"how to know if they are the one?"

Glad to see we're on the same page(!)

can we maintain a level of decency? hayaa?

[quote=Jack the Ripper][quote=The Lamp]

Mate, I think you've been taking too much Red Bull. Seriously, cut down, it might help you.
Marriage isn't like shopping, otherwise you'll just end up hurting people and that's not acceptable. It's a commitment, a contract that you both agree on and it's something you both need to be happy with. I would say character and compatibility is more important that the legs, the breasts or what not. Once you're happy with one and you commit to her, then man up and stick it out; unless divorce is essential.

By the way, mate, seriously this player mentality just makes people look really immature. Not funny, far from it , with all due respect.

Personally, I really like a nice smile, warm personality and inner sweetness and beauty.[/quote]

I hate Red Bull, maybe to you it's not like shoppin, to me its all da same...
I know I will end up hurting some stupid backward cow, thats why I will stay out of it. You just said marriage was not like shopping, I guess you right, it's more like a mortgage, the whole contract thing and all, you just can't get out of it, they cover every angle. It may not be important to you but some of us live for dem legs, breasts and what ever else.

I may sound cheap, but I am a guy, it's just how we are, and that crap you telling these gals here that it's does'nt mean much to you, and you prefer a good smile, inner beauty and all crap is nothing but a lie. You just want em to go all oohh, and aaah, he's so cute, bullshit. Everyman goes for the goods, I don't care who he is, it could be your dad, my dad, your brother, my brother, or any of these gals dads or brothers on this forum, thats is the truth. The only difference is they are not as open as I am, but believe me, in their minds they are just as perverted as I am if not more. Many have learnt to accept they can't have em all, and have made inner peace with it thats about it...

Sorry to burst your bubble gals, your husbands or husbands to be are going to check out other chicks, accept it and make peace with it, and pray they are not like me, cos then you know it's gonna end in heartbreak.[/quote]

Dude, you do realise that I'm a guy as well, don't you? I try not to be cheap or shallow; it's best we don't label ourselves as that otherwise we may lose the will to better ourselves. Obviously, I have to find her attractive; that's essential. But if she is good enough looking, sweet, decent, caring and compatible then it doesn't matter to me how big Katie Price's breasts are! LOL!

I'm not gonna pretend that I don't ever look at gorgeous girls; I do- guilty. I'll be the first to put my hands up for that. But I try and control myself and after marriage that's another reason to remember that there are things more important that hawking at a chick for five seconds.

I personally don't think it is wrong for a girl to expect a husband who isn't going to treat her with disrespect; so long as there's some margin for error and she makes that clear to him.

By the way; Power of Silence and Bilan- thank you people, I really appreciate that LOL! 😉
It would be kind of creepy to invite some girls I met over the Revival website to my wedding though! 😉

All you guys are just the same, so typical of you lot to dawdle at any girl you see. :roll:

JOKE

Ripper, I aint that naive, I know there are disgusting low lifes out there. But they're not all like that.

The idea of love that you talk of sounds more like lust.

Foysol, I think you misunderstood Lamp, I doubt he "dawdle's" at girls - he was just being honest, I don't think any guy can say they've never looked at a pretty girl.

Masha'Allah/kudos to them if they can.

EDIT. Lol at your edit Foysol - Thanks for making it clear, you're joking 😛

lol, lol, lol!

@foysol, get ready to be picked up on tht last comment u made there haha

@Lampy: no worries 😃 but u knw i was totally looking forward to tht invite right? crushing a girls dream there! :p (i have to say this. ive kept it in for too long. i ALWAYS think of genie in the lamp when i see ur name!)

@Ripper: sure ur a pizza! just make sure ur the kind with everything on! cnt go wrong there u see and what do u MEAN with im on some players list???! 😂
i know ur saying tht ur not gonna get married or anything, but ull come to regret tht when ur past ur sell by date and even the tramp down the road doesnt want ya and u end up going on some lonely hearts website where u end up using a fake picture from the internet!

and im having difficulty with the male stereotype ur describing there actually...dare i believe it????

Twas a joke poeple, seriously even you Billz, i expected better from you.

In all seriousness though it's great that you can admit and realize your faults but i personally don't think you should reveal your sins in this case.

Other guys may look at it and think it's acceptable or just the norm or other sisters may get the impression that all guys are the same. hence the joke.

i was supposed to sound like a girl, it was a joke but thought you may have picked up on the impression left by the comments.

I think there's better reasons for not revealing such sins. I don't think anyone would find it acceptable, unless they misunderstood and if the 'sisters' think that all guys are great or all guys are the complete opposite they need to wake up.

If you used the 😛 smiley instead :roll: it'd be more obvious that you were joking lol.

it was part of the joke and you're not supposed to make it so obvious otherwise it's dead.

