Making Choices

Published by _Me_ on 29 April, 2012 - 18:19

Ok there's this non-muslim who randomly got hold of my email address, and since then has not stopped talking to me about- religion.

I deleted her twice, yet she seems to be determined to pop-up and ask whether "I'm busy" so she can chat.. urgently Fool

The first topic of discussion was about 'covering up' and why muslims do it etc and then it was about 'consequences' and forms of 'punishment' if you don't adhere to a certain thing?!

One thing that is really REALLY ticking me off right now, is how would you go about explaining something to a  non-muslim?

I mean the only ever response I get is "WHY" ..

Either I'm NOT a very religious person or I don't know how to come across in situations like this.

Tried everything, blocked, deleted, avoided.. yet somehow seems to be stalking me more and is seriously testing my patience.. BIG TIME

Just completely stuck with the choices I have to make.

What would anyone here do???   :'(

Comments

Submitted by Hummus on 29 April, 2012 - 18:39

Hmmm.. well i can tell she's totally getting on your nerves

1 ) Explain in simple words in relation to her situation

2 ) Back it up with references in Islam from the Quran and Sunnah

3 ) Repeat yourself if she still can't understand

4 ) Ask her questions about what she currently does and if she thinks that's correct

5 ) Be patient and try to cope answering the questions

6 ) Tell her to read up on it 

7 ) Just keep trying and persevere!

8 ) Recommend a trusted, understanding, knowledgable person 

9 ) If nothing works tell her you've done your best at explaining

10) Pray that she is guided

11 ) Leave the rest to Allah..

You never know but through all your guidance and inspiration she could become a Muslim in the near future! 

Umar (R) was on his way to kill the Messenger (S), now he's buried next to him. Never give up on people!

 

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Submitted by LookingToSee on 29 April, 2012 - 20:19

Hummus wrote:

Umar (R) was on his way to kill the Messenger (S), now he's buried next to him. Never give up on people!

 

wouaw mashaaAllah. awesome above post. especially the quoted bit.

tell her to sign up on here and ask her questions. we'll ALL try and help then. it wont just be on your shoulders.

and she must be REALLY curious about this if she KEEPS finding you like this. is she doing it to annoy you or is she genuinely interested in Islam?

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Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

Submitted by Hummus on 29 April, 2012 - 20:24

REVVY TO THE RESCUE Wink

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Submitted by Northen Southener on 29 April, 2012 - 20:58

or (if you think she may cause trouble on here) post the questions here and see what input some of our more learnered members (like me) can out in?

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Submitted by _Me_ on 29 April, 2012 - 22:01

@Hummus- I loved that! Good point about the being muslim thing, but at this rate.. it aint getting anywhere! 

Besides the fact she is obviously annoying me -I think she is geniunely interested in religion, coz she asked me about loads of stuff to do with culture and the 9/11 attacks.. etc 

I just said if you know about my religion, look at Islam itself and not the people. Then again told her I ain't a priest but she just said she likes the way I "explain things" :S

Ermm, getting her to come on here.. is impossible. But I will definitely give it a go.

I'l post the questions though that literally  do dumbstruck me, because they're weird!

Like this one: "What are the consequences/punishments if you don't cover up" 

me: errrrrr, depends 

**facepalm**

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Submitted by TPOS on 29 April, 2012 - 22:28

It doesn't sound like she's being annoying intentionally, you should try to be patient and answer the questions or point her towards someone with more knowledge. Otherwise you might turn away someone who's genuinely interested in Islam.

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"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

Submitted by LookingToSee on 29 April, 2012 - 23:06

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE wrote:

It doesn't sound like she's being annoying intentionally, you should try to be patient and answer the questions or point her towards someone with more knowledge. Otherwise you might turn away someone who's genuinely interested in Islam.

 

thumbs up to above. tell her that she cant look at islam all over the place. she needs to start from the beginning. then some of her questions that she's so eager to get answered WILL be answered without her having to asked them. aka when she learnt about WHY we cover up she'll inshaaAllah see the wisdom and beauty in it and wont question the punishment.

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Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

Submitted by Hummus on 30 April, 2012 - 18:25

So, you've established that she's genuinely interested becuase she likes to ask loads of questions. How about you give her a day and time similar to a time slot, that way she won't bug you 'all' the time. Tell her to make a list before that specific day arrives and then she can ask whatever she needs to at that chosen time Smile It might help and that way you'll get less annoyed!

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Submitted by bilanOffline (not verified) on 30 April, 2012 - 18:53

Have you talked to her about tawheed? Even if she's interested in Islam these questions are not gonna stop coming even if you were able to answer them all and remove any doubt she might have. With da'wah the usual approach is to explain the essence of Islam. Even as Muslims when we don't understand an Islamic ruling we understand tawheed. If you'd like some pointers with that I'd say PM me but ....maybe PM Lilly. Only cos I've got course notes btw, not cos I'm an expert or anything