s the worst type of friend is the one who doesn’t point out the errors of your ways…it’s the one who doesn’t ever point out your mistakes.[/quote]

You started your sentence with a prepositional phrase, you forgot a space after the elipses, you have a redundant clause and there is no apostrophe in the plural of Sufi.

:twisted:[/quote]

Easy there Mr Grammar :roll:

Dave — Thu, 12 Jan 2006 - 00:33

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"][quote="Andoverpolo"][quote="MuslimSister"]According to the Sufi’s the worst type of friend is the one who doesn’t point out the errors of your ways…it’s the one who doesn’t ever point out your mistakes.[/quote]

You started your sentence with a prepositional phrase, you forgot a space after the elipses, you have a redundant clause and there is no apostrophe in the plural of Sufi.

:twisted:[/quote]

Easy there Mr Grammar :roll:[/quote]

She did say the best kind of friend is the one that points out your mistakes.

(btw - there is a period after "Mr")

E20 — Thu, 12 Jan 2006 - 08:57

[quote="Admin"]I am 15, [u][b]13[/b][/u] and 11.[/quote]
Do you let any members on the forum know that you don’t like them :?:

You — Thu, 12 Jan 2006 - 15:21

[quote="E20"][quote="Admin"]I am 15, [u][b]13[/b][/u] and 11.[/quote]
Do you let any members on the forum know that you don’t like them :?:[/quote]

I hate you all.

To be honest I will need to re-evaluate whether I am still number13...

I have become more mellow over the past couple of years. I am polite now...

I am pretty honest to most people though. I find most people conceited. I can say that to their faces. There are a few to whom I keep my silence...

You — Thu, 12 Jan 2006 - 15:52

[quote="E20"][quote="Admin"]
I hate you all.
[/quote]
That's nice :roll:[/quote]

I know.

Its the smell. When I was classifying humans, I made a discovery. Humans are not mammal. mammals in a natural harmony with their surroundings.

Humans move to a location and multiply. They consume all the resources, and to survive they move elsewhere and keep multiplying. There is another organism with the same traits. A virus.

Seraphim — Thu, 12 Jan 2006 - 18:05

[quote="Admin"][quote="E20"][quote="Admin"]
I hate you all.
[/quote]
That's nice :roll:[/quote]

I know.

Its the smell. When I was classifying humans, I made a discovery. Humans are not mammal. mammals in a natural harmony with their surroundings.

Humans move to a location and multiply. They consume all the resources, and to survive they move elsewhere and keep multiplying. There is another organism with the same traits. A virus.[/quote]

Well done Mr. Anderson...

now go follow the white rabbit.

E20 — Fri, 13 Jan 2006 - 13:14

[quote="Admin"][quote="E20"][quote="Admin"]
I hate you all.
[/quote]
That's nice :roll:[/quote]

I know.

Its the smell. When I was classifying humans, I made a discovery. Humans are not mammal. mammals in a natural harmony with their surroundings.

Humans move to a location and multiply. They consume all the resources, and to survive they move elsewhere and keep multiplying. There is another organism with the same traits. A virus.[/quote]

You’re obviously from another planet….