[quote=Foysol89]Twas a joke poeple, seriously even you Billz, i expected better from you.

In all seriousness though it's great that you can admit and realize your faults but i personally don't think you should reveal your sins in this case.

Other guys may look at it and think it's acceptable or just the norm or other sisters may get the impression that all guys are the same. hence the joke.

i was supposed to sound like a girl, it was a joke but thought you may have picked up on the impression left by the comments.[/quote]

lol! u still can haha. why do u think i didnt actually make fun???? one step ahead of u there man! 😉

[quote=Jack the Ripper] EVERYTHING HE'S SAID [/quote]

Seriously, shush PLEASE! We get it. It's all about the looks yada yada yada.

Oh and FYI, yes guys in general may think things like that but an attraction point for chicks isn't how much experience the guy's had, rather how strong his self control is.

[quote=bilan]

lol! u still can haha. why do u think i didnt actually make fun???? one step ahead of u there man! ;)[/quote]

sure u are

@razor

everybody is different it's up to you to find the one that's perfect for you and you are in turn perfect for them

[quote=Foysol89]
@razor

everybody is different it's up to you to find the one that's perfect for you and you are in turn perfect for them[/quote]

Hey i agree with the everyone is different thing just not the way he goes about it!

Ahh he should watch 'Ghosts of Girlfriends Past'!

really? what would he learn from that cant remember too much abiut that film. anyways let's not judge him

yep, let's just drop the convo that isnt going anywhere.

what's the fun in that

[quote=Foysol89]what's the fun in that[/quote]

no fun, go do something thats fun and beneficial.

[quote=Lilly][quote=Foysol89]what's the fun in that[/quote]

no fun, go do something thats fun and beneficial.[/quote]

Anything fun is beneficial 😃

part 2

its just going to be a QA.

[quote=The Lamp]
Dude, you do realise that I'm a guy as well, don't you? I try not to be cheap or shallow; it's best we don't label ourselves as that otherwise we may lose the will to better ourselves. Obviously, I have to find her attractive; that's essential. But if she is good enough looking, sweet, decent, caring and compatible then it doesn't matter to me how big Katie Price's breasts are! LOL!

I'm not gonna pretend that I don't ever look at gorgeous girls; I do- guilty. I'll be the first to put my hands up for that. But I try and control myself and after marriage that's another reason to remember that there are things more important that hawking at a chick for five seconds.

I personally don't think it is wrong for a girl to expect a husband who isn't going to treat her with disrespect; so long as there's some margin for error and she makes that clear to him.

By the way; Power of Silence and Bilan- thank you people, I really appreciate that LOL! 😉
It would be kind of creepy to invite some girls I met over the Revival website to my wedding though! ;)[/quote]

Sure I realise you're a guy, why else would u be trying to impress the gals??
Good to see you admit looking at other gals, what makes you believe all that will suddenly change when you get married? From what I hear the urge only grows stronger after marriage, hence the many infidelity cases these days...

[quote=Foysol89]All you guys are just the same, so typical of you lot to dawdle at any girl you see. :roll:

JOKE[/quote]

Can't help it man, everytime I see one of those sweetie pies I just gotta rate em out of 10, nice, not so nice, sexy, not so sexy, hot body, not so hot body, overall appeal, good for night, day, week, month, year or lifetime(Still have to come across one of these), sorry...

[quote=bilan]
@Ripper: sure ur a pizza! just make sure ur the kind with everything on! cnt go wrong there u see and what do u MEAN with im on some players list???! 😂
i know ur saying tht ur not gonna get married or anything, but ull come to regret tht when ur past ur sell by date and even the tramp down the road doesnt want ya and u end up going on some lonely hearts website where u end up using a fake picture from the internet!

and im having difficulty with the male stereotype ur describing there actually...dare i believe it????[/quote]

So you want me to be a pizza with all da toppings on it, yeah u would like that, if some hairy hippo, chewed me up, and burped me out aloud!!
Better luck next time, cos this boy does'nt get eatin, he does the eatin...

I rather grow old and grey and pass my sell by date having fun than marrying some hairy hippo that has already passed hers....

Thanks for caring anyways, hey if all else fails I know where to find u!

[quote=Jack the Ripper][quote=bilan]
@Ripper: sure ur a pizza! just make sure ur the kind with everything on! cnt go wrong there u see and what do u MEAN with im on some players list???! 😂
i know ur saying tht ur not gonna get married or anything, but ull come to regret tht when ur past ur sell by date and even the tramp down the road doesnt want ya and u end up going on some lonely hearts website where u end up using a fake picture from the internet!

and im having difficulty with the male stereotype ur describing there actually...dare i believe it????[/quote]

So you want me to be a pizza with all da toppings on it, yeah u would like that, if some hairy hippo, chewed me up, and burped me out aloud!!
Better luck next time, cos this boy does'nt get eatin, he does the eatin...

