As Mary Pickford said: You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down.
Although some of our dreams and ambitions do come true, for which we are forever grateful and appreciative of, there are times when we experience failure from time to time. It happens.
Things don't always go the way we want. We sometimes spend countless hours planning for them and they don't turn out to be like that. But it's what we do with that 'failure'.
Do you see failure as 'failure' and become miserable or do you see it as one of those unsuccessful opportunities that were bound to happen? Are you afraid of confronting failure? What's your take on accepting and dealing with failure?
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Generally I find failure, even humiliation, an important moment from which to take a lasting lesson. If I can't find the lesson I might just have to shrug it off, or make apologies and slink away, but I hate to do that.
I think I may be on my way to experiencing this a little bit more than I've previously done so. How shall i embrace it? It just makes me feel so crap inside and why is sleeping it off the remedy? How can sleeping make it go away, but when you wake up and still feel the same way then sleeping isn't the remedy i suppose.
Oh clever people of revvy, what other solutions may you offer me in case of necessity?
Accept the things you cant change, and have the courage to change the things you can.
Back in BLACK
Ah, perfect, why have i not been thinking about what you've said all along. Guess i needed the obvious reminder!
Oh and can you blame yourself on failures? At times you can, right? Like if you spent an entire year not taking anything TOO seriously and then you're plonked into the deep end.
I don't know how to feel about a day that is in 19 days and it is haunting me, almost slightly, but it's growing and now i should shush my mouth because i will get worried & I HAVE every reason to feel worried and err- scared?
Sometimes we over-think things and need people to state the obvious to us.
When you fail you need to be honest with yourself about what happened. And sometimes that means accepting responsbility for your own actions (or lack of). However that doesnt mean you should dwell on the fact that you have failed, that helps no one. You should concentrate on what you can to fix it or prevent it from ever happening again.
In the end it comes back to the age old question: Why do we fall?... If only to learn how to pick ourselves up. The only thing standing in your way is your own fear. Turn and face it, dont give an inch, look it in the face. Know what it is all about, then your fear will no longer hold such sway over you.
Back in BLACK
+1
also, you need to think abt that day in 19 days. things in the future, or in the past sometimes cant be affected by things in the PRESENT. the present is what matters because this is where you are. the past is done and all that must be done with it is extract lessons. the future is a blank canvas that you can use to project your ideas. but dont spend too much projecting or it'll get there and you wont even have picked up the brushes. just look at the present.
tht day in 19 days. can you do anything abt it now? mostprobably not. have you got other things to be getting on with NOW? most likely yes.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
“No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allaah’s decree.
If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from it you cannot flee.” - Umar (ra) <3
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
I didn't really think about it THAT much yesterday, it was more of other people asking me. But i'm just going to leave things at the back of my mind. That's what i'm attempting to do, kind of. Whenever i feel like i'm on the verge of becoming a failure, i will remember that you, revvy persons, have given me encouragement to not see myself as a failure.