Can you analyse this situation???

Isha Al-Maghribi

Ok, so I got sacked a couple of days ago and I’m not proud of it. I didn’t know what the exact purpose was, but I was very curious about it. All I remember is , I go in to work one day, and the boss is there, “so how was your holiday?”.
"It was fine, thanks".
“Did you go for any occasion?” “Yeah, a wedding”. “who’s wedding?”
“Mine”
“hahaha, you’re such a joker”
“o…kay”
“are you being serious?”
“Yes.” Then he goes all “why didn’t you tell me?” “Sorry, I didn’t really think it was relevant.”
“I’m your boss!”
“well, you didn’t ask!”
“Oh, it’s my fault now, is it. Out!”
I was shocked. “what?!”
“Go on, OUT! You don’t need to come anymore!” I still didn’t see what I did wrong. I leave.
He Didn’t even give me a reason, so I was really narked about that. I thought of writing a apology letter, but I had no idea what I was apologising for, Then, two days ago, he called me, said he ’wanted to talk’. I went. He just basically said “I’m sorry, and I’m lucky you didn’t sue me…” He just kept apologising over and over again. Asked if I wanted the job back. I said No. Then, I was about to leave and he says “I don’t want you to remove your symbol of Islam, but tell me, Are you blonde?” I reply “yes”. “He looks down and says “That explains a lot.”

I really didn’t understand what he was talking about, and then he smiles and says “Learn how to take a hint”. And, it hurt really badly, because I had no idea what he was on about. And, I’m sure he was calling me dumb. I mean, I’ve never thought I was exactly clever, but I never thought I was exactly dumb either. And if he wanted me to ’take the hint’ that he wanted to sack me so bad, he could have said. After all, he was the boss.
And, I didnt apply for the job either, The twerp saw me outside once and he asked me if i could work for him. All day, I sat there; listening about his quarrels with his Mother and how she wanted him to marry a Jewish girl, but he didnt want to, yadda,yadda,yadaa...
I didn't do anything, he didnt let me do anything.I used to listen to his problems and stuff; but thats all I did. I think that was the reason he asked me. So he could share his problems with someone and I had no problems listening to his problems.

So, I’m standing there, thinking what the hell is wrong with this man. He says “Don’t think too hard; you’re going to hurt yourself”. I just looked at him, gob-smacked. “Did you call me hear to apologise or humiliate me?” Then he says ashamedly “I’m sorry. You’re not thick as a plank, you’re innocent, you’re naive.” One minute, he’s being Mr. Mean-Guy, and then all Mr Nice-Guy. I’m about to leave, and he says “Next time , take the hint, Blondie”.

Since then, I’ve been ‘hurting myself’ by ‘thinking too hard’ about what the hell does he mean? Did he have a Jinn in him or something? Was something possessing him? It‘s like he was fighting himself. Why would he be so mean? And, then why would be all nice all of a sudden? Does anyone understand this situation?
Sorry, I wouldn;t put it on here, but I'm not planning on telling my family either, but it's eating me up inside. I wasn't a lazy assistant either; I did everything he asked me to do. So, tell me what went wrong, and what did I do for him to hate me so much.

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RI_RS — Wed, 3 Nov 2010 - 21:20

[quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE]since Admin has listened to you and decided to not lock the thread [/quote]

And Fizz![/quote]
she said it like a day later lol[/quote]

I just mean that me just saying something doesn't make it just happen.

I was offering an alternative point of view, 'Admin' would had to have AGREED, not just 'listened' to it to have gone through with it.

I'm not as powerful as you might think >.<

TPOS — Wed, 3 Nov 2010 - 21:38

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE]
[/quote]
Our names look pretty cool together 😂 😛

RI_RS — Wed, 3 Nov 2010 - 21:37

[quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE]no, not firmly[/quote]

Either do or you don't.

There's no such thing as half FREEDOM of speech. Could be wrong but I wouldn't think that if it was restricted it was free.

But I do think that as Muslims, or just normal people, we should try to be nice, or at least not unkind, to other people anyway.

TPOS — Wed, 3 Nov 2010 - 21:54

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE]no, not firmly[/quote]

Either do or you don't.

There's no such thing as half FREEDOM of speech. Could be wrong but I wouldn't think that if it was restricted it was free. [/quote]
I guess you're right,that's a no then. My idea of freedom reminds me of communism. :oops: :S :|
[quote]
But I do think that as Muslims, or just normal people, we should try to be nice, or at least not unkind, to other people anyway.[/quote]
agreed

EDIT: Islam gave people freedom of speech so who am I to deny it to anyone? (but everything comes with limits, right?) Just wish we'd all always use our brains, think, understand then speak.

