girls gone bad

fizzy1 —

we all know the story:

girl goes to college, given more freedom, maybe too much, she strts going off rails.

but how can you control this and stay within limits?

my cousin has just started college, and she is a stunning girl, recently ost a few stones and boosted her confidence. now lads are falling at her feet. and not in a good way.

we went to manchester on weekend and she was eyeing the boys up. in a restauarnt a guy followed my sis to toilet to try and get her to give my cousin his number. she told him to get lost of course.

her younger sister told us the cousin has a boyfriend at college, even though her family are thinking of getting her married to her cousin in pak.

her mum and dad have found out about her flirty ways and are trying to push her into religion, with it having the opposit effect.

im not sure wt to do. i want to teach her about religion, and stop her misbehaving, but how can i do it without making her switch off and sounding like im preaching?

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Sirus — Fri, 2 Dec 2005 - 18:13

teach her with love and patience

dont push em to Islam

show them whats right and wrong, and the effects of whats wrong

even if they carry on, in the back of theyre head they'll be more conscious

give her time, but dont leave her

iRazor — Fri, 2 Dec 2005 - 19:52

Moderation is the key

Teach her slowly, sit her down every now and again, say eery weekend, not only her but a few of ya cuzns, that way no1 feels like you pointing a finger, and talk about whats goin on in the world, and how we all gna die n then v gta answer to our lord.

You gta tell them the piunishments of the afterlife, then go into how much they hav been blessed with. A slowly, they become consious about every action they take.

You cant shove summin down someones throat, cuz that will jus make them go further and further away.

Omrow — Sat, 3 Dec 2005 - 14:51

Salam

[quote="fizzy1"]my cousin has just started college, and she is a stunning girl, recently ost a few stones and boosted her confidence. now lads are falling at her feet. and not in a good way.

we went to manchester on weekend and she was eyeing the boys up. in a restauarnt a guy followed my sis to toilet to try and get her to give my cousin his number. she told him to get lost of course.

her younger sister told us the cousin has a boyfriend at college, even though her family are thinking of getting her married to her cousin in pak.[/quote]

She is not doing anything wrong.

So calm down.

If she wants to get married to someone in her college, then what more can you ask for ?

Get her married to the guy !!

Or, do you want her to run away with him ?

He is her first love. If you drag her to Pakistan and forcibly wed her, then she will go mental.

You want that to happen ?

She is young, pretty girl in the prime of life. Do not supress her.

You all will be responsible for destroying a budding soul.

God's forbids it.

Omrow

Sirus — Sat, 3 Dec 2005 - 15:45

which is the case most of the time unfrotunately

Omrow — Sat, 3 Dec 2005 - 15:47

Salam

[quote="MuslimSister"]What if the guy is a fool and the girl is naive?[/quote]

Good point binger.

In that case you SHOW her that she has fallen for an idiot.

How ?

Easy:

You tell her to ask him to perform certain tasks that would prove to her that he really not worth it.

Please don't ask me here what those tasks might be.

Girls, and guys, would shell me right here. I already got Con on my case.

Its not too difficult to get a guy to make a fool of himself.

Girls are a different breed altogether.

Omrow

Angel — Sat, 3 Dec 2005 - 15:51

[quote="Omrow"]

Its not too difficult to get a guy to make a fool of himself.

Omrow[/quote]

Looks like your talkin from experience!

As for helpin your cuz just keep workin on her but dont force Islam down her throat, take her to Islamic events i/e nasheed concerts etc. Use her interests to teach her about Islam, keep workin on it and Inshallah she will see whats right and whats wrong.

MuslimSisLilSis — Sat, 3 Dec 2005 - 19:31

[quote="Angel"][quote="Omrow"]

Its not too difficult to get a guy to make a fool of himself.

Omrow[/quote]

Looks like your talkin from experience!

.[/quote]

exactly

the boy makes a fool of himself each time he posts

hey omro how about a Nisan Micra for my post above :twisted:

Dave — Sat, 3 Dec 2005 - 19:37

Most of the muslim "bad girls" I know never really had discipline at home... so it's not really like they came to college "found freedom" and started acting as they do.

MuslimSisLilSis — Sat, 3 Dec 2005 - 19:38

most of the muslim bad girls I know (which beleive me is a lot) had OTT discipline at home

gurdian did an article on this once-

You — Sat, 3 Dec 2005 - 19:38

Omrow can yu not use the word binger.

It is a reference towords someone being addicted to crack-cocaine.

MuslimSisLilSis — Sat, 3 Dec 2005 - 19:40

[quote="Admin"]Omrow can yu not use the word binger.

It is a reference towords someone being addicted to crack-cocaine.[/quote]

:shock:

thats news to me

stupid omro :roll:

You — Sat, 3 Dec 2005 - 19:53

It's still best avoided, if it has multiple meanings.

At a minimum it will cause confusion over wether its an insult or not. at most it will be an actual insult.

Omrow — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 16:45

Salam

[quote="Admin"]It's still best avoided, if it has multiple meanings.[/quote]

The word "screw" also has multiple meanings.

Should I not use it ?

Following your advice then, if I go into a hardware store, should I ask:

" Excuse me girl, I need that "thing" you do illegally with your boyfriend."

Omrow

100man — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 16:47

Omrow,

You will not pick anyone up that way in a hardware store but I praise your honesty.

btw 'illegally'? Sounds depraved whatever it is.

Omrow — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 16:50

Don't you mean that "thing", which Admin does not wants us to utter.

You — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 17:11

as always context.

Your usage of binger could be either or, with no clear separation of context.

and Omrow I do have a reply to your b&q example, but its not suitable. Lets just say you would not ask her to give it to you, but ask where are they..

Dawud — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 18:34

[quote="Constantine"]what are you guys talking about[/quote]

Inuendo, its what made me back in high school, and by biggest weakness after I converted, i still find it hard to come up jokes whereas before. I would come up with one liners to my own one liners.

oh dear :oops: :oops: :oops:

Dave — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 18:36

No no please explain to me fully what you mean.

I have no idea what you are inuendoing

Dawud — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 18:55

[quote="Constantine"]No no please explain to me fully what you mean.

I have no idea what you are inuendoing[/quote]

I can be thick; are you pulling a smart comment or are you serious about being unaware of this.

If its the latter this thing we're discussing is epitomized by the character Todd in 'scrubs'.

salaf — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 19:02

[quote="Constantine"]lol I love that show[/quote]

Did you know that John C McGinely and Tony Todd play soldiers in the same unit in both "The Rock" and "Platoon".

What are the odds?

Dave — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 19:04

[quote="salaf"][quote="Constantine"]lol I love that show[/quote]

Did you know that John C McGinely and Tony Todd play soldiers in the same unit in both "The Rock" and "Platoon".

What are the odds?[/quote]

weird...

Seraphim — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 19:12

[quote="Constantine"][quote="salaf"][quote="Constantine"]lol I love that show[/quote]

Did you know that John C McGinely and Tony Todd play soldiers in the same unit in both "The Rock" and "Platoon".

What are the odds?[/quote]

weird...[/quote]

or is it....

salaf — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 20:24

[quote="Constantine"][quote="salaf"][quote="Constantine"]lol I love that show[/quote]

Did you know that John C McGinely and Tony Todd play soldiers in the same unit in both "The Rock" and "Platoon".

What are the odds?[/quote]

weird...[/quote]

John C McGinely plays the mean sarcastic doctor in Scrubs.

Dave — Sun, 4 Dec 2005 - 20:29

yea dr. cox

He's the man - anybody watch the show arrested development?