I rather grow old and grey and pass my sell by date having fun than marrying some hairy hippo that has already passed hers....

Thanks for caring anyways, hey if all else fails I know where to find u![/quote]

LOL!

yes u will be doing the eating...eating ur words tht is!
would you reconsider if the 'hippo' u love referring to had excellent table manners and minimal body hair??? :p

and dnt scare me nw...id like to live to get to my sell by date if u dnt mind haha

[quote=bilan]
LOL!

yes u will be doing the eating...eating ur words tht is!
would you reconsider if the 'hippo' u love referring to had excellent table manners and minimal body hair??? :p

and dnt scare me nw...id like to live to get to my sell by date if u dnt mind haha[/quote]

Well a hippo is a hippo after all, "You can't make a silk purse out of a sows ear". I may reconsider if she was actually dashing I mean drop dead gorgeous, but u see the problem is not when u marry them it's after about 10 - 15yrs, they loose interest in themselves and you loose interest in them. They get busy doing other things, start neglecting the way they look and take their husbands for granted cos he won't or cant leave em becos of the kids or whatever. Now that is just not on, how would u feel if you bought a pair of trousers that fit nicely when you bought it, but after a while it gets all out of shape and u just can't fit into it anymore, it's so frustrating you just get rid of it...

fair enough about the woman lettin herself go. but what r YOU gonna do to ensure u dont let urself go, cos u gotta give as good as u wanna get.

and ill keep an eye out on the hippos...ever watched Madagascar btw?????

[quote=Jack the Ripper][quote=The Lamp]
Dude, you do realise that I'm a guy as well, don't you? I try not to be cheap or shallow; it's best we don't label ourselves as that otherwise we may lose the will to better ourselves. Obviously, I have to find her attractive; that's essential. But if she is good enough looking, sweet, decent, caring and compatible then it doesn't matter to me how big Katie Price's breasts are! LOL!

I'm not gonna pretend that I don't ever look at gorgeous girls; I do- guilty. I'll be the first to put my hands up for that. But I try and control myself and after marriage that's another reason to remember that there are things more important that hawking at a chick for five seconds.

I personally don't think it is wrong for a girl to expect a husband who isn't going to treat her with disrespect; so long as there's some margin for error and she makes that clear to him.

By the way; Power of Silence and Bilan- thank you people, I really appreciate that LOL! 😉
It would be kind of creepy to invite some girls I met over the Revival website to my wedding though! ;)[/quote]

Sure I realise you're a guy, why else would u be trying to impress the gals??
Good to see you admit looking at other gals, what makes you believe all that will suddenly change when you get married? From what I hear the urge only grows stronger after marriage, hence the many infidelity cases these days...[/quote]

Blimey, you're very cynical! Look, mate, I'm just trying to give a bit of hope to this world, and a bit of sincerity. I don't expect to suddenly change, but it's all about the mindset and incentive. Right now I'm not married so not truly committed to anyone is the marital or romantic sense; however, when that happens a guy has an incentive to think twice and not take his wife for granted.

You think the urge grows stronger? Can't say I'd agree; the infidelity rates don't exaclty increase as soon as the guy gets married; there was probably more infidelity going on before. You are right mate, if you mean it doesn't just go away, but like I said a healthy marriage gives you an incentive to be faithful. Some guys take it, some don't.

[quote=bilan]fair enough about the woman lettin herself go. but what r YOU gonna do to ensure u dont let urself go, cos u gotta give as good as u wanna get.

and ill keep an eye out on the hippos...ever watched Madagascar btw?????[/quote]

I thought looks did'nt matter to gals?? anyway I'm not gonna bother wit any of dat, so you looking for a hippo for your brother, how nice...

Madagascar is for kids, I think I saw parts of it, cant remember.

[quote=Jack the Ripper]

I thought looks did'nt matter to gals??[/quote]
why would you think that?

[quote=Jack the Ripper][quote=bilan]fair enough about the woman lettin herself go. but what r YOU gonna do to ensure u dont let urself go, cos u gotta give as good as u wanna get.

and ill keep an eye out on the hippos...ever watched Madagascar btw?????[/quote]

I thought looks did'nt matter to gals?? anyway I'm not gonna bother wit any of dat, so you looking for a hippo for your brother, how nice...

Madagascar is for kids, I think I saw parts of it, cant remember.[/quote]

if ur not gonna bother then why should you expect someone else to??
and u said u wouldnt mind a hippo as long as she was a looker....watch Madagascar 😉 and yes i am nice. well would u look at tht! a nice girl Jack, dont come across many of those do u????!

[quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE][quote=Jack the Ripper]

I thought looks did'nt matter to gals??[/quote]
why would you think that?[/quote]

I read someone saying they were more into the personality thingy...