RI_RS — Wed, 3 Nov 2010 - 21:54

[quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE] Islam gave people freedom of speech [/quote]

I don't know if it's true, but I remember hearing someone say "Words can take you out of the fold of Islam"

You — Wed, 3 Nov 2010 - 22:06

Words can appear to take you out of the fold of Islam, and as always, if something is infront of a judge, it is not the intention that would matter, but the action/words etc.

I don't think freedom of speech is a case of absolutes though - it needs and has limits. Even in the UK, a few EDL protests have been banned, there was a massive outcry at the Al Muhajiroon suggestion that people could protest at Wooton Basset. There was outcry when they did protest at a soldiers homecoming parade - a perfectly legitimate form of protest.

(and the cake - that woman who got convicted under terrorism related offences due to her bad poetry.)

Who decides what those limits are? that is the question.

TPOS — Wed, 3 Nov 2010 - 22:06

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE] Islam gave people freedom of speech [/quote]

I don't know if it's true, but I remember hearing someone say "Words can take you out of the fold of Islam"[/quote]
I think i've heard that hadith before, but it doesn't mean that people haven't got freedom of speech - they'd need it in order to say something out of line; hence why i said everything has a limit

Oceans (not verified) — Thu, 4 Nov 2010 - 17:57

[quote=You]Do you think she's decided to leave?[/quote]
I don't she's that sensitive. She has suffered worse...

You — Thu, 4 Nov 2010 - 17:59

Everyone has. But, the thing is she came on here to express herself more freely than she felt she could with friends/family. Get new perspectives etc.

Maybe that has been shot down now?

TPOS — Thu, 4 Nov 2010 - 18:25

[quote=You]Everyone has. But, the thing is she came on here to express herself more freely than she felt she could with friends/family. Get new perspectives etc.

Maybe that has been shot down now?[/quote]
Maybe, maybe not. Who knows.

@Ocean once you've been through a lot even the little things can hurt.

she came here to get things off her chest but that didn't work out well did it?!

Oceans (not verified) — Thu, 4 Nov 2010 - 18:16

riiiiiight

When did we start feeling sorry?

I just think she would be better being more open with her family, the people more closer to her. Clearly, being open on a forum hasn't worked, well not this forum anyway. I wonder if Isha knows of any other forums or chat rooms...

RI_RS — Fri, 5 Nov 2010 - 21:29

Every time i see the title of this post, i hear this in my head.

(Shaggy)

"Before you go let's analyse the situation
I'm a typical Jamaican
why you laying your frustration (on me)"

Truth's_Razors — Fri, 5 Nov 2010 - 21:42

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]Every time i see the title of this post, i hear this in my head.

(Shaggy)

"Before you go let's analyse the situation
I'm a typical Jamaican
why you laying your frustration (on me)"[/quote]

LOLLL

# 'When we met it was a perfect combination
But you know my reputation
don't know what you were expecting of me' #

Ah i remember this songgg

RI_RS — Fri, 5 Nov 2010 - 21:42

[quote=Truth's_Razors][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]Every time i see the title of this post, i hear this in my head.

(Shaggy)

"Before you go let's analyse the situation
I'm a typical Jamaican
why you laying your frustration (on me)"[/quote]

LOLLL

# 'When we met it was a perfect combination
But you know my reputation
don't know what you were expecting (of) me' #

=D[/quote]

Hahaa, you hear it too?!

Truth's_Razors — Fri, 5 Nov 2010 - 23:26

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=Truth's_Razors][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF]Every time i see the title of this post, i hear this in my head.

(Shaggy)

"Before you go let's analyse the situation
I'm a typical Jamaican
why you laying your frustration (on me)"[/quote]

LOLLL

# 'When we met it was a perfect combination
But you know my reputation
don't know what you were expecting (of) me' #

=D[/quote]

Hahaa, you hear it too?![/quote]

I actually only saw it after you said it!

s.b.f — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 - 12:29

[quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=s.b.f]:lol:

well these two are feeling very guilty[/quote]

:O

I have nothing to feel guilty about thank you very much -_-[/quote]

I didn't suggest you did.

Ocean wrote something about guilt.

I look further down and you and TR are off about lyrics.

It's funny!

RI_RS — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 - 12:40

[quote=s.b.f][quote=MakeMeRawr_8TeenF][quote=s.b.f]:lol:

well these two are feeling very guilty[/quote]

:O

I have nothing to feel guilty about thank you very much -_-[/quote]

I didn't suggest you did.

Ocean wrote something about guilt.

I look further down and you and TR are off about lyrics.

It's funny![/quote]

Aha, tbf i was meaning to say it for ages >.<

The song's stuck in my head again now